Guys would you be turned off if a woman revealed this fact about herself?

[animalover]

Who the heck do you think you are?

 

I NEVER said I did not take sex seriosuly!

 

 

 

.....I have a long term boyfriend. We have been together a couple of years now.

 

 

.... Is it THAT hard to compreha\end, that I enjoy both casual sex, AND ALSO enjoy sex in a meaningfull relationship?:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

 

 

 

And WHAT sort of "past" are you inferring to? UM, I have been with about 2 men in FIVE YEARS...

 

One was a FWB, one was a boyfriend.

 

 

....The fact I can have casual sex DOES NOT mean the sex with my long term partners are somehow NOT as meaningful as the people who do not engage in casual sex.

 

 

 

Get it? A person who is capable of having a FWB, is ALSO capable of having very serious sex, with one they love...

 

And what before the last 5 years?

 

Fwb is just a lame excuse to have meaningless sex... is almost like having a hobby... ok, now I am bored.. what should I do... lets go and have sex with my friend.... yeah... sex is very serious when you take it like that...

 

You can't never know how sex feels for someone who only have it with people who they love ... because you are not one of them... it is as simple as it is...

 

I already told you, you can have the sex in the color or form that you want... just don't be surprised if people disqualify you for that...

 

When you have casual sex your sexual value and appealing for someone who approach sex in a love context decrease heavily... it just doesn't feel special to have sex with someone when this someone can do that with a guy just for fun....

 

If a person just have sex with people who they really love... the mathematics are simple... when this person has sex with you is because she consider you very special and you are right to feel special about it.... when you have sex with someone who just do it as a hobby... the value of that sex is totally different... and I don't speak about the pleasure you perceive from it... is about the bounding... but I guess you will never get it...

[animalover]

Man, the amount of ignorant people in this thread is MIND blowing....

 

Really? having FWB = dirty sl*t?

 

FWB means a girl must surely sleep around?

 

FWB means a women is NOT capable of fulling loving, and having sex that is JUST AS SERIOUS as a person who has NOT had a fwb?

 

 

 

Just wow.

 

 

I really struggle to see why a girl who DOES NOT want to wait a year inbetween having sex or fooling around, is lacking self control" by surcumbing to casual sex?

 

 

 

....Why the hell SHOULD we go without something we like?

 

 

I hate judgmental people.

 

You make me laugh! Especially Philly dude - he ACTUALLY thinks he has more class than me, cos I enjoy fwb when I have them?

 

 

For that ONE fact alone? HAving had a fwb?

 

It is funny how just you say you hate judgmental people and by just this small sentence you are being judgmental yourself!....

 

If you don't see how lacking self control and the sentence "Why the hell SHOULD we go without something we like?" don't work very well together then I guess I can't explain that to you...

 

You should do nothing that you don't want to do... I am not telling you what you need to do... just telling you that you should not be surprised that other people disqualify you for dating for you sexual approach... casual sex is casual sex... fulling around or fwb is for me exactly the same!

[Geiss]

It would definitely bother me. It's just a bit too much and personally I think FWB is a bunch of BS. They are just lying to each other. And I can see it ending badly. Is she still going to be friends with this guy while you are going out? I would have a major problem if she still wanted to hang out with this guy. I wouldn't go out with her in the first place but that's just me.

[ThaWholigan]

I never knew how many guys had problems with this kind of thing until recently - it's quite interesting .

 

I think a guy is well within his rights not to want a woman who differs in their sexual behavior, that is fine. As long as he is not condescending and insulting about it, at least. It makes me laugh if the guy himself engages in casual sex regularly but then disrespects the very same women he has sex with, pining for the pure, innocent girl. That's funny .

 

Regarding this situation, I think the woman's lack of tact is what is the problem here, rather than what she did. PD obviously did not want to know and wasn't bothered. Quite content with his fantasy vision of the woman. Me personally, I'm not too bothered either way, although there are certain boundaries for me sexually that might seem a bit excessive. Even then, it doesn't warrant my disrespect - but then, I'm not really a disrespectful person in general.

