Halle Posted August 28, 2004 Posted August 28, 2004 I have a little dilemma on my hands. I have dated this guy, who I met through a best friend, and he is really into me, but I don't exactly feel the same for him. Instead, I am really attracted to his best friend and I think he feels the same way for me. I seem to have more chemistry with him. I've only been out a few times with this guy I am uninterested in and I am thinking of just straight out telling him the truth, but I think it would be too hurtful to come right out and say, "I like your best friend more than you". Then, it would be awkward if I was dating his friend because he would probably be around a lot and plus, I don't want to ruin their friendship, but I really like this other guy. I haven't told any of my friends about this yet. I am thinking that maybe I should just tell this guy that I don't feel a chemistry between him without mentioning anything about his friend and take it from there. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.
ShinyDome Posted August 28, 2004 Posted August 28, 2004 Honestly, If i was dating a girl that wasnt interested in me the way i was interested in her, I would be appreciative if she told me straight up...It would save alot of time and energy...And I know from personal experience, if he likes you alot, everyday that passes he'll like you more. It will only get more hurtful to him if you let it go on. Now the thing about telling him about how you feel about his friend...thats a tough one... My personal feeling on it would depend on how much the guy that likes you likes you. If he cares about you enough that he just wants you to be happy, then telling him would upset him, but the honesty and the fact that you would be happy would be enough for him to be happy. Heck, if you could, approach the guy you like in private and be straight forward with him...see if he feels the same way about you first, before you bring it up to the guy that likes you.
insearchofanswers Posted August 28, 2004 Posted August 28, 2004 Honesty would certainly be the best policy here BUT .... choose your words carefully as they may have been friends long before you came along.
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