smellybelly Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Okay folks--- how do you broach Valentines Day when you're in a new relationship? Been dating this fella for a little over two months- Valentines is next week- we haven't discussed it- I don't know what he expects, he doesn't know what I expect. Do you let the man take the lead, does the woman bring it up. How do you discuss it in a fun, informal way, to get expectations, ideas about Valentines out of the way. I just want to know so if I need to get him something I'll have enough time.. 1
candie13 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 great thread, looking forward to those answers myself !
veggirl Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Just say "hey so for Vday what do you say we just get together for a nice dinner, no gifts"
ls32ssibm Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Just say "hey so for Vday what do you say we just get together for a nice dinner, no gifts" Say no gifts but at least get flowers or a rose.
candie13 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 you suggest she gets the guy flowers or roses?
curlygirl40 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 In the early stages, I would go with a gift that is inexpensive but that means something. Like dip strawberries in chocolate for him, or bake him his favorite cookies. Maybe find something that you know he likes (M&M's??) and put them in a coffee cup of his favorite sports team. Something inexpensive (this way if he doesn't reciprocate you're not making him feel bad, or making him think you are in a different 'place' than he is with the relationship, let's say) but yet something that shows you put some thought into it. His favorite coffee. A hat with his favorite team. Something that shows you've been paying attention to him and what he likes, and that you put some thought into it without going too overboard. Or how about some cologne that he wears, then you can joke that it was kind of for you also. Just a suggestion. I would want him to be the one to say 'hey, let's do dinner' or something like that. But be prepared with a cute gift for him. 2
TheGuard13 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 It's freaking Valentine's Day. Be a sport about it. Your Valentine is your Valentine, whether you're married or in elementary school. You get them a gift of some kind and you treat them nicely. 2
veggirl Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 If you don't wanna say "lets just get dinner" or whatever then how about "hey, come over for Vday, I'll cook you a nice dinner" 1
sillyanswer Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 New relationship... so have a non-romantic (sorry) chat along the lines of "what are we doing for Valentine's Day?" and then if you stupidly end up agreeing to "no gifts" you should ignore what you agreed to. Everyone loves chocolate. 1
Feelin Frisky Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Well, smellybelly, I think washing out your naval will be gift enough. But in all seriousness, the guy doesn't expect some kind of frilly token gift for Valentines day. He gives her the frilly token gift and hopes for at least a girly reaction of delight and a good kiss. Done. 1
Author smellybelly Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 Well, smellybelly, I think washing out your naval will be gift enough. But in all seriousness, the guy doesn't expect some kind of frilly token gift for Valentines day. He gives her the frilly token gift and hopes for at least a girly reaction of delight and a good kiss. Done. ...So I should just sit back and see.... I have a cute card and will pick up his favourite treats.. but the real question is do you talk about it before hand.. or do you just hope they do something romantic? Aaaahhhh the joys of new relationships!
candie13 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 *we're in sync, this girl is reading my mind* 1
Fondue Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I'm eager to also find out what others think about V-day and new relationships/dates. Like, for some of us who have been talking to a few girls, maybe going to a few dinners, what is expected for V-Day? I would like to avoid it in total, but I am stupid to think that the lady friends would want to avoid it as well. If I met with them twice, do I try to go for a v-day thing, or do I wait until right before or right after to make the next date. This is a very rough area, I think. You might come on too strong if you ask for a v-day date, but you also might look like you're not interested if you avoid it. I don't understand why we make a holiday of this, hahahhaa.
candie13 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 totally! I'm NOT saying anything. ZERO. St Valentine's Day? Who, where, me? no way! that's me, in full denial !
Author smellybelly Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 I'm eager to also find out what others think about V-day and new relationships/dates. Like, for some of us who have been talking to a few girls, maybe going to a few dinners, what is expected for V-Day? I would like to avoid it in total, but I am stupid to think that the lady friends would want to avoid it as well. If I met with them twice, do I try to go for a v-day thing, or do I wait until right before or right after to make the next date. This is a very rough area, I think. You might come on too strong if you ask for a v-day date, but you also might look like you're not interested if you avoid it. I don't understand why we make a holiday of this, hahahhaa. If you're not exclusive with any of them and aren't quite sure./ they are all substantially new.. I would be sure to send them each a sweet but fun Valentines greeting via text or email at the very least. At least that's what I would want if I was just in the beginning stages of meeting someone.
TheFinalWord Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Okay folks--- how do you broach Valentines Day when you're in a new relationship? Been dating this fella for a little over two months- Valentines is next week- we haven't discussed it- I don't know what he expects, he doesn't know what I expect. Do you let the man take the lead, does the woman bring it up. How do you discuss it in a fun, informal way, to get expectations, ideas about Valentines out of the way. I just want to know so if I need to get him something I'll have enough time.. Just my 2 cents: Send him a V-day card in the mail Just about how you have enjoyed getting to know him and some nice quality he has that you appreciate. If you're really feeling it, maybe with some candy. I like getting stuff in the mail; it's old school romance. Maybe send it a few days early if you want to give him a "hint" to have a V-day date (some guys are slow haha). Please don't be that little red hair girl
soccerrprp Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I've been dating a lovely lady for about a month now and no gifts. I am going to cook for her at my place, candles, movie, bubble bath and then get intimate surrounded by more candles (we've been since the beginning). She's excited about the plans and so am I, but we've agreed no gifts.
candie13 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 that is sooo sweet! just one flower! one flower is not a gift, but it shows attention... and it guarantees a lot of waves in that bubble bath of yours !
soccerrprp Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 that is sooo sweet! just one flower! one flower is not a gift, but it shows attention... and it guarantees a lot of waves in that bubble bath of yours ! Okay, okay, I lied. I'm also sending a dozen roses to her work on that day! But I really believe the guy should take the initiative and lead on this day...just my thought. I'm not expecting anything from her but her company and believe me that is MORE than enough! 1
candie13 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 *if everthing goes tits up, think Anti-Valentines party, Anti-Valentines singles party, Anti-Valentines singles party and lots of cocktails *
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