 

I actually did have 2 FWBs until very recently, and they were fine. There were no underlying feelings of wanting more, it didn't end badly, and I certainly grew a lot sexually.

[Sunfire73]

I won't divulge those kind of information. Mainly because it's not important in establishing a relationship, I can be unfairly judged.

[pteromom]

I am sorry I don't think anyone is an ******* or not for their sexual habits... but I find people who have had a more casual approach to sex much less suitable for people who take sex seriously....

 

You sound very young.

 

It is possible to take sex seriously, AND enjoy casual sex when you aren't in a relationship and are lonely or horny.

 

In my experience, FWB isn't about cuddling and being lovey (Kaylan - I would guess that any woman doing this with you wishes you were more than FWB because women typically don't act like this unless they have feelings.)

 

It's about knowing someone who isn't compatible for a relationship, but who you share intense sexual chemistry with, so you get together and have sex sometimes.

[ThaWholigan]

You sound very young.

 

It is possible to take sex seriously, AND enjoy casual sex when you aren't in a relationship and are lonely or horny.

 

In my experience, FWB isn't about cuddling and being lovey (Kaylan - I would guess that any woman doing this with you wishes you were more than FWB because women typically don't act like this unless they have feelings.)

 

It's about knowing someone who isn't compatible for a relationship, but who you share intense sexual chemistry with, so you get together and have sex sometimes.

To be fair, I was pretty cuddly and affectionate with my 2 FWBs but there were no blurred lines with them - although one felt she had to remind me that she's not looking for something serious

[Leigh 87]

It is funny how just you say you hate judgmental people and by just this small sentence you are being judgmental yourself!....

 

If you don't see how lacking self control and the sentence "Why the hell SHOULD we go without something we like?" don't work very well together then I guess I can't explain that to you...

 

You should do nothing that you don't want to do... I am not telling you what you need to do... just telling you that you should not be surprised that other people disqualify you for dating for you sexual approach... casual sex is casual sex... fulling around or fwb is for me exactly the same!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

so how do you know that the sex I have with my boyfriend, is any less serious, than the sex YOU have with a girl?

 

My bf and I believe in FWB and have both had them - where as you and the girls you sleep with, do not adovcate FWB.

 

WHAT is the difference between the feelings MY boyfriend and I feel when we have sex, and the feelings YOU get with your girlfriends?

 

 

 

You have NO WAY of measuring it!

 

YOU DONT KNOW.

 

 

.....You have NO logical way of knowing that how I feel about my damn boyfriend, is LESS STRONG than what you feel with your partners!

 

 

...Sorry, but your logic is totally retarded.

 

You cannot measure feelings.

 

You simply have NO way of knowing how sex between me and my bf feels, when compared to you and your partners....

 

 

And sex is a very healthy part of life!

 

 

 

So you know: I HAVE LOTS of classy, decent guys interested in me in a given year, who DO NOT GIVE A CRAP about me having had a fwb in the past.

 

 

 

......and LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

YOU REALLY CARE WHAT A GIRL DID FIVE YEARS prior to you?

 

 

 

That is classic. So I had TWO partners in 5 years, and before then?

 

You want to judge me on what I did when I was TEENAGER?:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your WORSE than the folks over in China! They give KINDERGARTEN children a test, that determines the quality of education they will recieve for their enTIRE SCHOOLING.

 

Thats right - a slow 6 year old, will forever be in the worst possible schools, because his intelligence as a 6 year old is apparently indicative of what he will be capable of as an adult:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

 

 

 

...What I did as a teen is not EVER anything I would share with a man; I AM 26 NOW.

 

 

 

I was actually abused when I was younger. I was messed up, for folr the period of one year only, I slept around a bit.

 

 

Then I reached my 20s and grew up, and only ended up having two sexual partners in 5 years.

[Leigh 87]

People who think that indulging in sex because we "feel like it" shows we are lesser people than them, becaus they WANT SEX but use "self control":lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

 

 

 

Sorry. Really, sex is NOT like dieting! You diet to lose weight, and you HAVE to deprive yourself of getting enough food; this in turn, makes you hungry. It is not pleasant, but you HAVE to do it.

