Acer925 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Just wanna see what others think of my situation. Met this woman online 4 years ago she said she was 33, I was 21 at the time. We spoke for 6 months and I decided to go stay with her. We communicated via webcam up until that point. Also, she told me about 3 months in that she was really 38 not 33. I was very hurt but ultimately decided to move forward because I loved her. I get there and everything's ok but I had a feeling she was even older than 38. I couldn't really tell from the webcam but seeing her in person I just had a feeling. I look at her drivers license and find out she's really 45!! I'm 22 at this point. I was so crushed. Long story short, we stayed together for 3 more years living together although had lots of downs. We are still together now just not living together because of job situation. I've been conflicted the entire time I was with her, actually tried to break it off several times but she made me feel so guilty everytime that I couldn't do it. Loved her so I didn't want to crush her. I am still deeply in love with her but I'm still so confused and it still bothers me because I always wanted kids and she even knew that. Going from 38 to 45 takes that option out and that's why I think it was a terrible thing. When I confronted her about it she started crying and apologizing and stuff. Sorry this is so long I just want others opinions on this maybe it will help me clear things up for myself. I still love her to death but thinking ill never have my own kids is kind of awkward and ill feeling to me and hard to come to terms with.
will1988 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 wow she is literally twice your age... but if that works for you, good for you I suppose. Your 22, are your sure one day you may not find someone around your own age or at least a lot younger than her that you may end up running off with? can you see yourself doing that? If so I'd leave her now and spare her heartache later on. Think of it this way, she may be an attractive 45 year old now, but in 10 years she will be 55 and much less attractive... you will be 32, and still relatively young. Also are you sure she can't have kids? My GF's parents were in their 40s when they had her... hell her older sister is 40 now and I always joked that that was actually her mom, but my GF insisted that her parents are actually her parents. Have you all tried? But you are still young. Is she one of your first relationships? I ask this because generally you become attached and you may feel comfortable in the relationship but you don't know how you would react if someone around your age comes along. But hey if you love her and see yourself growing older with her, then good for you. If you truly want kids with her and see yourselves getting married, then your best bet is to either adopt or get a surogate mother and use your sperm... that way at least you can actually say you are the child's biological father. good luck!
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