Starsinthesky Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Hello. I've come on here to try and get some sanity back. I can't eat I can't sleep I can't speak to anybody. I've spent the past 2 and half days sobbing my heart out. Now to the point! Me and my boyfriend had been together coming up to a year in a couple weeks time. We met out of the blue and hit it off instantly, I still think back and smile about that night, it gives me a happy feeling inside even now, we were two old friends right from the start we were never strangers. I know we love each other deeply. We've never done anything to hurt each other such as cheating or trying to make each other jealous nothing intentional at all. Yet there's been times when we've fallen out about the little things and everytime we do it causes each of us to go through pain. He did something that upset me Sunday night, I know now he didn't do it to upset me he thought I was perfectly happy with the situation, but I wasn't and I wish with all my heart I could go back and express my feelings instead of assuming he didn't care about me and feeling so hurt. I got home on Sunday and text him this text. It's the stupidest thing I have ever done and I am going to regret it forever. I'm not a drama queen or anything like that, I'm normally so level headed and do anything to keep the peace and avoid confrontation. I text him this: I don't want to be together anymore, I'm sorry but I think it's what you want too isn't it. I never meant it at all and I've told him over and over. We've been talking all day the past two days. I can't say it's nice conversations because it's not. He says that I've hurt him and I know I have. I hate myself for it and explained to h endlessly what he means to me and why I said it and that I never meant. I know he's angry at me, understandably. Ives been fighting for him so hard. He just keeps saying he can't go through this again. Or that well just fall out again next week and cause each other more pain. I said to him tell me you dont love me and tell me you won't look back and wonder what if then I will leave you alone. He text back he can't say that but he's not prepared to go through all this again. We love each other so much. There's got to be a way to make him see that our love is worth more than the fear of more pain?! I know he just doesn't want to be hurt, but I would never hurt him again. Thank you for reading.
Dan08 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Hello. I've come on here to try and get some sanity back. I can't eat I can't sleep I can't speak to anybody. I've spent the past 2 and half days sobbing my heart out. Now to the point! Me and my boyfriend had been together coming up to a year in a couple weeks time. We met out of the blue and hit it off instantly, I still think back and smile about that night, it gives me a happy feeling inside even now, we were two old friends right from the start we were never strangers. I know we love each other deeply. We've never done anything to hurt each other such as cheating or trying to make each other jealous nothing intentional at all. Yet there's been times when we've fallen out about the little things and everytime we do it causes each of us to go through pain. He did something that upset me Sunday night, I know now he didn't do it to upset me he thought I was perfectly happy with the situation, but I wasn't and I wish with all my heart I could go back and express my feelings instead of assuming he didn't care about me and feeling so hurt. I got home on Sunday and text him this text. It's the stupidest thing I have ever done and I am going to regret it forever. I'm not a drama queen or anything like that, I'm normally so level headed and do anything to keep the peace and avoid confrontation. I text him this: I don't want to be together anymore, I'm sorry but I think it's what you want too isn't it. I never meant it at all and I've told him over and over. We've been talking all day the past two days. I can't say it's nice conversations because it's not. He says that I've hurt him and I know I have. I hate myself for it and explained to h endlessly what he means to me and why I said it and that I never meant. I know he's angry at me, understandably. Ives been fighting for him so hard. He just keeps saying he can't go through this again. Or that well just fall out again next week and cause each other more pain. I said to him tell me you dont love me and tell me you won't look back and wonder what if then I will leave you alone. He text back he can't say that but he's not prepared to go through all this again. We love each other so much. There's got to be a way to make him see that our love is worth more than the fear of more pain?! I know he just doesn't want to be hurt, but I would never hurt him again. Thank you for reading. Hey Stars, from reading this I think you have to see him face to face and tell him exactly this but on a personal level. You can't do anything more than reiterate your feelings for this guy, he is understandably hurt that you ended it and now he's probably confused at how quickly you've changed your mind so he's now thinking, if the sh*t hits the fan again what's stopping her doing it to me again? That's his train of thought right now, he obviously still loves you deeply so it's not a hopeless case and be all end all so you just really have to show him your love for him, show him the girl he fell in love with all that time ago and show that you are still that girl for him. But part of you has to realise that it's now all down to him, you may have to shape up to the realisation that he really doesn't want it again and if that's the case somewhere down the line after trying this then I'm very sorry for you. All the best Stars, hope it works out.
Ladybugz Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 you dont know each other long. and your honey moon period is over now you can see clearly and both will start annoy each other. so its time to break up cause its clearly you are not made for each other.
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