 

 

..... just LOL. Why would you put yourself through having no sex or sexual encounters, simply because you do not have a long term partner?

 

 

We are animals. Human beings are not programed to just... purely have sex with people we love.

 

 

There is nothing besides the bible, that indicates that humans are SUPPOSED to just withhold sex until we find partners....

 

 

 

 

OH WELLS! I am the one who would recieve 100000 more offers than you, cos, you know, MOST decent men do not judge a girl cos she enjoys sex and finds a buddy to have it with every now and again!

 

 

 

 

Being a sl*t is a turn off! Sleeping around is not cool... But yeah, between relationships, I only tend to have one or two sexual partners in the span of a year.

 

 

No decent guy has ever given a sh*t!

[animalover]

so how do you know that the sex I have with my boyfriend, is any less serious, than the sex YOU have with a girl?

 

My bf and I believe in FWB and have both had them - where as you and the girls you sleep with, do not adovcate FWB.

 

WHAT is the difference between the feelings MY boyfriend and I feel when we have sex, and the feelings YOU get with your girlfriends?

 

 

 

You have NO WAY of measuring it!

 

YOU DONT KNOW.

 

 

.....You have NO logical way of knowing that how I feel about my damn boyfriend, is LESS STRONG than what you feel with your partners!

 

 

...Sorry, but your logic is totally retarded.

 

You cannot measure feelings.

 

You simply have NO way of knowing how sex between me and my bf feels, when compared to you and your partners....

 

 

And sex is a very healthy part of life!

 

 

 

So you know: I HAVE LOTS of classy, decent guys interested in me in a given year, who DO NOT GIVE A CRAP about me having had a fwb in the past.

 

 

 

......and LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

YOU REALLY CARE WHAT A GIRL DID FIVE YEARS prior to you?

 

 

 

That is classic. So I had TWO partners in 5 years, and before then?

 

You want to judge me on what I did when I was TEENAGER?:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your WORSE than the folks over in China! They give KINDERGARTEN children a test, that determines the quality of education they will recieve for their enTIRE SCHOOLING.

 

Thats right - a slow 6 year old, will forever be in the worst possible schools, because his intelligence as a 6 year old is apparently indicative of what he will be capable of as an adult:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

 

 

 

...What I did as a teen is not EVER anything I would share with a man; I AM 26 NOW.

 

 

 

I was actually abused when I was younger. I was messed up, for folr the period of one year only, I slept around a bit.

 

 

Then I reached my 20s and grew up, and only ended up having two sexual partners in 5 years.

 

 

First---- I don't say that what you feel with your boyfriend would be less in any kind of way than what I feel with my girlfriend... I just say it would not feel good for me if I would know that my girlfriend has given it to other people just for fun (hobby) or have been sleeping around... It would not feel special enough for me and therefore the sex FOR ME would not be as good as it feels when I sleep with someone who specially chose me after (like you said having been on a sex diet) she actually chose me to be with her... that makes me feel like the king of the fuc..king world... and that is a feeling I don't change for anything.

 

What you did in your past is indeed something only yours and you don't need to share it with any man if you don't want to do it... but to some people it matters... and it doesn't matter if it was 5 or 20 years ago and if you were abused or not... I know women who were abused as child and did not end up sleeping around... sorry but is totally true!

 

I am very happy that you have many classy guys who are interested on you and don't give a crap how your sexual habits are... that is the good think in the world... you can choose who you want to date... so you can always date those guys... nothing wrong with that... just respect that there are other people who would not settle for that...

[Leigh 87]

First---- I don't say that what you feel with your boyfriend would be less in any kind of way than what I feel with my girlfriend... I just say it would not feel good for me if I would know that my girlfriend has given it to other people just for fun (hobby) or have been sleeping around... It would not feel special enough for me and therefore the sex FOR ME would not be as good as it feels when I sleep with someone who specially chose me after (like you said having been on a sex diet) she actually chose me to be with her... that makes me feel like the king of the fuc..king world... and that is a feeling I don't change for anything.

