Guys would you be turned off if a woman revealed this fact about herself?

[Leigh 87]

Me or my friends would not settle for anyone who has been doing casual sex (ever) doesn't matter your age... I thought that was a clear point so far!

 

 

 

Your weird then. It is very strange to rule a person out at age 30, for what they did when they were say, 14 or 15.

 

Highly, highly unusual.

 

MOST normal people do not care what people do 17 years in the past!

 

 

Are you religious?

 

Can you tell me why what someone did as a teenager, makes them unworthy of you as a 30 year old?

[Drseussgrrl]

Your weird then. It is very strange to rule a person out at age 30, for what they did when they were say, 14 or 15.

 

Highly, highly unusual.

 

MOST normal people do not care what people do 17 years in the past!

 

 

Are you religious?

 

Can you tell me why what someone did as a teenager, makes them unworthy of you as a 30 year old?

 

Wait this guy is 30? I thought he was about 14.

[Leigh 87]

Well me or my friends would not settle for people who are as crazily judgmental as you!

 

 

We look down on people like you, who judge people on what they did 16, 20, or 30 years ago:lmao::lmao:

 

 

To be honest, we find it plain stupid to judge someone on what they did years and years ago.

 

 

Your view would make us laugh.

 

 

It really is very odd, for you to get to say, age 40, and to ask a women " so, tell me about your sexual past" and to then rule a 40 year old out, due to what they did when she was 15 or 16:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

[animalover]

Your weird then. It is very strange to rule a person out at age 30, for what they did when they were say, 14 or 15.

 

Highly, highly unusual.

 

MOST normal people do not care what people do 17 years in the past!

 

 

Are you religious?

 

Can you tell me why what someone did as a teenager, makes them unworthy of you as a 30 year old?

 

I am not religious at all... I am agnostic... it does not have anything to do with that...

 

I am just a normal guy, who likes to feel important when a woman decide to sleep with me.... why is it special... because she was not doing it with anyone she was not totally in love with before than me.... I would not settle for less because it is also what I offer...

 

I don't even think it is odd at all... I am from Europe... maybe that makes a difference but here my way of looking at sex is very common...

 

Fortunatelly fwb and ons are not something that happen that often around the place where I live... still happening but it is pretty uncommon... and I am 27 years old by the way.

[animalover]

Well me or my friends would not settle for people who are as crazily judgmental as you!

 

 

We look down on people like you, who judge people on what they did 16, 20, or 30 years ago:lmao::lmao:

 

 

To be honest, we find it plain stupid to judge someone on what they did years and years ago.

 

 

Your view would make us laugh.

 

 

It really is very odd, for you to get to say, age 40, and to ask a women " so, tell me about your sexual past" and to then rule a 40 year old out, due to what they did when she was 15 or 16:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Ok, first, I don't judge anyone for what you do... I said it before.. I don't care... I would only judge a woman based on sexuality if she would be interested on having a relationship with me... and yes.. I am judgmental... we all are... you are being judgmental by calling me judgmental... so please stop that nonsense!

 

Regarding the 15-16 age range...for you everything that a person with 15-16 years old do should not count? I am sorry if you took made some bad choices at 15 -16 but for many people that would still count...

 

I can't give a dam if you or your girlfriends would not want to date me or my friends... as I told you before... I don't know you in real life... I will never probably know you .... I don't care.... and as stated before... it would be then a great thing you don't want to date us because the feeling is totally reciprocal!

[Leigh 87]

I Know people from all races religions and countries actually.

 

 

Not a single guy would even ask a women in her late 20's and older, what she did as a 16 year old.

 

 

It is just not relevent to 99% of people.

 

 

No European men I know would not date me cos of what I did at age 16.

 

 

You and your mates are the only ones I have heard of.

 

 

 

I am just telling you this for your own good - it is not a normal way to think, to think of what a 30 or 40 year old women did, when she was 15, for instance.

 

 

......NO 30 or 40 year old women would even think about divulging what they did as a 15 year old. It is too weird.

[Swansea]

It's just some things that are better left unsaid like

 

1. If you had a FWB

 

2. Multiple One Night stands

 

3. Number of sexual partners

Not really, if you do this, then you would live in a world of lies.

[Leigh 87]

Of course the men you are talkign about wouldn't ask you because all they are interested in is having sex with you, not a serious relationship. They know better than to ask you something you might perceive as offensive because you are oversensitive to your sexual past; why would they do anything to cockblock themselves?

