Guys would you be turned off if a woman revealed this fact about herself?

[pteromom]

Here is the difference, I never shared the information.

 

So it isn't that she did it that bothers you... it's that she told you about it?

 

I admit, I don't get it.

[pbjbear]

Here is the difference, I never shared the information.

 

 

I dont care. I just lost respect for you....HYPOCRITE. Pteromom, hes more bothered by the fact that she had a FWB based on his other replies

 

Where are all the men today that use critical thinking?????? I will give you a massage, cook for you and I do good impersonations

[pbjbear]

A better way is to have sex with a woman a few cities over who doesn't know you.

 

Prick alert.

[PhillyDude]

So it isn't that she did it that bothers you... it's that she told you about it?

 

I admit, I don't get it.

 

 

I prefer not to know that a woman I viewed as very classy and sweet was some guy's booty call. That's confidential information.

 

 

Just like I wouldn't tell her I paid college girls to come to my place and dance on me with their shoes off. That's something she doesn't need to know and very confidential when u r viewing someone as a possible companion

[pteromom]

I prefer not to know that a woman I viewed as very classy and sweet was some guy's booty call. That's confidential information.

 

 

Just like I wouldn't tell her I paid college girls to come to my place and dance on me with their shoes off. That's something she doesn't need to know and very confidential when u r viewing someone as a possible companion

 

Because this is your point of view, it is something you need to communicate with a girl as soon as you feel you are getting serious with her - that you realize she may have a past, but you don't want to hear about it.

 

Although - I do think you need to spend some time really examining your feelings on the subject. Do you think you are less classy and sweet, or less capable of a serious relationship, because you have done some sordid things in your past?

 

I assume not. In which case, why would you label a girl that way who has done similar things?

[PhillyDude]

Did you actually do that?

 

 

Yes i used to have a fetish for "young sexy woman dancing on top of me".

 

 

But it was nothing really nasty.

[outsidethebox]

She had a couple of FWB in the past????? I don't think I'm supposed to know that. It's hard for me to take someone seriously who admits to "f*cking a guy every time she was horny.

 

 

Anyone agree?

 

wow, you got a nice big thread on talking about horny women, so can't complain about that. But wow, don't think I've seen anything this blatantly double standard for a few threads now.

[PhillyDude]

Good grief, you paid women to indulge you in your fetish but think a woman who has had a FWB relationship isn't classy enough for you??? I suppose it would be acceptable for the young lady in question to have danced on top of other men though, right?

 

Have you ever actually had a normal relationship with a woman you weren't paying to pay attention to you?

 

 

So you are comparing being naked with multiple men to me being fully clothed?

[ls32ssibm]

From experience:

 

 

It's much better to be with a woman who enjoys sex than one who does not.

[PhillyDude]

From experience:

 

 

It's much better to be with a woman who enjoys sex than one who does not.

 

 

No one said anything about being with a woman who doesn't enjoy sex. I just said i prefer not to know about her kinky past

[veggirl]

Good grief, you paid women to indulge you in your fetish but think a woman who has had a FWB relationship isn't classy enough for you??? I suppose it would be acceptable for the young lady in question to have danced on top of other men though, right?

 

Have you ever actually had a normal relationship with a woman you weren't paying to pay attention to you?

 

I think the difference is the woman in question just randomly offered that info up whereas PD (rightfully so lmao) prob doesn't just blurt out that little tidbit about himself. It's called just...knowing what's appropriate early on and what's not.

[ltjg45]

This thread is hilarious.

 

I literally mean that. I hope she comes to her senses and leave you, OP, provided she hasn't already done so.

 

She can definitely find better than you.

[Woggle]

Another thing is that while yes the OP is being a huge hypocrite I don't see what is so wrong with a person having standards. There are many women who would hold it against a man if he paid for sex in the past for whatever reason so why can't a man have his criteria right or wrong about who chooses to and doesn't choose to date as long as he lives up to his own standards? If being into casual sex is a dealbreaker for somebody don'y they have that right?

