Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Fair enough. OP shouldn't have asked the same question twice. Actually the previous humorous banter doesn't count as the "first", only the serious question counted as the first.
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Actually the previous humorous banter doesn't count as the "first", only the serious question counted as the first. ................. Yes, please carry on as you are. It's certainly bringing you lots of success with the ladies.
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 ................. Yes, please carry on as you are. It's certainly bringing you lots of success with the ladies. Of course it is. Been having quite the success, thank you. But I also don't put up with bad behavior either.
Emilia Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 bad behavior Crikey, a slight over-reaction, don't ya think? 1
ltjg45 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Actually the previous humorous banter doesn't count as the "first", only the serious question counted as the first. Let's see, shall we? and I asked, "So, I think you mentioned that you moved here in 2000, right?" I read your post and that first one was no doubt an actual question. I really don't see the humor of that, judging from how you posted it. I don't blame the female for thinking that was an direct question. Since this was all in chat, I said, "okay, okay, all kidding in side, how long have you lived in this neck of the woods?" Then you asked the same question again here. All you did was change some words to make it look like it's a different question but you was really looking for the same answer. She, being disturbed that she turned you down from asking the 1st question and noticed that you merely asked the same question again, merely let you off the hook easily by saying that she is more willing to answer them the next time you see each other in person. Your mistake was that you assume the 1st question was really humor when it wasn't to her. If it was, I doubt she would have shot you down the 1st time you asked. In all honestly, you should be grateful. Not all women is this dumb. 1
StanMusial Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 IRC what have you done to the ladies on here? LOL. They don't like you. Seriously, like asking someone how long they've lived in a new country is such a personal question? If you ask me she has something to hide. Maybe her visa is expired or something.
Emilia Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 IRC what have you done to the ladies on here? LOL. They don't like you. Seriously, like asking someone how long they've lived in a new country is such a personal question? It's the OP's posting history. You might not be aware of it. 1
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Let's see, shall we? I read your post and that first one was no doubt an actual question. I really don't see the humor of that, judging from how you posted it. I don't blame the female for thinking that was an direct question. Then you asked the same question again here. All you did was change some words to make it look like it's a different question but you was really looking for the same answer. She, being disturbed that she turned you down from asking the 1st question and noticed that you merely asked the same question again, merely let you off the hook easily by saying that she is more willing to answer them the next time you see each other in person. Your mistake was that you assume the 1st question was really humor when it wasn't to her. If it was, I doubt she would have shot you down the 1st time you asked. In all honestly, you should be grateful. Not all women is this dumb. Well, perhaps it's disturbing to even have a problem with such a generic question in the first place, which is really what this is all about. It's like when someone says something shocking, like "I just spit in your drink" and the person blinks, and goes "Excuse me, what?" And the person repeats, "I just spit in your drink." And the person goes, "Did you just tell me you spit in my drink?" see, the question was asked twice, because it had to be.
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 IRC what have you done to the ladies on here? LOL. They don't like you. Seriously, like asking someone how long they've lived in a new country is such a personal question? If you ask me she has something to hide. Maybe her visa is expired or something. Yeah, maybe she's worried about the INS or I have some kind of connection with them. :rolleyes:
StanMusial Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Well, perhaps it's disturbing to even have a problem with such a generic question in the first place, which is really what this is all about. It's like when someone says something shocking, like "I just spit in your drink" and the person blinks, and goes "Excuse me, what?" And the person repeats, "I just spit in your drink." And the person goes, "Did you just tell me you spit in my drink?" see, the question was asked twice, because it had to be. Yeah, that's an unusual reaction to an innocuous question. And through a chat medium things might be misconstrued anyway. I think the women on here just didn't like that you called her inept.
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I think the women on here just didn't like that you called her inept. This is because she actually displayed far more social aptitude than the OP did. It's like a pot calling a tree black. Worst thing is the OP doesn't even think he did anything socially inept, so he's going to do it again and again and again. Good for him. I can't begin to guess at her reasons for not wanting to answer that question, but that is irrelevant. It doesn't matter what reasons someone has, they're entitled to their privacy. Anyone who thinks it's okay to keep pushing past that is, newsflash, socially inept. If it bothers you that she's keeping that from you, then just stop pursuing her.
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 This is because she actually displayed far more social aptitude than the OP did. It's like a pot calling a tree black. Worst thing is the OP doesn't even think he did anything socially inept, so he's going to do it again and again and again. Good for him. I can't begin to guess at her reasons for not wanting to answer that question, but that is irrelevant. It doesn't matter what reasons someone has, they're entitled to their privacy. Anyone who thinks it's okay to keep pushing past that is, newsflash, socially inept. If it bothers you that she's keeping that from you, then just stop pursuing her. Of course, I never pushed it beyond whatever I had to. Anyhow, she said she'd tell me whenever she saw me in person. SO that's that.
ltjg45 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Well, perhaps it's disturbing to even have a problem with such a generic question in the first place, which is really what this is all about. While I would be concerned about it as well, I can understand that she has the power to answer or deny any question at hand for any reason. Everyone has that ability to pull that off, not just her. Now, if her not answering the question is a deal breaker for you, then you should bolt and not look back.
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Of course, I never pushed it beyond whatever I had to. Anyhow, she said she'd tell me whenever she saw me in person. SO that's that. Mmm. So what was the purpose of this thread again?
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 While I would be concerned about it as well, I can understand that she has the power to answer or deny any question at hand for any reason. Everyone has that ability to pull that off, not just her. Now, if her not answering the question is a deal breaker for you, then you should bolt and not look back. Not really no. Some people here think I'm an arse for just asking her twice, when it was just getting clarification on "Okay, are you joking with me about not wanting to give me that information, or are you serious about not wanting to tell me how long you've been living here?" OKay, I see that you were serious. Trying to open up the lines of communication here...and getting clarification, and that's a good thing
carhill Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Yes, some are <socially inept>, just like some men are, and it's generally unproductive to assign importance to interactions with relatively unknown individuals. The conversation apparently wasn't synergistic and no animals were harmed and the humans all moved on. Do what you do and endeavor to be socially apt in your dealings. What the ladies do is their business. 1
Author irc333 Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 I was informed that she isn't much for getting too personal with anyone she doesn't know well until at least 3 personal encounters at events our out and about (even though I went out dancing with her and a small group, and a local festival). Someone that knows her better informed me she's kind of a private person and you really have to have been around her long enough for her to be comfortable around anyone. My friend even advises to tone down the FB comments to a minimum, so you don't look like you're commenting on too many pics or her comments.
Imported Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Well, the "vibe" isn't the correct term,but since it's all in written form, I was asking a 2nd time for clarification. See, this is why women had made it so hard on men for dating these days. What's so hard about stopping asking questions when she kept on side stepping them, even going so far as to tell you that you are on the verge of creeping her out? Change the subject to being not an interview. Tell an interesting story about you. She's from Euro land? Hell, you always wanted to go there. You heard so many interesting stuff about it, like this this and that. Its not really wrong to ask questions. Probing for things she likes and so on, but if your whole "conversation" is you asking questions and her giving amswers , well than you're doing it wrong.
Treasa Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Maybe she's really here on a secret mission. Don't blow her cover! 1
Author irc333 Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 What's so hard about stopping asking questions when she kept on side stepping them, even going so far as to tell you that you are on the verge of creeping her out? I did stop.
Author irc333 Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 You stopped when she left but not exactly since you then made a thread about it. Thus the purpose of this site, to make a thread about things
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