GF not taking care of me the one time I get sick

[candie13]

if he says he loves me and we're intimate, I expect him to step up to the plate, when I'm sick. it all depends how long you've been dating, but in my book, major red flag.

 

One shouldn't have all the benefits and none of the responsibilities

[candie13]

OK, let's take the sick part out of it. He longed for her company. She already had plans with her friends.

 

People are allowed to live their lives.

 

I remember a night when I was puking every couple of hours. I kept away from my boyfriend so I wouldn't bother him with it.

 

What would this guy do if he didn't have a girlfriend? Oh, that's right...he'd have to take care of himself anyway.

 

It's just part of being an adult. If you're really sick with something that's highly contagious, keep it to yourself. If you honestly can't look after yourself, go to the hospital.

 

No, girl, I disagree. If you're as sick as a dog, he should at least make sure you got food and fresh supply of water in your house. Come to check up on you. Air the room. Make tea. That's why you're in a relationship, because you care. Otherwise, it's just FWB. And even FWB should at least like each other...

[Almond_Joy]

Expecting someone that says they love and care about you to at least **try** and accommodate your physical or emotional needs is not unreasonable. If he can't have that expectation of a partner he might as well be alone.

 

If the girl truly can't be bothered to see her boyfriend when he says he misses her and would like to see her, she doesn't need to be in a relationship.

 

Seriously? I could see if the OP was like, "Don't come over, I'll be fine.". Or if he asks her to come over ALL the time. But this.....damn.

 

 

She could have at least dropped off some food and medicine. I've got regular friends that offer to do this for me, even if I don't ask. At the least it's a gesture of concern and affection. I don't know anyone that doesn't appreciate such a gesture.

 

Also, I don't think she would have collapsed with the virus because she breathed the same air as him for 10 minutes. And she still would have had time to go see her friends. She was making excuses because she doesn't think OP's worth the effort.

[add2718]

I guess I expect too much from a relationship. Unfortunately I don't have much experience to go on. I just remember once last summer when she was really sick I just instinctively went over her place to check on her. I should have just let her be and not made a big deal out of it. The relationship does feel pretty one-sided so I guess that's something we should work on.

[BehindBlueEyes]

get this.... An attractive girl last night here in Arbys was talking to me about her husband getting surgery done to his back, from a military training accident and putting some cage in his back around the spine. He was in bad pain a few nights ago and she held him up between her legs on the bed an entire night, comforting him. She was explaining why she was so dragged out ATM...she didn't sleep.

 

So yes...if your S.O is hurt or sick, you damn well be there for them IMO. If I loved a girl like I crushed on that one recently...I'd be there....no questions.

 

I can see your dilemma, OP....it is insulting to you...I get it.

[BehindBlueEyes]

OK, let's take the sick part out of it. He longed for her company. She already had plans with her friends.

 

People are allowed to live their lives.

 

I remember a night when I was puking every couple of hours. I kept away from my boyfriend so I wouldn't bother him with it.

 

What would this guy do if he didn't have a girlfriend? Oh, that's right...he'd have to take care of himself anyway.

 

It's just part of being an adult. If you're really sick with something that's highly contagious, keep it to yourself. If you honestly can't look after yourself, go to the hospital.

 

he just wanted her to give a **** a little bit....not totally become a nurse at his side 24/7..... To come over, cover him up, make a soup...something.