superb Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I've been divorced for 6 years, full complete closure to the marriage. My ex husband has a gf, they had their 2nd baby today and he named the baby a name him and I chose when we were expecting our 3rd child. (our 3rd child turned out a girl not a boy so we didn't use the name) Is this weird? I think it's kind of wrong to do. I'm not mad, cute baby and all but they should have picked their own baby name. What do you think?
Jstub Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 hmm.. it is kind of strange, maybe he liked the name very much. Does it really bother you? or just a thought you are having?
Author superb Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 hmm.. it is kind of strange, maybe he liked the name very much. Does it really bother you? or just a thought you are having? It doesn't bother me. I just think things that were part of the marriage (including baby naming plans) should have stayed there. I wouldn't have even considered that name again if I were to have another child. Maybe I have more divorce manners than some...lol. Also, kids say his gf doesn't know that was our baby name plan back then, I just think that is wrong.
Mr. Lucky Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I'm not mad, cute baby and all but they should have picked their own baby name. What do you think? Sounds like they did pick their own name, just happened to be one you and your exH discussed. What's the real issue ???? Mr. Lucky
Author superb Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Sounds like they did pick their own name, just happened to be one you and your exH discussed. What's the real issue ???? Mr. Lucky lol no real issue. Just a thought I had since the baby came today.
TaraMaiden Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Well, I hate to say it, but if it's a name he likes, there's no monopoly on it.... I can see where you're coming from, but it's really more your issue than his.... Let it go.... (I do wonder what his wife would say if she knew that, though.... I would suspect he hasn't told her...... BUT: I'm not for one nano-second suggesting you do....!) 2
GuyInLimbo Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I'll side with you. Not that it's "wrong" per se, but I see why it might be a little strange. 1
Author superb Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 It is but I'm not upset really. I won't be telling her...lol I don't care that much.
carhill Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 What do you think? I think it's wonderful that you both have had children and that divorce has apparently not dampened either party's relationship and parental spirit. 3
jlindemann Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I chose my son's name because I loved the name ever since I dated a guy in high school, he had a brother by that name. I always swore that when I had a son, I would name him that. My ex (son's dad) doesn't know where the name came from. I didn't know if he would be mad....i just loved the name. My daughter came first, so I had to wait until I was ready for another child. We ended up having my son 3 years later. (we're divorced now, but if I didn't have a son with him and ended up with someone else, I would have named him that). I think people just fall in love with a name, and know it's perfect for their child. 1
standtall Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 5 kids? It sounds like he should have named the last one "trojanless" or something. 2
Author superb Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 5 kids? It sounds like he should have named the last one "trojanless" or something. Him and I had 5, he went on to have 2 more. That's a different story though.
xxoo Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Maybe she really liked the name, and suggested it. It would be awkward for him to say no, explaining that he had once planned to use that name for a child. Also, you picked 5 names Ultimately, you didn't use one, so it shouldn't be off limits because you might have used it.
Mr. Lucky Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Him and I had 5, he went on to have 2 more. That's a different story though. With 7 kids, I'm surprised he can remember their names, much less who considered one first. Does he support all of them? Mr. Lucky
worldgonewrong Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 With 7 kids, I'm surprised he can remember their names, much less who considered one first. Well, there's George Foreman II , George Foreman III, George Foreman IV, etc. 1
Mr. Lucky Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Well, there's George Foreman II , George Foreman III, George Foreman IV, etc. Don't forget his daughter, named... :laugh: Mr. Lucky 1
Author superb Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Maybe she really liked the name, and suggested it. It would be awkward for him to say no, explaining that he had once planned to use that name for a child. Also, you picked 5 names Ultimately, you didn't use one, so it shouldn't be off limits because you might have used it. lol she didn't suggest it.
Author superb Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 With 7 kids, I'm surprised he can remember their names, much less who considered one first. Does he support all of them? Mr. Lucky After he got with the gf he quit paying child support and helping me with our 5 so I take care of my 5 on my own. So no.
Mr. Lucky Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 After he got with the gf he quit paying child support and helping me with our 5 so I take care of my 5 on my own. So no. Wow. Good for you, I'm sure it's very tough. In that case I'd worry more about his exact address so I could serve him with papers and less about his baby names... Mr. Lucky
Author superb Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 Wow. Good for you, I'm sure it's very tough. In that case I'd worry more about his exact address so I could serve him with papers and less about his baby names... Mr. Lucky I've been dealing with the courts, they can't find record of employment to enforce child support again. They've issued warrants, just a matter of time. Til then I do what I have to do to provide my kids with a good quality of life and stable environment.
Mr. Lucky Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I've been dealing with the courts, they can't find record of employment to enforce child support again. They've issued warrants, just a matter of time. Til then I do what I have to do to provide my kids with a good quality of life and stable environment. Good on you! I can only imagine how tough to be a single parent and sole provider for 5 kids. Do you have any family to help? Mr. Lucky
Author superb Posted February 8, 2013 Author Posted February 8, 2013 Good on you! I can only imagine how tough to be a single parent and sole provider for 5 kids. Do you have any family to help? Mr. Lucky My sister helps me out with babysitting and stuff when I'm working, so yeah It is very difficult at times but I just keep going. Although things aren't perfect I make the best of it and we're all pretty happy for the most part.
marty7 Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 i have no issue with this at all. move past it
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