That feeling of never meeting someone as pretty/clever/good in bed as your ex

[GlassesSeventy]

I despise that feeling, because, at the age of 28, I know it's not even true. There WILL be others, it's just a case of getting 'out there' and finding them. Please tell me I'm not alone, that it's a normal thing to be feeling right now??

[Keenly]

Its normal... I'm going through the same thing. For me its Judy finding a girl that thinks I am as hot as my ex thought I was. Feeling attractive made me feel good, which I was able to flip around to her direction.

 

Now I just see overall lack of caring or excitement in the conversations I have and it makes me a sad panda.

[GlassesSeventy]

Its normal... I'm going through the same thing. For me its Judy finding a girl that thinks I am as hot as my ex thought I was. Feeling attractive made me feel good, which I was able to flip around to her direction.

 

Now I just see overall lack of caring or excitement in the conversations I have and it makes me a sad panda.

 

You still talk to your ex?

[StraylightRun24]

You're not alone GlassesSeventy. I'm in the same boat as you even down to our age! You're right that it's an irrational thought and it's because we are both putting our ex's on that imaginary pedestal. Don't get me wrong my ex was cute as hell, extremely intelligent, and a blast in the bedroom, BUT there are billions (LITERALLY!) of other girls out there that are also: D) All Of The Above.

 

One thing that helps me a little is when those irrational thoughts creep in my mind I actually think of the girls before my ex came into the picture and realize she actually wasn't the prettiest, cleverest, or best in bed I've ever been involved with/or liked. I guess it's a little weird but it works for me....