Iotome Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 So me and a girl of 6 months just broke up, it is day one and this being my first real relationship I am just lost. It was me who did the breaking in the end and I just feel so terrible about it. So badly I wanted to say wait I'm wrong, but I didn't Anytime I think about her crying and being held by her family or friends I just break down, it was me who did the holding when she felt bad and now I am the reason. I have dated many other girls in the past, it was never serious but about half of the time it was them who decided not to pursue it in the end. That was hard but this is so much harder than being turned down ever was. We had a bunch of problems we needed to work on and she said she was willing to. I actually made another thread about this a little while ago. Here is the link. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/368978-need-help-s-hard-being-dumper#post4541646 Anyways she said she wanted to try and work on our problems but I also realized how little we actually had in common when it came to general interests. This would usually lead to me doing the compromising and doing the things she wanted without fuss. She said she was willing to try and get interested in the things that I liked, but I kept thinking that I didn't want her to do it because she was afraid of losing me I wanted her to actually be interested. Now I know everyone does have differences in a relationship but ours seemed like a very high amount. A pair of really good friends had told me that if we have to work this hard at it than things probably aren't going to work out. I'm just really regretting that decision now. She gave me multiple chances to keep her, she asked if I was willing to fight for us and I didn't say anything. I kept thinking that if I said yes and down the road it didn't end up working out that I will feel so much worse than I do now. This being my first actual relationship I wanted to get some help on what to do. How long will it take me to get over this and when should I start dating again? Should I tell her I was wrong and that we should try everything we possibly can? I just feel lost right now. Sorry for the long post.
jax33 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 First of all, Sorry for your break up.. Never an easy thing to do. I say give it some time. Sometimes as the saying goes, don't know what you got til it's gone. It may seem like an impossible thing getting on with your life but it will eventually get easier, although you may never forget. Be strong, stand tall. You are responsible for your own happiness.
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