 

What you did in your past is indeed something only yours and you don't need to share it with any man if you don't want to do it... but to some people it matters... and it doesn't matter if it was 5 or 20 years ago and if you were abused or not... I know women who were abused as child and did not end up sleeping around... sorry but is totally true!

 

I am very happy that you have many classy guys who are interested on you and don't give a crap how your sexual habits are... that is the good think in the world... you can choose who you want to date... so you can always date those guys... nothing wrong with that... just respect that there are other people who would not settle for that...

 

 

 

 

 

That is all I wanted you to clarify, really: that you understood that I feel just as serious and feel the same was, no less, about my boyfriend....

 

I wanted you to see that I am capable of feeling as strongly about sex with MY boyfriend, as a girlfriend of yours would feel abour you.

 

A girl with a fwb history and a girl with no such history, ARE entirely capable of having the SAME degree of feelings towards sex with a guy they love.

 

And yeah - it is good that you know that MOST decent men would still date me. MOST men do not care about previous fwb; they tend to worry more about girls who sleep around!

 

 

 

....And my past and what I did is my own thing I went though. If I had self respect, I would not have slept with about 8 guys in one year when I was 16 - 17.

 

I would not have done it if I was not damaged.

 

As soon as I got some self respect and integrity - I never once slept around again.

 

 

 

...SO yeah, something major about me has shifted, and you cannot say I am the same person as I was when I had ZERO self respect.

 

A lack of self respect causes you to act in ways that you WOULD NOT act like if you worked hard to develope self esteem.

[animalover]

That is all I wanted you to clarify, really: that you understood that I feel just as serious and feel the same was, no less, about my boyfriend....

 

I wanted you to see that I am capable of feeling as strongly about sex with MY boyfriend, as a girlfriend of yours would feel abour you.

 

A girl with a fwb history and a girl with no such history, ARE entirely capable of having the SAME degree of feelings towards sex with a guy they love.

 

And yeah - it is good that you know that MOST decent men would still date me. MOST men do not care about previous fwb; they tend to worry more about girls who sleep around!

 

 

 

....And my past and what I did is my own thing I went though. If I had self respect, I would not have slept with about 8 guys in one year when I was 16 - 17.

 

I would not have done it if I was not damaged.

 

As soon as I got some self respect and integrity - I never once slept around again.

 

 

 

...SO yeah, something major about me has shifted, and you cannot say I am the same person as I was when I had ZERO self respect.

 

A lack of self respect causes you to act in ways that you WOULD NOT act like if you worked hard to develope self esteem.

 

 

First at all, I didn't say that most decent man would date you or not... I don't know how in hell I would know that...

 

I know that anyone in my circle of friends would date someone with your past record... and I am not trying to offend you, I am just telling you the crude truth...

 

I have also not said never that someone who has slept around or had sex with fwb could not feel as much as any other woman when having sex... I guess the one who could feel is losing in the deal is the counter partner if has not had the same kind of approach to sex, it would feel that sex with you was cheap before ... no one like to have cheap stuff home... you say your boyfriend knows about your fwb and he had fwb too.... so that is a good match I guess...

 

Regarding the low self respect and self esteem that you claim you had when you were a teenager... I have always said that when someone sleeps around there is always a problem with their self respect... I don't think that fwb is any improvement from sleeping around but that is of course my point of view...

[Leigh 87]

First at all, I didn't say that most decent man would date you or not... I don't know how in hell I would know that...

 

I know that anyone in my circle of friends would date someone with your past record... and I am not trying to offend you, I am just telling you the crude truth...

 

I have also not said never that someone who has slept around or had sex with fwb could not feel as much as any other woman when having sex... I guess the one who could feel is losing in the deal is the counter partner if has not had the same kind of approach to sex, it would feel that sex with you was cheap before ... no one like to have cheap stuff home... you say your boyfriend knows about your fwb and he had fwb too.... so that is a good match I guess...

 

Regarding the low self respect and self esteem that you claim you had when you were a teenager... I have always said that when someone sleeps around there is always a problem with their self respect... I don't think that fwb is any improvement from sleeping around but that is of course my point of view...

