Debbie2508 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Broke up with fiance 4 weeks ago. Tried to post the saga twice,but it took over an hour to type,was probably far too long anyway,and each time i pressed "submit"I lost it all!! So,suffice to say,I'm not sure I'm coping too well. I know that I'm the only one who can help me,but its sooo hard. The constant obsessive thoughts and questions and replaying the whole relationship in my head 24/7 (literally)are driving me crazy. Keep wanting to call him and ask if he's sure he's made the right decision. It was complicated,but had most to do with his teenage children refusing to have a relationship with him unless he left me and moved into his own place. They'd never met me but saw me as the reason he left,which,to be fair was true,although he had not been happy at home long before he met me. Anyway,i think I'm still in the denial stage and don't know how to move on. I keep telling myself i need to call him for closure,but I dont think I'd get it and am aware that talking to him would probably set me back. Part of me thinks that I want him to spell out once and for all that it's over and he really doesnt love me,and then I'd be able to move on....but another part of me knows it would kill me to hear that from him,and i daresay I'd stop myself believing he meant it anyway. I'm a total mess,sleeping badly,not eating,racing heart,shaky etc etc.....but its the constant thinking about it all that's the worst,if I could stop that,I think the other symptoms would sort themselves out.Any advice??
Forwardonly Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Hi, I don't have any words of wisdom but I relate exactly to what you are going through. If I could just get my ex out my head, I feel I could move on and live my life. I am struggling to stop myself from calling. I read in someone else's post that the call rarely goes how you want it to go. That is what is stopping me. I've decided to go NC for the whole of Feb and if I don't feel any better then, then I might call. On paper, NC sounds the way to go, but in practice it is soooo hard. I hope it gets easier for you.
Author Debbie2508 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Thanks Forwardonly. Have resisted the urge (for now). Decided one of 3 things would happen in response to my "fancy a chat?" text 1...no reply. I'd be upset 2..he'd reply "no thanks" or similar. I'd be upset 3..he'd say okay.I'd call him...and then be upset when he doesnt say he's made a huge mistake and wants me back. Nothing to gain,but lots to lose. Stay strong
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