Mrlonelyone Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 There is a lot of pseudo-liberalism here in this country. "Yes! We'd love to have a shelter for the homeless! Just don't build it in our neighborhood" "Yes! We love seeing interracial couples! Just make sure it's not our daughter that's participating" Etc etc. It's not outward, burning crosses on lawns racism. It's subdued, which is harder; because you don't know who you have a shot with until you actually put yourself out there and get burned and you're like "ahh...i know why" ^^ THIS. People in NYC, CHI, LA have problems with that. They just aren't bold enough to say something. It's not racist to just not be turned on by someone. It is a bit prejudiced to not choose somoene who checks most of your boxes because of race. The most shallow of traits...it is litterally skin deep. 1
Els Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 If you feel it would help you, I don't see why not. IMO experiencing a different environment and culture is extremely beneficial in and of itself, and there's no better time to do this than when you're young and unattached. Do it. At least once.
EasyHeart Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Dating when you get out of college is the absolute worst period of any man's dating life. You go from a place where pretty much all the women you meet are unmarried and age-appropriate to a place where pretty much all the women you meet are married and/or older than you. It might be better in the city, simply because there are more people, but the women are still going to be mostly married and/or older, plus you're going to be competing with a lot of men who are more mature and more established than you are. I agree that this is the time to be focusing on your career. It's not a matter of trying to impress women with money; it's the simple reality of wanting to do something with your life. It's part of that 'work on yourself first' kind of thing that we talk about a lot on here. In college it's fine to get by on potential, but in the real world, the only thing people care about is 'what have you done for me lately?" And like it or not, the older and more serious you get, the more that stuff will matter. Not just to women, but to you as well. 1
StanMusial Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Out of college + living in the suburbs is tough for dating regardless of race.
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