 

 

 

 

There is a HUGE difference between me sleeping with 8 men in a year when I was a teen, compared to me sleeping with 2 men in about 5 years, one as a FWB.

 

 

I DO have self respect now; I had self respect when I slept with the fwb in 2010.

 

 

On the other hand, it seriously damaged me to sleep around when I was a teen.

[Leigh 87]

And I am a 26 year old women.

 

I would NOT tell you that as a 16 year old, I slept around.

 

Your friends woud have no idea if they liked me. What I did ten years ago is not something that is revelent to me now.

 

I do not sleep around now like I did when I was a teen. There is no way I view sex the same way I did back then, when I was a kid, and not fully developed mentally or spiritually.

 

 

 

 

So..... People like your friends could easily get to know me, and fall for me, and that what? I would not TELL them what the heck I did as a bloody 16 year old LOL!

 

I would only disclose this much: that I had 2 sexual partners in the past 5 or so years.

 

 

 

.....Sorry, but it is really non of your business what I did as a TEENAGER!

 

come on now. I am 26. Not 16 anymore.

[animalover]

There is a HUGE difference between me sleeping with 8 men in a year when I was a teen, compared to me sleeping with 2 men in about 5 years, one as a FWB.

 

 

I DO have self respect now; I had self respect when I slept with the fwb in 2010.

 

 

On the other hand, it seriously damaged me to sleep around when I was a teen.

 

I don't doubt you have self respect now... I may have used the wrong wording... I think the correct word is self worth...

 

When you make yourself to accessible to someone for less value in return that you deserve is lack of self worth... People should not settle for less than someone loving them totally before giving them something that they can't take back anymore...

 

Sex is pleasurable... and many people tend to think that only that fact is argument enough to jump the meaning of an act like sex...

 

I fully respect people who do that... people chooses their own way to live their lives and I don't think their way is less valid than mine... but it is definitely the opposite one and therefore totally not compatible for a relationship!

[animalover]

And I am a 26 year old women.

 

I would NOT tell you that as a 16 year old, I slept around.

 

Your friends woud have no idea if they liked me. What I did ten years ago is not something that is revelent to me now.

 

I do not sleep around now like I did when I was a teen. There is no way I view sex the same way I did back then, when I was a kid, and not fully developed mentally or spiritually.

 

 

 

 

So..... People like your friends could easily get to know me, and fall for me, and that what? I would not TELL them what the heck I did as a bloody 16 year old LOL!

 

I would only disclose this much: that I had 2 sexual partners in the past 5 or so years.

 

 

 

.....Sorry, but it is really non of your business what I did as a TEENAGER!

 

come on now. I am 26. Not 16 anymore.

 

Just to be totally honest with you... if someone would do that to me (lie to me to enter in a relationship) and I find out I would be very angry... you are in your totally right to not share your information if you don't want but lying about your past is totally unacceptable... you can't take other people right to choose to be with you on a relationship with a lie!

 

And seriously... would you really settle for less than having someone loving you for whom you are in total? Would you settle for someone who would feel disgusted if would know the truth about your past? Why?

 

If I would be you I would totally own my past and let people understand that you are not that person anymore and let them choose...if they don't want you ... well is their loss...

 

I am totally surprised that you suggest lying is a possibility to enter in a relationship.... that is definitely a much lower act than sleeping around!

[Leigh 87]

But I would not tell people like you or your friends, if we met in real life, about what I did as a 16 year old...

 

It is really none of your business, after all.

 

So.... why would your friends not date me?

 

I have slept with 3 men from age 17 to 26...... I highly doubt they would care.

 

 

....Please realise, women like me WILL NOT be sharing with you that as a 16 year old, I slept around for a year.

 

 

 

I am 26 now, and what I did as a teen is not relevant.

 

 

 

And I do have self worth thanks. THat is why I only get into relationships with men who adore me.

 

 

It is also why - I only ever have FWB with men who also highly desire and respect me.

 

 

SELF WORTH = thinking your worth the very best. Errm, I do think I am worth THE VERY BEST actually.