[pteromom]

Another thing is that while yes the OP is being a huge hypocrite I don't see what is so wrong with a person having standards. There are many women who would hold it against a man if he paid for sex in the past for whatever reason so why can't a man have his criteria right or wrong about who chooses to and doesn't choose to date as long as he lives up to his own standards? If being into casual sex is a dealbreaker for somebody don'y they have that right?

 

Nothing at all wrong with someone having standards. However, we should all examine our standards to make sure they are valid and not coming from some kind of belief we hold that may not necessarily be true, or our own insecurities or fears.

[Woggle]

Nothing at all wrong with someone having standards. However, we should all examine our standards to make sure they are valid and not coming from some kind of belief we hold that may not necessarily be true, or our own insecurities or fears.

 

True but that goes for many things.

[PhillyDude]

Another thing is that while yes the OP is being a huge hypocrite I don't see what is so wrong with a person having standards. There are many women who would hold it against a man if he paid for sex in the past for whatever reason so why can't a man have his criteria right or wrong about who chooses to and doesn't choose to date as long as he lives up to his own standards? If being into casual sex is a dealbreaker for somebody don'y they have that right?

 

 

I paid for "Safe Adult Fun" not SEX

[kaylan]

Another thing is that while yes the OP is being a huge hypocrite I don't see what is so wrong with a person having standards. There are many women who would hold it against a man if he paid for sex in the past for whatever reason so why can't a man have his criteria right or wrong about who chooses to and doesn't choose to date as long as he lives up to his own standards? If being into casual sex is a dealbreaker for somebody don'y they have that right?

But women arent hypocrites about paying for sex. Women dont ever pay for sex.

 

Also, I dont see promiscuous women throwing guys under the bus for being equally promiscuous. Thats the issue.

[Woggle]

But women arent hypocrites about paying for sex. Women dont ever pay for sex.

 

Also, I dont see promiscuous women throwing guys under the bus for being equally promiscuous. Thats the issue.

 

I agree but I just don't see anything wrong with people having their own dealbreakers.

[MrAvg]

She had a couple of FWB in the past????? I don't think I'm supposed to know that. It's hard for me to take someone seriously who admits to "f*cking a guy every time she was horny.

 

 

Anyone agree?

 

Why does this concern you, seems a double standard.

If a guy were to have FWB they are a stud, she seems to want and like you.

You did not think she was a virgin did you?

[MrAvg]

But women arent hypocrites about paying for sex. Women dont ever pay for sex.

 

Also, I dont see promiscuous women throwing guys under the bus for being equally promiscuous. Thats the issue.

 

Women pay for sex all the time, not as many as men but they do hire men for sex.

[PhillyDude]

Why does this concern you, seems a double standard.

If a guy were to have FWB they are a stud, she seems to want and like you.

You did not think she was a virgin did you?

 

 

A small part of me thought that

[candie13]

*so much fun, this thread*

 

people, I think I got this one: OP's issue isn't about his date's sexual past, but about her conversation skills (being tactful and discrete apparently rank high for him)

 

No one said anything about being with a woman who doesn't enjoy sex. I just said i prefer not to know about her kinky past

 

your thing is "ignorance is a bliss"? Perfect! Just remember to be very very specific about what you are asking, on your Christmas list, otherwise Santa will be lost and might drop the wrong gift, out of the holly sky, like he did this time: a walking, talking, classy woman... with a loose tongue (anyway, maybe not just the tongue ).

 

Learn to be more humble, mate, count your blessings, you are actually very lucky. If this woman existed and I were you, I'd hold on to her, with both arms!

[ChessPieceFace]

But women arent hypocrites about paying for sex. Women dont ever pay for sex.

 

Incredulous anyone could believe that statement. Especially given the post count.

[JMCOSU838]

She had a couple of FWB in the past????? I don't think I'm supposed to know that. It's hard for me to take someone seriously who admits to "f*cking a guy every time she was horny.

 

 

Anyone agree?

 

How far back in the past did all of this occur? It would probably be a bigger deal for me if it happened three months ago as opposed to three years.

[PhillyDude]

How far back in the past did all of this occur? It would probably be a bigger deal for me if it happened three months ago as opposed to three years.

 

 

Well she said she got back in contact with her ex last year. 2012 we didn't talk at all until the last month of the year.

 

 

I almost confident I will be cancelling our date on friday