Author Echo000 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 I would leave, and tell her why I was leaving. Your absence will either make her realize how much you mean, or prove to you that she never did care enough to be with you. Dont let her string you along. You dont need that. Life is too short.
Ready36 Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 She has literally described it herself as such. Father disowned her when she was young and was never around..has had really immature bfs in the past that cheated on her, suffered sexual abuse once, etc. Mate, this basically is my situation down to the letter! Ex had a dad that left her an her sister when she was little, no contact except every now and then he sends her and her sister disgusting messages along the lines of "I'm ashamed of you" She was jut about to turn 23, and I am just 29. Her first boyfriend at 17 was like 38 an she was with him for 3 years. cheated on her for last 6 months. Since then she only had flings no relationships that I'm aware of but the last guy she was seeing before me treated her like crap and had sex with her when drunk, she got pregnant and had to have an abortion and counselling. Then I come along. At first, play it mr cool after 3 months we kind I agree we are bf and gf. It seemed like a really big step for her. I definitely think she has some form I commitment issues, little red flags lookin back now. Like he doesn't think she wants to get married, doesn't think she wants kids, the idea if being with one person forber scares her etc. But she was SOOO into me. I treat her really well, try to be that guy she has never had, so bocce things or her etc. then one day BAM tells me her feelings have changed and the attraction has gone!?! But I know for a fact she was once really attracted to me. I asked or reasons she said the following- maybe hinges got to comfortable (if you can figure out what that means!!) and that we are in different places and she "needs to sort herself out". She said it just wasn't making her happy anymore. That's it genuinely was her and not me- she has issues and is in a weird place and doesn't want to be with anyone. That I was the perfect boyfriend and one in a million an shouldn't change. But I found out she started to date a guy she claims was nothing about 5 weeks later (lasted a month) and then a month and a half later (having only said she wants to be on her own and is happier not being with anyone) started seeing a guy and as far as I know is still doing so. She said she liked the fact I was caring and that I acted like any other decent boyfriend. Ill be honest I can't figure out if this was just one of those things or whether her issues were really a factor.
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