W99273474 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I've been seeing a guy for a month, and for the most part, I was looking to have some fun. Add a little thrill in my life since I had never dated multiple men. My winter break fling, was what it was supposed to be, but I developed feelings for him. Thing is, I'm really bad at expressing my feelings and probably hinted about them in the wrong way. I'll give you the full scenario: 2 weeks ago, I came over, we made out like teens and he told me he was going on a business trip. (I was on my period at the time, and was feeling kinda needy) I told him that I enjoy seeing him and that I was going to have a "word vomit". I told him something along the lines of me hating talking about my feelings, but I can feel something growing and I ended that quickly, and I jokingly (maybe not really) asked him to make time for me, and he said he would. We knock boots, and watch a bit of a movie before we part ways (him going to an appointment for his taxes, and me going to class). He gets back from a business trip a week or so later, tells me he's tired/ jet lagged, so I told him to catch up to the rest of us. Have a goodnight, and hoped to see him soon. The next day, I got kinda drunk early and sent him a text I thought was funny... something about me wanting to see him because it's the year of the snake, it's my year, and hoping his day was going well. No response at all that day. I texted him two days later asking him how his day was around 9pm, and got no reply. I haven't heard from him in a while, unless it hasn't been that long...5 days now? Side note: I don't really want a relationship right now, but I do want to start dating a bit more seriously since I'm liking this guy. He's the only guy I'm sleeping with and the only one I'm interested in. So much for going with the flow. Any advice for me? I'm thinking of calling him at the end of this week. He has my movie at his place, I have two of his shirts and a gift for the guy... blah
pteromom Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Sounds to me like the "knocking boots" part was what he wanted, and he will probably call you again when he wants that again. At any rate, he isn't as excited about you as you are about him, because if he was, he would have been eager to see you and talk to you when he got back from his trip. Since you already have feelings for him, I would back off unless and until he shows real interest in you (beyond having sex with you). There's no point in investing emotions into someone who doesn't feel the same way.
clia Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 So, you've been dating him for a month, haven't seen him in two weeks (right?) and haven't heard from him in over five days? I'm sorry to have to be the one to tell you that you are no longer dating this man. Move on.
Author W99273474 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Okie dokie... Still want to get my movie back....lol
Talak7 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 uh... have you tried calling? Could his phone have died/broke on this business trip/been lost? Just saying to eliminate the random emergency things before telling him off. If it rings then you know hes ignoring you and he can just f- off then right? 1
Author W99273474 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 I've thought of calling... I wanted to give him a little bit of space first. Chances are, he might not be into me. I'm not happy with that, but I'd rather just be told that. Another thing.. My movies are at his place, and we had intentions of watching them later. Since later may not ever come, how should I go about getting them back. It's going to be awkward either way so......
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