 

 

I Just do not VIEW casual sex as a bad thing, if your horny and it has been months or years since you last had sex. Sorry, but I really do not think if makes me think I do not deserve the best.

 

 

......I think I deserve the very best relationship possible!

 

I just enjoy casual sex on occasion, inbetween wonderful men in relationships.

[Leigh 87]

Just to be totally honest with you... if someone would do that to me (lie to me to enter in a relationship) and I find out I would be very angry... you are in your totally right to not share your information if you don't want but lying about your past is totally unacceptable... you can't take other people right to choose to be with you on a relationship with a lie!

 

And seriously... would you really settle for less than having someone loving you for whom you are in total? Would you settle for someone who would feel disgusted if would know the truth about your past? Why?

 

If I would be you I would totally own my past and let people understand that you are not that person anymore and let them choose...if they don't want you ... well is their loss...

 

I am totally surprised that you suggest lying is a possibility to enter in a relationship.... that is definitely a much lower act than sleeping around!

 

 

 

 

I wouldnt lie.

 

I just do not bring what I did as a teenager up with current men.

 

I do not feel a need to even bring it up?

 

 

 

....Why do I ow it to you, to tell you that when I was 16, I had a very hard year, and iI slept around?

 

 

 

It is not really fair of you to dismiss a 26 or a 30 year old, for what they did as a 16 year old; so why is what I did at age 16 important?

 

I no longer sleep around, it is something I only did for ONE year in my teens, it is no longer relevant to you.

[Leigh 87]

I would never lie to you or anyone else about my sexual past.

 

Then again, why would you have a right to ask me about what I did as a 16 year old, after 8 dates?

 

 

 

It was a very personal and dark stage of my life.

 

 

Did you know that I was so tramatized by sleeping with that many men at a young age, that I have totally blacked it out?

 

 

I do not actually remember the majority of instances when I had sex in my teens, because it was an awful time in general.

 

 

 

.....So I barly remember my life as a 16 year old, all I know is that I was very disturbed, and I slept with a lot of men in the period of one year.

 

 

 

Given I am 26 now, it is no longer your business. Especially since I have blanked out the bad memories.

[animalover]

But I would not tell people like you or your friends, if we met in real life, about what I did as a 16 year old...

 

It is really none of your business, after all.

 

So.... why would your friends not date me?

 

I have slept with 3 men from age 17 to 26...... I highly doubt they would care.

 

 

....Please realise, women like me WILL NOT be sharing with you that as a 16 year old, I slept around for a year.

 

 

 

I am 26 now, and what I did as a teen is not relevant.

 

 

 

And I do have self worth thanks. THat is why I only get into relationships with men who adore me.

 

 

It is also why - I only ever have FWB with men who also highly desire and respect me.

 

 

SELF WORTH = thinking your worth the very best. Errm, I do think I am worth THE VERY BEST actually.

 

 

I Just do not VIEW casual sex as a bad thing, if your horny and it has been months or years since you last had sex. Sorry, but I really do not think if makes me think I do not deserve the best.

 

 

......I think I deserve the very best relationship possible!

 

I just enjoy casual sex on occasion, inbetween wonderful men in relationships.

 

 

You know, I have had 5 LTR in my life.... 2 of them were girls who thought could lie to my face about their past life... truth always come out...

 

You don't really have much self worth when you would settle for someone who actually don't like you... yes... if you lie to my friends they would date you... but they would like/love the misrepresentation image you have sold them... I still don't know how someone would have so little self worth to settle for someone to whom you need to lie so he would like you... really... I don't see how you can feel comfortable being with someone and knowing that this person would have NEVER EVER dated you if you would have tell them the truth...

 

In a relationship there are 2 basic pillars... trust and honesty... you break them both just even before you begin the relationship if you lie about a fact the other person finds very important!

[animalover]

I would never lie to you or anyone else about my sexual past.

 

Then again, why would you have a right to ask me about what I did as a 16 year old, after 8 dates?

 

 

 

It was a very personal and dark stage of my life.

 

 

Did you know that I was so tramatized by sleeping with that many men at a young age, that I have totally blacked it out?