 

 

 

I have hundreds of guys every interested me in a year.

 

I have a lot of men want serious relationships with me.

 

I have to actually stop being friends with a lot of guys who want to get into a serious relationship with me, because I have a boyfriend.

 

 

 

So..... I am 26; what I did when I was 16 has no influence over what men think of me.

 

 

In fact, animallover and his mates are highly unusual, because MOST MEN would not care what a 26 year old women did when she was 15/16.

[Swansea]

I Know people from all races religions and countries actually.

 

 

Not a single guy would even ask a women in her late 20's and older, what she did as a 16 year old.

 

 

It is just not relevent to 99% of people.

 

 

No European men I know would not date me cos of what I did at age 16.

 

 

You and your mates are the only ones I have heard of.

 

 

 

I am just telling you this for your own good - it is not a normal way to think, to think of what a 30 or 40 year old women did, when she was 15, for instance.

 

 

......NO 30 or 40 year old women would even think about divulging what they did as a 15 year old. It is too weird.

 

The guy who you are debating with is probably just insecure in a variety of ways, and has a variety of expectations supported by such insecurities.

 

If i were in a relationship, i would try to create an atmosphere where we are so open to talking to each other about almost anything, that info about the past you might find relevant could be shared and discussed...

 

If you were to tell me that you slept around 10 years ago, of course for some people it might create idea, and representations, but if your partner knows you well, they will decide if they even find that relevant anymore, considering who you are today...

[Leigh 87]

and lol, I have slept with 3 men in 10 years, so ALL the guys around me know that I do not sleep around......

 

 

 

I have not had a single guy want to just hook up with me in the past 3 years.

 

Do you know why? Well, I do not give off the vibe that I am not serious relationship material.

 

Frankly, men around me feel that I am a relationship orientated girl, and they have enver once asked to hook up, because they know I DO NOT readily jump into bed with men!

[Leigh 87]

"Insecure" is a woman who has to proclaim how she has "hundreds" of men attracted to her.

 

Next lesson?

 

 

 

I am just being honest.

 

 

I am not that attractive, I have a sort of big nose.

 

 

I am cute/average and I know that most girls who are a 6/10 what I consider myself to be, can get as many guys as they want.

 

 

Seriously. I have a nice personality that a lot of guys like.

 

 

.....HOw is it being insecure? I am literally stating the facts of my life to you.

[Leigh 87]

Do you see what you just did?

 

First, you claim that the past sexual history doesn't matter....but, you reverse yourself and now proclaim what a good little girl you are because you have only had sex with three guys over ten years.

 

It didn't take you long for you to contradict yourself, did it?

 

Why tell us your sexual history if....IT DOESN'T MATTER????

 

 

 

 

 

 

I will give you and example:)

 

My male friends, many of which end up being interested in me (not because I am all that, but because I am merely cute enough and they like my personality).

 

Anywho, I talk to the male friends in my life, in large groups when we are together sometimes, about everything really.

 

They have told me the type of person they think I am; I have been told " yeah, your really hot, but you do not give off the vibe that you get around much with guys".

 

Many of them have seen my single, and I never liked to sleep with men.

 

They just know what I am like.

 

 

 

SOOO yeah - I guess I am a girl who has a bad year when I was 16 and slept with multiple men, and then between ages 16 and 26, only had 3 sexual partners, TWO were in relationships and one a FWB.

 

 

....Not a single guy I know, from a varity of cultures and backgrounds, have an issue with my sexual past.

 

 

They can see I do not sleep around, and have only had very few partners in the past years...

 

 

They would laugh at the idea of anyone shutting me down, based on what I did as a teenager.

[Leigh 87]

And I was merely stating that a person who slept around between the ages of 15 - 16, can go on to have a low volume of sexual partners in the future, for the rest of her life.

 

 

That was my point; I am not saying it is good or bad that I now sleep with very few men when I am single.

 

There is no correlation between what I did at age 16 and now, though, and it would be CRAZY of a guy who was interested in me to say " oh, your 26 now, but you slept around when you ere 15, so yeah , I dont wanna be with you no more"

 

:lmao::lmao:

 

Sorry, but I would find that really strange. I just would.

 

So would every other person I know.

[Nyla]

I just prefer not to have a girlfriend like that. I don't mind doing that someone who I don't consider dating material

 

You are entitled to your preference and there is no reason for you to justify it.

