gemma222 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 i am 23 years old and i dont seem to enjoy sex, the guy im seeing, i get very wet easily, (to my surprise as i dont feel turned on), but then i just dont enjoy sex or foreplay really, it is not that im uncomfortable with my body or find sex gross, it is just that i find it boring and sometimes i resent penetration because it makes me feel like i need to wee. the guy is nice and hes going to be patient, but i just cant seem to get in to it and just want to stop out of boredom. i have slept with a few guys and its been the same every time. i do masterbate but i dont feel that turned on when im doing it and my orgasms are quite weak, infact im not sure if im orgasming, it starts to feel really good and i want it to last longer but then i just kind of flinch and all the good feelings are gone. its like a split second electric shock. things that turn me on could be being dominated by a guy . i also find it hot if a guy is angry at me and in the past ive pissed guys off on purpose just for that reason , but i know i cant act like a child anymore because no guys likes it and its pretty weird. but something like that i would think about over and over because itd make feel so hot, whereas thinking about a dick going in and out of vagina for mutual pleasure is not that hot too me.... i want to be normal and was wondering if anyone had any advice to help get really turned on by sex.
Toddbt12y1 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Well...ah. maybe you should share your thoughts with your partner, gemma...and see if they can play an angry dominate role in bed. That's hard to say to someone who has the same name as my ex lol
Author gemma222 Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 Well...ah. maybe you should share your thoughts with your partner, gemma...and see if they can play an angry dominate role in bed. That's hard to say to someone who has the same name as my ex lol i could but sometimes i think its not even that, sometimes i think im looking for a father figure but its not that im mentally a child its just i want to act like that which si weird. whereas relationships are about mutual respect and being an adult, but i just dont understand what is so sexy about normal sex
Toddbt12y1 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Nothing wrong with spicing it up. Father figure thing...well..that might be something another poster could advise on. Though my ex Camara... father issues I am not super experienced to help with that. However, many couples spice sex up. Some with dominating. Some with bdsm. Some with role playing. That isn't totally out of adult spectrum. Everyone gets bored with sex eventually and spices it up. Hopefully another poster comments on the father figure thing.
BreakOnThrough Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 A lot of Women like to be dominated over, ever read shades of Grey? The best you can do is either find a willing partner, or discuss this desire with your current one. Men are so afraid to be Men today they really are doing a disservice to Women, turning them off in general. Taking charge for most Men is very difficult today.
GoodupsEvil Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I would share your thoughts openly and honestly with your partner. Tell him exactly what you want, and how you want it. You are not doing him any favors by "going with the flow". Sex is for both of you, and if you are not enjoying it, you will grow to resent it further, which will have an impact on your relationship. If you have inhibitions about talking to him about it, find some other means of communicating it to him. Find an adult video/story that does the trick for you and watch/read it with him or have him watch/read it. Write him a letter or a story of your fantasy.
MidwestUSA Posted February 8, 2013 Posted February 8, 2013 I almost lost it at "wee". It sounds as if you need some basic sex ed. Get some books, videos, do some online searching. Google "eleven types of female orgasm". If you aren't sure you're having one, you probably aren't. I have no doubt all my neighbors know when I am, and have probably shut their windows after number five. Good luck!
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