steelpantherrocks Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Ive posted my story many times, but this is the latest im really having a hard time understanding what to do here. we been split for 5 months 4.5 yr relationship. engaged for 2 yrs. anyways, after the split she went off did her thing partying hookingup with guys etc, we didnt have much communication other than all the nasty texts i sent her telling her she was a whore etc. 2 weeks ago we got into contact, she forgave me for the words i said to her, i forgave her for screwing guys right after we split. we were both hurt, and did some not so cool stuff to eachother.. anyway i have been this girl for prob 3 months, i like her alot but i cant stop thinking about my ex and its making it hard for me to progress this relationship. last night me and the ex talked for the first time in person since we split. she still loves me, and basically hinted towards that she wants to maybe reconcile. but.... she said shes not ready right now and she wants this time to herself. were 11 yrs difference. im 36 shes 25. she didnt really have her "time" to go party travel etc and shes using this time now to "find" herself. she swings back and forth from wanting to be with me and doent. shes scared shes going to wake up one day and ill be gone it freaks her out. anyways, im in this realtionship with this other girl, i cant help my feelings for this ex of mine, id take her back in a second but she doesnt want me to wait but yet she talks like we are going to eventually get back toether. i guess im just confused at to what to do do i break up with the current one and wait her out or just let it be.. any advice would be great. i honestly think she is going through the typical grass isnt greener senario, she told me shes been on some nasty dates etc and im sure the drinking and partying has to get old eventually.. its pretty frusterating..
jags2bowl27 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Ive posted my story many times, but this is the latest im really having a hard time understanding what to do here. we been split for 5 months 4.5 yr relationship. engaged for 2 yrs. anyways, after the split she went off did her thing partying hookingup with guys etc, we didnt have much communication other than all the nasty texts i sent her telling her she was a whore etc. 2 weeks ago we got into contact, she forgave me for the words i said to her, i forgave her for screwing guys right after we split. we were both hurt, and did some not so cool stuff to eachother.. anyway i have been this girl for prob 3 months, i like her alot but i cant stop thinking about my ex and its making it hard for me to progress this relationship. last night me and the ex talked for the first time in person since we split. she still loves me, and basically hinted towards that she wants to maybe reconcile. but.... she said shes not ready right now and she wants this time to herself. were 11 yrs difference. im 36 shes 25. she didnt really have her "time" to go party travel etc and shes using this time now to "find" herself. she swings back and forth from wanting to be with me and doent. shes scared shes going to wake up one day and ill be gone it freaks her out. anyways, im in this realtionship with this other girl, i cant help my feelings for this ex of mine, id take her back in a second but she doesnt want me to wait but yet she talks like we are going to eventually get back toether. i guess im just confused at to what to do do i break up with the current one and wait her out or just let it be.. any advice would be great. i honestly think she is going through the typical grass isnt greener senario, she told me shes been on some nasty dates etc and im sure the drinking and partying has to get old eventually.. its pretty frusterating.. Hey buddy, have you ever been to an alligator farm? If not, let me explain to you how it works. You go buy some meet and they give you a stick with a long piece of string on it with a nice shiny hook. You then dangle the meat in front of the alligator until it bites and eats it..... this is exactly what your "love of your life" is doing to you. And guess what, its exactly what my ex did to me. She came back 2 months AFTER learning about a new girl. She wrote letters, she cried, she claimed she messed up but guess what, when push came to shove she said the EXACT SAME WORDS. "I can see us back together, im just not ready yet." Its the biggest crack of bs you can get from someone you love. Let me let you in on something.... I was actually thinking just TODAY. Are you okay with another guy exploding his load all over her? As you sit there and wonder if you should wait. REALLY? have some self respect for yourself.
Author steelpantherrocks Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Hahah. Thanks. I like the way you put that. Your totally right and a little after i wrote that i sat there and thought how much of an idiot i look like. Its embarrassing to think i actually thought about ending things to wait around. Knowing her shes prob got a load on her right now. Thanks for the pep talk. I dont even know what that means though really. I love you but im just not ready. What the hell.
jags2bowl27 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Your the fall back guy and the shame of it all, she will look back ONCe YOU move on and say how much of a good guy you were to her. Let her get hurt, karma is a bitch and she will try and come back too don't bite
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