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So Im having a first hang with a girl tonight. She has a bf who lives overseas and visits once a month. What do you all think of the situation at hand?

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So Im having a first hang with a girl tonight. She has a bf who lives overseas and visits once a month. What do you all think of the situation at hand?

 

What is your intention? To be in a relationship?

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So Im having a first hang with a girl tonight. She has a bf who lives overseas and visits once a month. What do you all think of the situation at hand?

 

 

Perhaps good for you and the girl but pretty bad for the overseas BF.

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I dont think there is anything wrong with making new friends. I would be the guy who takes the high road though, if she starts acting interested, let her know that while you would like to be friends you need to respect the boundries of the relationship she is currently in. There would be nothing worse than getting involved with her only to find you were just a filler for her lonliness, and man#1 shows back up and saves the day.

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What's your definition of a cheater? If she has a BF but accepts a date with you - how exactly do you win in the scenario you propose?

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She is scopeing for options in anticipation of a likely break up with the bf. It's fairly common with some people.

 

Would you like to be that bf? Put yourself in those shoes and make of it what you will.

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I think until shes single, you shouldnt view her more than a friend

 

If she is window shopping for other men while with this bf, she prob would with you too though...keep that in mind

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What is your intention? To be in a relationship?

 

To be honest nothing my friends are the ones saying this and that.

That's why I wanted different opinions. I worry that when the bf comes back even if for a day she will act like I don't exist until like some people said "until she's lonely"

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To be honest nothing my friends are the ones saying this and that.

That's why I wanted different opinions. I worry that when the bf comes back even if for a day she will act like I don't exist until like some people said "until she's lonely"

 

Are you a substitute boyfriend then? I'm confused. Friend zone her for you own good. Sounds like a situation that could get VERY messy.

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