Guys would you be turned off if a woman revealed this fact about herself?

[intknight]

I think I will not treat her as my girlfriend anymore if I were you.

[Revolver]

Well Most women have been some guys Bootycall at some point in there's lives.

 

Guys who make her wet don't have to wait, or even go through the "dating process"

 

Guys who she's on the fence about have to wait till the year of the rat

Edited February 6, 2013 by Revolver

[StanMusial]

Yes it would be a turnoff. She would move from "gf potential" column straight into the "fwb potential" column.

[pbjbear]

Yes it would be a turnoff. She would move from "gf potential" column straight into the "fwb potential" column.

 

Have you ever done casual sex? If not, would you participate if offered?

[StanMusial]

Have you ever done casual sex? If not, would you participate if offered?

 

No thank you I am seeing someone.

[pbjbear]

No thank you I am seeing someone.

 

If you werent seeing someone, would you?

 

Many men do casual sex inbetween realtionships because going without sex for a few months to them is like putting their hand in a paper shredder

[ChessPieceFace]

Many men do casual sex inbetween realtionships because going without sex for a few months to them is like putting their hand in a paper shredder

 

Sounds like they need to find a gentler lube.

[pbjbear]

Do you ever get tired of your own bitter musings? I don't.

 

Its the truth. Alot of men are hypocrites in the dating world

[Balzac]

I would love to meet a cute geeky female but I don't it's any left in Philly in the 28 to 37 range

 

How is it in doubt when UPENN w all the Wharton lovelies and their other grad school programs?

[StanMusial]

Its the truth. Alot of men are hypocrites in the dating world

 

It doesn't really matter what I think, and these threads tend to be a gender war and that doesn't really interest me. Practical advice on the matter is this: women don't blurt out these statements to a guy you like, it may change his perception of you. For the worse.

[Emilia]

women don't blurt out these statements to a guy you like, it may change his perception of you. For the worse.

 

which is definitely a good thing since you find out that he is a narrow minded idiot early enough. One more reason to be yourself and not pretend for someone else's prudish sensibilities

 

though I do find it hilarious that you are advocating lying surely being a hypocrate is a bigger sin than not having shame about your sexuality hahaha hilarious

Edited February 6, 2013 by Emilia

[pbjbear]

but aren't we all?

 

Excuses....excuses...excuses

 

I like to think Im not a hypocrite.

 

I just want a relationship where I am treated with respect and the guy isnt selfish (being a manwhore yet expecting your girlfriend to be pure for you is pretty selfish). Very hard to find.

[Drseussgrrl]

Don't really give a rat's patoot what a dude did before I came along, as long as there aren't any crazies hanging around and he's clean.

[veggirl]

Don't really give a rat's patoot what a dude did before I came along, as long as there aren't any crazies hanging around and he's clean.

 

I totally agree. and will add, I don't want to hear about it!! So I agree with OP in that sense. no need to inform me of your past fk buddies and s.hit, really!

[LexiB]

All the debate about whether or not having a FWB is "classy" or "appropriate" or whatever is irrelevant. My only question: how the hell did this come up in an introductory conversation?

 

Context is key here. PhillyDude, if she just randomly blurted out that she's had f*buddys, then yeah...inappropriate. If however, you voluntarily engaged in a sexual conversation this early in the game, and happened to hear something you didn't like, well then, too bad. That's on you. The girl did nothing but be honest.

[normal person]

I can't think of a way justify to being mad at someone for something when you've done it yourself.

 

OP, did you ask her about this or did she just reveal it out of the blue? When it comes to questions about this stuff and sexual history, I think whatever the answer is will affect how you think about the person, and most likely it'll be a negative reaction. When people want to talk about that stuff it irks me. I think ignorance is bliss when it comes to sexual history and all this. Personally I don't ask, I don't know, and I don't want to know.

[Untouchable_Fire]

She had a couple of FWB in the past????? I don't think I'm supposed to know that. It's hard for me to take someone seriously who admits to "f*cking a guy every time she was horny.

Anyone agree?

 

If a guy has a FBuddy he is an idiot. If a woman has an FBuddy... she is an idiot.

 

I don't know even 1 such situation where it ended well. Only selfish asholes do this kind of stuff.

 

The more laidback she is the better.

Nothing says laidback like no strings attached sex.

