Eternal Sunshine Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Forget the rest and go for the best: E-Harmony. If you are serious about looking for a relationship that is. I am not ready for one and this only highlighted the fact of how much I want to be single. It's one of the most expensive sites out there and that means that are very, very few time wasters or even casual sex guys. Here are few facts from my month on E-harmony: - I got zero sexual messages - All guys that contacted me had their lives together: stable work, not living with the parents, hobbies, well rounded lives. Most had at least college education. - All guys took an effort to read my profile carefully and compose lengthy, specific messages to me. - All wanted to talk on the phone before meeting (unlike ready, set, meet on other sites). - ALL were upfront about looking for commitment and serious relationship. - Most were WAY better looking than on other sites. - More than half were not religious at all (if you are worried that E-Harmony is for hard core religious people). So like with most things in life, you get what you pay for. I will definitely be going back to it once I am ready for a relationship.
mesmerized Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Interesting, I think it all is related to luck too. A friend of mine was on eHarmony for a few months and didn't find anyone she liked...The first guy she met through POF is now her husband. 2
SmileFace Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I think it they all seems so perfect since you aren't looking for a relationship. Life is just ****ed up that way.
SmileFace Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I always find it funny how women always focus so much on a man's job, status or position in life. Its more proof of everything women like to deny about themselves. Men will say stuff like: -She is pretty -She is really nice -She is caring -She has a great sense of humor Women will say stuff like: -He isn't all about sex -He has a job -He has his own place -He is ambitious When it comes to serious relationships.. all women want ATM's and work horses. Let me explain... The woman pulling 100K will need a man making 200-300K to make her feel like she landed a prize...sure there are plenty of doctors married to doctors and PHDs with PHDs but these are loveless/sexless unions based on communistic BS...this is why a Jennifer Aniston can't really settle.. she was with Brad Pitt he dumped her...she needs another man of his status. Hollywood has many dudes who want to marry (need a beard) but she has waited and only marries again now that she is nearing the wall...which plastic surgery has delayed. "Insert reply that will get me stuck in moderation again" 4
ltjg45 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Would it be crazy for me to say that there is far more women there than men on that site? 1
mesmerized Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Would it be crazy for me to say that there is far more women there than men on that site? No, it's a fact that there is.
SmileFace Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Awww... U mad? No .... not at all but I want to keep my fitness thread updated so I will play nice. 1
johan Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I always find it funny how women always focus so much on a man's job, status or position in life. Its more proof of everything women like to deny about themselves. Men will say stuff like: -She is pretty -She is really nice -She is caring -She has a great sense of humor Women will say stuff like: -He isn't all about sex -He has a job -He has his own place -He is ambitious When it comes to serious relationships.. all women want ATM's and work horses. Let me explain... The woman pulling 100K will need a man making 200-300K to make her feel like she landed a prize...etc. What a drag it must be for guys who don't have those things to offer. They have to rely on their personalities, which on average aren't any better than the guys who have status. 3
Imported Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 OP, when was the last time you had a date that didn't involve the internet?
ltjg45 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Seriously, this bar is too high for you?? Nobody said anything about, "He's a billionaire," or, "He's a neurosurgeon;" it's a job--ANY job!!--and not living with your parents! Anyone over 23 ought to be able to jump this hurdle with no problem. You need to pay attention to the shrinking economy some more. That is not as easy of a hurdle to get over as it was in the past. These days, you have to fight for an entry-level job.
suladas Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Eharmony is ok. Tons of women there, but few i've had any interest in, not to sound shallow but looks wise it's the biggest hurdle I find there. Plenty of them with good jobs, hobbies, etc but few i'm attracted to. Although it's pretty cool to have women starting contact with you a decent amount.
ls32ssibm Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I always find it funny how women always focus so much on a man's job, status or position in life. Its more proof of everything women like to deny about themselves. Men will say stuff like: -She is pretty -She is really nice -She is caring -She has a great sense of humor Women will say stuff like: -He isn't all about sex -He has a job -He has his own place -He is ambitious When it comes to serious relationships.. all women want ATM's and work horses. Let me explain... The woman pulling 100K will need a man making 200-300K to make her feel like she landed a prize...sure there are plenty of doctors married to doctors and PHDs with PHDs but these are loveless/sexless unions based on communistic BS...this is why a Jennifer Aniston can't really settle.. she was with Brad Pitt he dumped her...she needs another man of his status. Hollywood has many dudes who want to marry (need a beard) but she has waited and only marries again now that she is nearing the wall...which plastic surgery has delayed. Welcome to biology. Girls are desired for the fun bags and not being a complete b****, guys are desired for the thick wallet. OP, Eharmony is okay until the well dries up. I paid for a month a little while back, and got a few okay matches that didn't go anywhere but the last 2-3 weeks I literally got one match every few days and most of them were not active profiles, had no picture or were physically repulsive (sorry, the truth).
