zcolman Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 So I was just wondering everyones thoughts. What is a good time period before a couple or lets say the dumper decides to give it another chance. Whats too long or too short?
todreaminblue Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 So I was just wondering everyones thoughts. What is a good time period before a couple or lets say the dumper decides to give it another chance. Whats too long or too short? nothing is impossible ..however.....the longer it goes the harder it gets .....deb
Asda Posted February 13, 2013 Posted February 13, 2013 These advices here is like a dust into your eyes, no one knows your situation. Depends on many factors, you have to know your partner very well for making things right. I think everything that goes over a year it is serious brake up with a lot of stress for person to recover.Anyway if someone is trying to get back is a good sign, rule it out proper way, you have 50/50 and this is hight enough possibility to get back together.
LILLY_LOUISE Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 it depends on the situation.... i know people that have been apart for 2 years before trying again, even dating others in the time they were apart. if its true love then it will happen no matter how far down the track.... only advice would be to have some contact with the other person, so you dont drift away from eachother and get use to living apart.
Ladybugz Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 its up to both of you. but i really get the impression that 1 of the 10 really got back for the right reason and cause it was love. i think most people just keep hanging on exes and often they get back while noting has change. the reason they broke up still there, they still do the same mistakes etc. so at the end they lose more time that they could use to work on themselves and meet other people.
Author zcolman Posted February 15, 2013 Author Posted February 15, 2013 I agree, I am doing my best to do my growth for myself. I will never give up(keep some sort of contact) not needy contact. But I know the only way to start things fresh with an ex is to work on yourself, try new things and get that confidence back that they first fell for. I think if it wasn't abuse or cheating that making them feel attracted to you again and fixing your problems patiently is key no matter what happens.
Ladybugz Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 it takes 2 to go tango. and it need more then just then attraction i think.you know
Nyla Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 So I was just wondering everyones thoughts. What is a good time period before a couple or lets say the dumper decides to give it another chance. Whats too long or too short? My husband once dumped me for less than 48 hours when we were dating. Yeah, you read that right. I took him back because he was such a silly cutie. It really depends on the situation and whether or not there has been a change in the circumstances which caused the break up in the first place.
marklarsson Posted February 15, 2013 Posted February 15, 2013 if the person is having GIGS, the time frame may be a bit shorter before they come back because they may have gotten into a relationship too fast. but yes it takes two to tango who wants to force someone to take them back. you can make it clear you want it back, if you want you can do certain thibgs to show you want them back. dont chase for ever there has to be a point you stop and literally just leave them to it. but reconciliation i think happens alot, if the couple last after that depends on if they have both sorted out their issues that lead to the break up. even a Dumper contributed to the break up too. no blame if on on person in most sitautions anyway
lullaby Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 It takes two for that indeed. And like they all said, it depends on the type of relationship, how it ended, which were the reasons for having a break up, etc. Because it's not the same to get back with someone who cheated on you, there you have to be sure you don't hold any grudge towards that person, and feel you have forgiven him, otherwise, that feeling will come back eventually. Some other times, it's all about timing, it just didn't work at that time but not because there was no love or no compatibility, and there may be a chance for ti work out this next time. There are many reasons to end a relationship, and I think it all comes down to it. If both parts worked on their mistakes, learnt from them, if they recovered, and they still feel they love the other person I don't see why you can't give it a second chance.
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