WalterUnplugged Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I'm Walter and I'll make this short. Met a girl years ago. We were a perfect match. Didn't last long because she took a job in another state. We stayed in touch on and off. The spark never left, even when we were dating other people. She was pretty much the "one that got away". Everyone has one, I think. She came back to town a couple years ago to visit her folks. She was newly engaged to a real jerk. He was emotionally abusive and manipulative. I tried to be a friend but we kept getting closer. Daily emails, texts, occasional phone sex. Despite the fact that it was obvious I was setting myself up for failure, it felt right for the first time in a long time. Well, one day she got cold feet and left. And then came back. And then left. And then came back and finally left. She said in no uncertain terms that she wanted no contact with me ever again, that any emails or contact would be collected and brought to the police, etc. I didn't have a single iota of contact with her after that. I may be a dumb guy but some stoves are too hot to touch. It's been a year. I've wondered about her. Last Saturday night I get an email from her saying nothing more than "I'm still in love with you". Now, my question isn't if I should try and talk to her. I'm not sure if I want her back in my life after all this run-around. My questions IS this - she threatened to call the cops on me back then, so does her reaching out on her own now negate that? Basically, I'm trying to figure out if I even have an OPTION to reply to her. I take that sort of stuff with great seriousness. So please put aside the platitudes of "Why would you want to get back together with her" because I honestly am not sure I want to yet. I just want to know if I could be, I dunno, arrested for just replying at all? I hope this makes sense.
SharkTooth Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 The answer is no. Reply with the thread started by her. It wouldn't matter anyway unless she had a restraining order filed with the local Sheriff. But you would be served that info so you would know if she had that order against you... Read your post from outside of the box if you can. I think you may have temporary insanity. haha. That's what I got from reading the "back again, left again" X 3 Good Luck!
lovelifexx Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Why did she threaten to contact the police? Did you do something crazy?
GG3 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Why did she threaten to contact the police? Did you do something crazy? Ditto. That part doesn't make sense.
Author WalterUnplugged Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 Did *I* do something crazy? I don't think so but wouldn't I be the worst person to ask? It was basically that she'd decide to let go for good and I was expecting more of the same "leave, come back" act. The police thing was really just her saying "I mean it this time". As much as I still care for her, I have to be honest: I was really wiped out after it ended. Got myself into therapy, started doing... Well, not GREAT but a bit better. I'm very unsure about resuming any contact with her but I also want to make sure she's okay. Yes, it sounds like bull**** but I'm a bit of a glutton for punishment.
lovelifexx Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 If she has left and come back on a number of occasions then I would def. not reply. Or Id tell her I couldnt trusr her again and to please stop contacting me again. 1
ruh roh Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 If the same thing was happening to me, I would stay as far away as possible from her. She definitely has some serious issues, which you seem to have already acknowledged. Why put yourself out there for her to hurt or humiliate again. Legally you have every right to reply to her email since she initiated it, but why put yourself through that again. From what you wrote, it seems almost that she is using you for an "ego boost" of sorts, when she is having problems in her current relationship. It appears that you have three options, 1) being to reply back to her and see if the fun can start over again 2) not to reply at all and let her drift like the wind or 3) (my favorite) reply back and tell her if she contacts you again that you will gather everything and take it to the police! I guess it will depend on your current situation and emotional well being as to which option you choose. Good luck to you either way.
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