jim5billion Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 ok, so i started meeting up with a girl and we hit it off ... we would meet roughly once a week and 'get it on' in her car after having a few drinks .. this went on for a few months and during that time she was open about a couple of guys who lived elsewhere in the country calling her 'as friends' and chatting sometimes - i didnt feel i had a right to tell her to stop at that point... but , gradually we became closer and close - basically behaving like we were in a relationship- no difference. she stated to me at somepoint that one of the guys she'd been chatting to for years (that she met via the phone at work -because the company she worked for had two branches in two parts of the country) wanted to drive up to her town and stay in a hotel - and had asked her to join him... she told me this with a look of terror on her face , and said she'd ignore the phone all that if he did ... she said that it was pretty clear what his intention was. -so with that in mind , and also due to our increasing relationship (she now knew my bro, dad, etc - and had been to family parties - and was well known to my family) - i said tell him you dont want to talk to him anymore. and she said ok . we went from strength to strength - and everything seemed all well and good until: she took me to a store to buy a game/dvd ..and whilst i was asking about it to the staff she went outside 'for a smoke' - the shop assistant told me it wasnt in stock and so i followed her out ..she was on the phone -as soon as she saw me she said on the phone 'right i gotta go - i gotta start driving' i asked her 'who was that?' - and she said it was her friend ... and then said 'you wanna see?' i said yeah .. and she immediatley said 'no' ...we got into an argument as you can imagine ..and i said '**** it - im leaving' as she absolutley would not show me the phone ... a couple of minutes that she called me and said 'ok it was THAT guy- i saw he had called and i knew he would keep calling -so i took the only chance id have that night to kinda - get him out of the way' is this a clear sign that my girl is cheating? she changed her number to reassure me soon after, and made it clear that he was just somebody that used to call her - and had never even met him... now obviously no calls - but has she just refined how she is communicating with him? ... what do you people think?
2sure Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 She CHANGED her phone number so as not to get calls from him again. Because she is into YOU now. She is not so terribly invested in Driving you to the game store or banging You in her car that she would sneak around. She likes you , she doesn't want the other guy calling.
eMGunslinger Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Once a woman acts sketchy they will always seem to be sketchy. You could play it out and see if anything changes, judge her behavior, withdraw a little let her come to you and just feel it out see how she acts. But me I would not be putting 100% back into a relationship after this at least not right away.
2sure Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 If you keep freaking out at her she is going to be afraid to be honest with you
Keenly Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 She CHANGED her phone number so as not to get calls from him again. Because she is into YOU now. She is not so terribly invested in Driving you to the game store or banging You in her car that she would sneak around. She likes you , she doesn't want the other guy calling. Then why did she lie. Then why didn't she just tell this other guy she was into some one else? Why did she bluff and then get mad when she got called on it.
2sure Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Yes that's true. But changing her phone number is a pretty heavy measure of correction.
Keenly Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Yes that's true. But changing her phone number is a pretty heavy measure of correction. Changing your number looks good on paper jut all she has to do is give.it to him again.
2sure Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I can't help but think I would prefer to change my last name than my phone number.
Keke1 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Then why did she lie. Then why didn't she just tell this other guy she was into some one else? Why did she bluff and then get mad when she got called on it. What did she lie about exactly?
CC12 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 What did she lie about exactly? I'm not seeing where she lied. OP, did you leave your girlfriend at the video game store?
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