 

The woman you are seeing may be trying to change her way of approaching relationships, which is why she presented herself a different way than you now perceive her.

 

If you cannot get past this, it is time to walk away.

[Nyla]

'A couple of FWB' doesn't necessarily equal 'fµcking a guy every time she was horny'. In fact, that's highly unlikely for most healthy people. I'd be more interested in her relationship, marital and family history. Her past sexual escapades can remain stored in her deep ocean of secrets. Those 'couple of FWB' escapades, on their own, would be neither a turn-off nor turn-on for myself. Neutral.

 

This makes so much sense!

 

I don't think being a hypocrite about sex is morally consistent.

 

Nonetheless, the OP is free to date women who fit his standards, however flawed they are.

[kaylan]

You sound very young.

 

It is possible to take sex seriously, AND enjoy casual sex when you aren't in a relationship and are lonely or horny.

 

In my experience, FWB isn't about cuddling and being lovey (Kaylan - I would guess that any woman doing this with you wishes you were more than FWB because women typically don't act like this unless they have feelings.)

 

It's about knowing someone who isn't compatible for a relationship, but who you share intense sexual chemistry with, so you get together and have sex sometimes.

Lol...shes the one who said she wasnt ready for a relationship and ended things though. So I dont know how correct the bolded statement is.

 

And I dont get why some people say having a few FWBs in your life means you dont take sex seriously. Stop being so uptight people. I take sex seriously and try to make sure its an emotional experience when I have it. Just because I have had casual sex before, doesnt mean Im devoid of emotions and just indiscriminately bang just anybody.

[PhillyDude]

She said in a way like she was trying to impress me and she didn't realize I;m the only guy in this big city of Philadelphia who takes sex seriously

[Leigh 87]

I'm talking about real guys not imaginary ones.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Enough to actually be in a serious relationship?

 

I didn't think so.

 

 

 

 

It's easy for a woman to get a "boyfriend" who will ask no questions. Just have sex with him. That's far different from a lasting, mature, committed relationship.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It might have an influence on your behavior--such as your insatiable need to be perceived as desirable by "hundreds" of men even though you already have a boyfriend.

 

 

 

 

 

I don't care what you did back then either, and I'm not interested in getting married to you, either.

 

Just like your current bf.

 

Capice?

 

 

 

 

LOL your hilarious:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

 

 

Your a really nasty person.... I feel REALLY sorry for you man. Most people like you do not get many people who think very highly of you.

 

 

 

Now, I happen to have a boyfriend who has told me he would like to get married to me.

 

Why would be number of sexual partners when I was a teenager deterre him?

 

He just thinks I am an awesome person and has enough feelings for me to want to marry me.

 

 

And yes, I have been mates with many men over the years, and a few of them each year, I have to cut off, because they get feeelings for me.

 

 

I am not ugly. I am also not stupid, and I have a nice personality. So yeah, it is very real that there are a lot of men who want to have a relationship with me:lmao::lmao:

 

You DO NOT need to be a model to get hundreds of guys interested in you!

 

 

 

I find your nastyness alarming... Really? You have not even met me, and you cannot even fathom why any guy would want to get serious with me?

 

 

 

.....You cannot just meet a person online, and assume that no "real" men want them, mate.....

 

 

I just go on facts, when a lot of decent guys want to have a relationship with me DESPITE my sexual past

[charlietheginger]

As long as it wasnt "mandingo" id be o.k.with it.

 

If you dont know who mandingo is google it

[Leigh 87]

She said in a way like she was trying to impress me and she didn't realize I;m the only guy in this big city of Philadelphia who takes sex seriously

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I would NEVER tell a guy I had only just met though! I think that is a little odd, and I would certainly not advertise it like it was a GOOD thing.

 

 

I thought it was common knowledge that guys and girls do not WANT to hear about our dates sexual past!

 

 

OH, unless your animallover! him and his friends are abnormally judgemental! Apparently, what I did when I was 16, discounts me, even though I am 26:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

[animalover]

I have hundreds of guys every interested me in a year.

 

I have a lot of men want serious relationships with me.

 

I have to actually stop being friends with a lot of guys who want to get into a serious relationship with me, because I have a boyfriend.

 

 

 

So..... I am 26; what I did when I was 16 has no influence over what men think of me.

 

 

In fact, animallover and his mates are highly unusual, because MOST MEN would not care what a 26 year old women did when she was 15/16.