suladas Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Welcome to biology. Girls are desired for the fun bags and not being a complete b****, guys are desired for the thick wallet. OP, Eharmony is okay until the well dries up. I paid for a month a little while back, and got a few okay matches that didn't go anywhere but the last 2-3 weeks I literally got one match every few days and most of them were not active profiles, had no picture or were physically repulsive (sorry, the truth). That's weird, i've been on eharmony for months and I get an average of 3-4 every single day. 1
kaylan Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Why is OP even on that site if she doesnt want a relationship? Why waste dudes time? Also, youre not looking for a relationship? Yet dont I usually see you lament the fact that you cant find a guy youre compatible with at your age? Arent you still trying to have a family? Yet you dont want a relationship? Are you the resident "foreveralone" chick now? Because as much as Id like to see you finally find someone whos right for you, your words and actions dont seem to match up often. Or maybe I dont pay attention to you enough. Prolly the later. *shrug*
kaylan Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Welcome to biology. Girls are desired for the fun bags and not being a complete b****, guys are desired for the thick wallet. OP, Eharmony is okay until the well dries up. I paid for a month a little while back, and got a few okay matches that didn't go anywhere but the last 2-3 weeks I literally got one match every few days and most of them were not active profiles, had no picture or were physically repulsive (sorry, the truth). Damn. I feel bad for many guys here. Apparently many of you have never had a girl desire you solely for your sex appeal and personality. 2
Emilia Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 You miss the point. I'm saying women care about a lot of things that have nothing to do with the actual man... but rather his utility and ability to provide. This is where men and women are different. Men don't need a woman to give him anything outside of her body and commitment. Women need OUTSIDE things from a man. The man alone is not enough. I think what a man makes of himself is pretty much part of who he is. I understand what you are saying but it is also true that a man's social status is a good indicator of whether he is smart, intelligent, disciplined or whether he is a layabout dope smoker. There is nothing wrong with that. My issue has always been the fact that women deny their true natures. They pretend to care more about love, feelings, etc. But all they really want is status and an ATM.. even if that ATM only has 20 bucks. As long as that 20 bucks can be spent on HER. A lot of guys are after status too it's just that they measure it differently. You could argue by the same token that men are shallow because they care whether women are fat or not, while I think it's only partly about looks and that it is also about a judgement on a woman's character. It depends on how much you wish to twist other people's intentions I suppose. 2
pbjbear Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I always find it funny how women always focus so much on a man's job, status or position in life. Its more proof of everything women like to deny about themselves. Men will say stuff like: -She is pretty -She is really nice -She is caring -She has a great sense of humor Women will say stuff like: -He isn't all about sex -He has a job -He has his own place -He is ambitious When it comes to serious relationships.. all women want ATM's and work horses. Let me explain... The woman pulling 100K will need a man making 200-300K to make her feel like she landed a prize...sure there are plenty of doctors married to doctors and PHDs with PHDs but these are loveless/sexless unions based on communistic BS...this is why a Jennifer Aniston can't really settle.. she was with Brad Pitt he dumped her...she needs another man of his status. Hollywood has many dudes who want to marry (need a beard) but she has waited and only marries again now that she is nearing the wall...which plastic surgery has delayed. I cannot take your posts seriously considering the way you see women as disposable sex objects and you are so focused on the appearances of women. Shallow men like you deserve a shallow woman like you described One thing Ive always noticed about OLD is every single time a guy complains about it, he is bitching about looks. "There are no cute girls on OLD" "Not many Im attracted to" I have only met ONE guy that commented about girls online for something other than their looks. Men are so freaking shallow, I am so happy I am single even though I get told I am an 8 by men. Most women I hear that use OLD complain about the behavior and personalities of men they meet off of there... 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I have never understood why it would be hard for women to do OLD. I'm not saying it isn't hard, I'm just saying I don't understand why it would be. The biggest complaint I always here is that guys always have pictures of themselves standing in a mirror with their shirts off, guys will write very sexual messages, or will write messages that do not suggest that they had read her profile. I don't do any of those things and my reply rate is like 2% and I almost never get a first message from a woman. There have to be more men like me on these sites who get ignored entirely despite being half decent people. I just don't understand what's so hard about being a woman on OLD.
Emilia Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I just don't understand what's so hard about being a woman on OLD. Because usually the quality of guys is very low.
Anela Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 E-Harmony told me that I couldn't be matched, when I took their test at the age of 29. I was only taking the test at the time, and not looking for anyone, but it still surprised me.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Because usually the quality of guys is very low. Wouldn't it follow that the quality of women on those sites would be pretty low too? And besides, while I wouldn't say I'm "high quality" I'm decent quality (which is better than "low quality") and yet I get no replies. Maybe women are overlooking the good ones and only looking at the bad ones.
Emilia Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Wouldn't it follow that the quality of women on those sites would be pretty low too? And besides, while I wouldn't say I'm "high quality" I'm decent quality (which is better than "low quality") and yet I get no replies. Maybe women are overlooking the good ones and only looking at the bad ones. Quite possibly. I don't date women so I don't know. By low quality I mean married guys who are looking for a bit on the side, those that only want casual sex and the socially really awkward ones. Of course there are good people too. Unfortunately your presence will be overshadowed by the pervy guys 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Quite possibly. I don't date women so I don't know. By low quality I mean married guys who are looking for a bit on the side, those that only want casual sex and the socially really awkward ones. Of course there are good people too. Unfortunately your presence will be overshadowed by the pervy guys I don't know. I guess I'd rather have to sift through a bunch of bad messages/profiles than message a bunch of people and hope my message gets noticed in the clutter.
Anela Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I don't know. I guess I'd rather have to sift through a bunch of bad messages/profiles than message a bunch of people and hope my message gets noticed in the clutter. It gets depressing after a while. It really got to me when I logged into POF and found that I'd been favourited by a 62 year old man (just a few years younger than my dad). I was 36 at the time. 1
Emilia Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I don't know. I guess I'd rather have to sift through a bunch of bad messages/profiles than message a bunch of people and hope my message gets noticed in the clutter. It gets disheartening. I know it doesn't seem like it for you but it gets a bit much when you receive a new message and you just think 'please let it be someone great, please let it be someone great, please let it be someone great... ah, it's a creep' I used to think like you and used to word my profile in a way that would allow me to cast my net wide and encourage guys to contact me... until I realised quality control was key Once I got more specific with my profile, contact dropped Especially once I stopped showing skin (not that I showed that much in the first place anyway) 1
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