 

 

I do not actually remember the majority of instances when I had sex in my teens, because it was an awful time in general.

 

 

 

.....So I barly remember my life as a 16 year old, all I know is that I was very disturbed, and I slept with a lot of men in the period of one year.

 

 

 

Given I am 26 now, it is no longer your business. Especially since I have blanked out the bad memories.

 

But that is the thing... at a moment of time when I am dating a woman, I would ask her about her sexual past... and then she will need to decide if telling me the truth or lying to my face... (you can read my first post and see how things usually work with me)

 

What gives me the right of asking about the other person past? because I am interested on having a relationship with her... if she wants to have a relationship with me she needs to understand this is important for me and come clean about it... our relationship will stop right away if she does not want to disclose her past or if her past is not according to what I am looking for...

[Leigh 87]

You know, I have had 5 LTR in my life.... 2 of them were girls who thought could lie to my face about their past life... truth always come out...

 

You don't really have much self worth when you would settle for someone who actually don't like you... yes... if you lie to my friends they would date you... but they would like/love the misrepresentation image you have sold them... I still don't know how someone would have so little self worth to settle for someone to whom you need to lie so he would like you... really... I don't see how you can feel comfortable being with someone and knowing that this person would have NEVER EVER dated you if you would have tell them the truth...

 

In a relationship there are 2 basic pillars... trust and honesty... you break them both just even before you begin the relationship if you lie about a fact the other person finds very important!

 

 

 

 

Wait there. I would not lie.

 

 

But I am 26. It would not actually OCCUR to me, to talk about when I was a teenager.

 

 

It was just. SO . Long .Ago.

 

 

 

I am not lying haha, when I say that: I seriously would NOT even think about it to begin with.

 

 

........May I ask; Why would it be a deal breaker if I slept around when I was 16?

 

 

I AM 26!!!!!!!!!! Why does what I did when I was 16 matter to you or your friends? IT has NO bearing over who I am now.

 

 

......You or your friend do not have the right to know what a GROWN WOMEN did when she was a teen, seriously.

 

 

 

 

Why don;t you understand that that 16 and 26 are very differnt ages?

 

 

 

 

I find it highly disturbing that you would rule a girl out for what she did folr one year of her life, when she was 16.

[Drseussgrrl]

But that is the thing... at a moment of time when I am dating a woman, I would ask her about her sexual past... and then she will need to decide if telling me the truth or lying to my face... (you can read my first post and see how things usually work with me)

 

What gives me the right of asking about the other person past? because I am interested on having a relationship with her... if she wants to have a relationship with me she needs to understand this is important for me and come clean about it... our relationship will stop right away if she does not want to disclose her past or if her past is not according to what I am looking for...

 

That's fine dude. You guys can sit around and have conversations disclosing everything you've ever done and with whom and judge each other accordingly.

 

But for me and a lot of other folks, that just doesn't sound like any fun, nor would it be relevant to a good relationship.

 

Have fun!

[Leigh 87]

LOL, if we were getting along well, and you really liked me, and all of a sudden you dumped me because of what I did when I was SIXTEEN

 

 

I would laugh in your face, to be honest... Seeing as I am 26 and what I did ten years ago is nothing to do with me now.

[animalover]

Wait there. I would not lie.

 

 

But I am 26. It would not actually OCCUR to me, to talk about when I was a teenager.

 

 

It was just. SO . Long .Ago.

 

 

 

I am not lying haha, when I say that: I seriously would NOT even think about it to begin with.

 

 

........May I ask; Why would it be a deal breaker if I slept around when I was 16?

 

 

I AM 26!!!!!!!!!! Why does what I did when I was 16 matter to you or your friends? IT has NO bearing over who I am now.

 

 

......You or your friend do not have the right to know what a GROWN WOMEN did when she was a teen, seriously.

 

 

 

 

Why don;t you understand that that 16 and 26 are very differnt ages?

 

 

 

 

I find it highly disturbing that you would rule a girl out for what she did folr one year of her life, when she was 16.

 

Me or my friends would not settle for anyone who has been doing casual sex (ever) doesn't matter your age... I thought that was a clear point so far!