 

It's hot because you think that makes her sluttier.

[Drseussgrrl]

If a guy has a FBuddy he is an idiot. If a woman has an FBuddy... she is an idiot.

 

I don't know even 1 such situation where it ended well. Only selfish asholes do this kind of stuff.

 

 

 

It's hot because you think that makes her sluttier.

 

Um, no it doesn't always end badly. Sorry to burst your self-righteous bubble.

[Revolver]

So if I have a FWB... I'm a selfish *******?

 

LMAOOOOOO

[pbjbear]

So if I have a FWB... I'm a selfish *******?

 

LMAOOOOOO

 

No, but if you were to turn down a woman who had one youd most definitely be selfish. No way around it.

 

I would rather not date a guy with a casual sex past but most do have one so I dont ask. Plus, current attitudes and beliefs are more important to me in a guy. Most of the guys I dated that I later found out had casual sex in their past had very undesirable personality traits to go with it, but not everyone is like that.

 

What infuriates me beyond belief, are men with casual sex pasts that think women with the same past arent worthy. This sense of entitlement really pisses me off. So many entitled selfish men existing today. I **** any girl when Im horny, but god damn, I DESERVE a girl who doesnt do the same. WTF? Shut up and get over yourself

 

This kind of attitude is one of the reasons I think men are selfish...double standards are for selfish people

Edited February 6, 2013 by pbjbear

[Woggle]

When the virgins here get in an uproar about a woman's sexual history then you can respect them for it since they are at least not being hypocritical.

 

I agree though nobody should be in an uproar over it. If a man who is a virgin or very few partners decides he wants a woman who is like him I see nothing whatsoever wrong with it but if a former player wants a pure virgin it is completely hypocritical.

[pbjbear]

When the virgins here get in an uproar about a woman's sexual history then you can respect them for it since they are at least not being hypocritical.

 

Yes thats fine.

I understand completely if a virgin doesnt want someone with a past of casual sex because they prob see it as a compatibility issue.

 

Sexual history is a compatibility issue for some people and thats fine. But when it involves people expecting the opposite of what someone does themselves...pure sense of entitlement and selfishness. Cannot stand it.

[kaylan]

It's just some things that are better left unsaid like

 

1. If you had a FWB

 

2. Multiple One Night stands

 

3. Number of sexual partners

Why be a prude. Its 2013. I assume most women have done those things at least once. I know I have.

 

I dont mind if a girl has had a few FWBs, as I have, but those are on a different level than ONSs.

 

You are way too uptight about sex. I didnt know guys like you existed anymore. Most girls have at least had a FWB if they havent had a ONS. And FWB are more common since those are done with someone you at least trust.

Yes thats fine.

I understand completely if a virgin doesnt want someone with a past of casual sex because they prob see it as a compatibility issue.

 

Sexual history is a compatibility issue for some people and thats fine. But when it involves people expecting the opposite of what someone does themselves...pure sense of entitlement and selfishness. Cannot stand it.

This exactly. Unless you have NEVER done those things OP, you cant expect that out of a mate. You expect a sexually "reserved" chick to be ok with you having such a past when you yourself arent?

 

Lets not be hypocrites.

Edited February 6, 2013 by kaylan

[Revolver]

No, but if you were to turn down a woman who had one youd most definitely be selfish. No way around it.

 

I would rather not date a guy with a casual sex past but most do have one so I dont ask. Plus, current attitudes and beliefs are more important to me in a guy. Most of the guys I dated that I later found out had casual sex in their past had very undesirable personality traits to go with it, but not everyone is like that.

 

What infuriates me beyond belief, are men with casual sex pasts that think women with the same past arent worthy. This sense of entitlement really pisses me off. So many entitled selfish men existing today. I **** any girl when Im horny, but god damn, I DESERVE a girl who doesnt do the same. WTF? Shut up and get over yourself

 

This kind of attitude is one of the reasons I think men are selfish...double standards are for selfish people

 

While I wouldn't turn down a woman for this because as I said before pretty much every woman has been some man(or multiple men)'s Bootycall. So it's pretty much unavoidable.

 

But if i did that's my choice and I have every right to pick what I like and don't like in a partner lol.

[ChessPieceFace]

So many entitled selfish men existing today.

 

And no nation of entitled selfish women milking men for child support. Nope that has never happened.