 

That is funny... can you enlighten me and show me the study where you base your information about most men not caring what a 26 year old woman did in her teenager past sexually?

 

I don't pretend most men would care because I don't have any study or report to back such a statement ... but at least I am a man...and I have lots of men friends who share information with me that would never share with a woman (things work like that you like it or not) and honestly... there are very few men who don't care how the approach to sex was in the past of a woman... but I still don't know ...understand.... why do you care that much?

I will never meet you in real life... you have said you have a ltr with your boyfriend who loves you for who you are... so why would you care at all about a random man in a forum saying that he would rule out a woman who had casual sex in her past?

 

I just don't understand why you are so passionate about this topic...

[Leigh 87]

That is funny... can you enlighten me and show me the study where you base your information about most men not caring what a 26 year old woman did in her teenager past sexually?

 

I don't pretend most men would care because I don't have any study or report to back such a statement ... but at least I am a man...and I have lots of men friends who share information with me that would never share with a woman (things work like that you like it or not) and honestly... there are very few men who don't care how the approach to sex was in the past of a woman... but I still don't know ...understand.... why do you care that much?

I will never meet you in real life... you have said you have a ltr with your boyfriend who loves you for who you are... so why would you care at all about a random man in a forum saying that he would rule out a woman who had casual sex in her past?

 

I just don't understand why you are so passionate about this topic...

 

 

 

 

Because most men would not care what a 26 year old women did when she was a 16 year old.

 

I told a bunch of people today, and they laughed!

 

 

 

Seriously, men these days do not care if a women in her late 20's or 30's did when she was 15 or 16.

 

REad around here, MOST people who go on dates, are dating people who have had a FWB or had casual sex in the past.

 

 

 

What's more - they are just as good as people as you are!

 

Some of them, who have had FWB or casual sex, are JUST AS HIGH QUALITY as you are.

 

Sorry, the fact I had casual sex at age 16 does not make you a high quality person than me, based on that one fact.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have had ten good years of having 3 partners for sex.

 

 

It is very strange that I have demonstrated that I am clearly respectable, and yet what I did at age 16, you seam to think MOST men would care?

 

 

 

 

I am trying to HELP you here - you need to know that it is really normal, to ask a grown women what she did when she was a teenager.

[PogoStick]

Man, the amount of ignorant people in this thread is MIND blowing....

 

Really? having FWB = dirty sl*t?

 

 

I hate judgmental people.

 

You make me laugh! Especially Philly dude - he ACTUALLY thinks he has more class than me, cos I enjoy fwb when I have them?

 

 

Fk'em. They're just jealous. Slut is a word that sexual PEOPLE should wear with pride. Amazing, exciting, beautiful sluts. The joke is on them. Let them hate while the rest of us enjoy our beds with like minded people.

[animalover]

Because most men would not care what a 26 year old women did when she was a 16 year old.

 

I told a bunch of people today, and they laughed!

 

 

 

Seriously, men these days do not care if a women in her late 20's or 30's did when she was 15 or 16.

 

REad around here, MOST people who go on dates, are dating people who have had a FWB or had casual sex in the past.

 

 

 

What's more - they are just as good as people as you are!

 

Some of them, who have had FWB or casual sex, are JUST AS HIGH QUALITY as you are.

 

Sorry, the fact I had casual sex at age 16 does not make you a high quality person than me, based on that one fact.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have had ten good years of having 3 partners for sex.

 

 

It is very strange that I have demonstrated that I am clearly respectable, and yet what I did at age 16, you seam to think MOST men would care?

 

 

 

 

I am trying to HELP you here - you need to know that it is really normal, to ask a grown women what she did when she was a teenager.

 

Ohh... don't worry about me... I don't need your help! I have a girlfriend of my own... who matches the criteria I need to have a relationship...

 

You don't need to convince me of what a good girl you are, you know?

I don't doubt you are a sweet and nice woman and you deserve to be loved... I hope you boyfriend will do just that...

 

When it comes to me... I will still rule out any woman who has had casual sex in her life... I find it gross and I would find myself dirty having sex with someone who doesn't share (or didn't share it in the past) my values about sex.

[Leigh 87]

But you cannot tell just from talking to a girl, and from how she carrys herself, that she has had one fwb in the past year (just a random example)

 

It is not like people with FWB sleep around. I didn't and I have had ONE in my life so far.