ALover Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 (edited) *LONG READ* So I met a girl 3 years ago... we became best friends and we were really close. But after a fight we drifted apart, until about a year ago. After catching up we confessed our feelings for each other and decided we would try being together (We decided we wouldnt be gf and bf until we got a little closer). We were very intimate and everyone saw us as a couple. At one party, she got absolutely hammered, and made out with some random guy in front of me, which I forgave her for, the memories of which have started creeping back up on me. Anyway, later I found out she'd banged a few guys and sucked off looooads of people (she was a virgin when I met her),and had also fallen in love with her first love, who she was mad about, yet he couldnt give two sh**s about her, and I felt pretty angry, but nevertheless carried on. Around last summer, we had a huge arguement and took a break for about 3/4 weeks. We then decided that we missed eachother dearly, and went back together. I found out, weeks later, that over the break, she banged her first love a couple of times, because she still had feelings for him. Everything was great until Christmas, when she went to a party with her ex, and I got pretty jealous. She said she was tired of my jealousy and left me over the Christmas Holidays too. Btw, up until this point, I was very infatuated, but not in love with her. So over the holidays I was determined to get over her, but she was texting me saying she missed me, then the next day she would take it back and say she hated me. So then comes new year, and she tells me that she'd had time to reflect the first year of our relationship and was deeply and truly sorry for it. At this point, I had matured in my feelings for her, and told her that this was the last time I would take her back. This was about 2 weeks ago. Everything has been going great, she's really trying hard to show that she's sorry for everything in the past. But she said that she doesnt regret banging her first love over the Summer, and she quite enjoyed it. She said that she's fallen in love with me, just like she did her first time with the other fella. I, however, am a virgin who has never experienced love, and so therefore her history really makes me wonder what I'm doing with her. I do love her so dearly, but when I think about her past, it makes me want to throw up from anger and jealousy. I really wish I could forget her whole past and just enjoy the present with her, but I don't know how, help? Oh, and she says that I'm the only guy that ever truly cared for her, and I do, and she really likes that about me. I managed to give her her first orgasm too, 2 days ago , and she's a squirter! And just to top it off, she's depressed, bullemic, anorexic, cuts herself, and has attempted suicide many times. She has voices and stuff like that. But I don't care, I love her for her, and I'm pretty sure her past made her who she is, but it really bugs me when I think about it, and it makes me question my reasons for being in this relationship, I really want it to work, I need help She's getting help for all of her illnesses, so don't worry! EDIT: We've been speaking a lot recently about the long term, and I really want it to work out, it's just her past that is in the way Edited February 5, 2013 by ALover
will1988 Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I call troll on this one! If you are not a troll dude put on your air jordans and run like hell away! This chick is bat scheize insane! Have you ever heard the saying "once a cheater always a cheater?". She cheated on you multiple times and then comes crawling back to you. Do you know why she does that? do you? because you are her safety net, you are her door mat for christsakes! You were her friend. You let her walk all over you and use and abuse you like an old plaugh horse (minus the plaughing until recently)! She got mad because you were jelous? really? she fornicated random guys and blew even more and she thought you would just take like a little fairy princess? really? Just reading your story is making me angry at this woman! You are being treated like a play thing! I know what it is like to be treated badly by your first love, but seriously you have to get over it! grow a pair, or remove them from her coin purse, and dump her! Dump her now! I literally mean now! send her text, email her, call her, smoke signal her, or just quit contacting her all together... whatever you do it has to be now! not tomorrow, but now! She will continue to hurt you and walk all over you and treat you like yesterday's gucci purse!
Author ALover Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Lol I'm no troll! I almost did it yesterday, but she got really really sad and said that I was the first guy she felt like she could spend her life with, so I took her back... mistake?
TigerCub Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Lol I'm no troll! I almost did it yesterday, but she got really really sad and said that I was the first guy she felt like she could spend her life with, so I took her back... mistake? She also told you that she doesn't love you - so how can you be the guy that she wants to spend her life with? Stop acting like a pussy and dump her - if not then just accept that she's still in love with the first "love" guy and you're just a convenient space filler. sorry, I don't mean to be harsh - but you're totally acting like her doormat. 1
Author ALover Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 I did it. I feel terrible, because she was begging me to stay, saying that she'd changed and that she wanted to work for my trust, and I'm regretting it already
animalover Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 I did it. I feel terrible, because she was begging me to stay, saying that she'd changed and that she wanted to work for my trust, and I'm regretting it already Seriously dude...what are your deal breakers? How can you even think about settling for a woman who admittedly don't love you and disrespect you? It comes a moment where you stop being a victim and become a volunteer.....
Author ALover Posted February 10, 2013 Author Posted February 10, 2013 Since we got back together, she kept on telling me she loved me and that nobody made her happier and now she keeps telling me she was truly sorry for what she did in the past, and that we should just forget it and move forward together... My dealbreaker is normally cheating and stuff like she did, but I dunno, with her it kinda just felt not as bad.
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