irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I had went out with some friends, met this and a few other women in a group, so they. Recently we went to a festival in a downtown area, and we were all hangin' out. She had took some pics of me and other friends, and we tagged each other on FB. So I have established some rapport with her. Anyhow, I get to chatting with her online, and we're chatting back and forth, crackin' up on the photos, because we were all having fun in them. I recalled her telling me at a previous event when she moved to the area, she is European...and I asked, "So, I think you mentioned that you moved here in 2000, right?" Apparently her "on" button is still in the "on" position and she goes, "Well, I can't tell you that, because I'm here on a secret mission...and it's classified...blah blah blah" And I laugh and say back, "LOL....and I feel it's my duty to find out as much as by can by using my espionage skills to find out more about you then." And then she replies, "Please don't creep me out while doing so." And, now I'm getting his vibe that she was serious. Since this was all in chat, I said, "okay, okay, all kidding in side, how long have you lived in this neck of the woods?" And she goes, "Why do you ask?" Me, being a bit dumbfounded, "Well, um....figured it was normal question to ask a person living in this area" She goes, "Well, I'll tell you the next time we meet" and then she said she had to go. Not sure what I did...but that put a major buzz kill on our well established banter.
Emilia Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 It sounds to me that you asked too many personal questions and she had enough. It happens to me too, guys just firing off random questions that get more and more personal rather than actually have a conversation. 1
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Do some men like to post several threads about women one after another without bothering to come back and read/respond to any of them? 2
ltjg45 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Do some men like to post several threads about women one after another without bothering to come back and read/respond to any of them? Maybe they do but I don't. This is why I only started one thread since I been here. Mind you, I hasn't been here a week but you get the idea. Also, I have seen that first hand where asking even one question gets women on the defensive. It's like I need to continue the conversation by typing in sentences and only sentences. However, when she asks me a question, I answer it with no shame or guilt.
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 It sounds to me that you asked too many personal questions and she had enough. It happens to me too, guys just firing off random questions that get more and more personal rather than actually have a conversation. Actually, that was the ONLY personal questioned I asked about her. Do some men like to post several threads about women one after another without bothering to come back and read/respond to any of them? Of what men do you speak of?
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/371898-we-hanging-out-romantically http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/371891-when-men-try-get-your-bill-end-group-dinner
amaysngrace Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Some people are just more private than others. It's better if you can respect that instead of seeing it as a flaw. Just because she's more private than you are doesn't mean she's better or worse than you....just different. 1
monicaelise Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 What does the title of your post have to do with the post itself? It doesn't look like the woman in question was inept here. 2
Emilia Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Actually, that was the ONLY personal questioned I asked about her. Did you ask lots of questions though?
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 What does the title of your post have to do with the post itself? It doesn't look like the woman in question was inept here. For real. She tries to rebuff the question twice, he gets the 'vibe that she's being serious' and then asks it AGAIN?? Seriously.
ltjg45 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Did you ask lots of questions though? I find it hard for anyone (2 women, 2 men, and a men + women) to be able to have a conversation worth having without asking a decent amount of question pertaining to the topic at hand. So I don't see why a lot of questions is such a bad thing unless they all was off-topic questions.
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 What does the title of your post have to do with the post itself? It doesn't look like the woman in question was inept here. It's called a "hook". 2
Emilia Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I find it hard for anyone (2 women, 2 men, and a men + women) to be able to have a conversation worth having without asking a decent amount of question pertaining to the topic at hand. So I don't see why a lot of questions is such a bad thing unless they all was off-topic questions. Because it needs to be back and forth, ie a conversation. It's not meant to be one person barraging the other - and that's exactly what some guys do because they think that's how they keep a woman's interest. 2
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 For real. She tries to rebuff the question twice, he gets the 'vibe that she's being serious' and then asks it AGAIN?? Seriously. Well, the "vibe" isn't the correct term,but since it's all in written form, I was asking a 2nd time for clarification. See, this is why women had made it so hard on men for dating these days.
Emilia Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Well, the "vibe" isn't the correct term,but since it's all in written form, I was asking a 2nd time for clarification. See, this is why women had made it so hard on men for dating these days. No, I don't see. Please ellaborate
ltjg45 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Because it needs to be back and forth, ie a conversation. It's not meant to be one person barraging the other - and that's exactly what some guys do because they think that's how they keep a woman's interest. I certainly didn't aim for that when I spoke to this one female. She asked me what I did today, I told her that I did some job hunting, she tells me that's boring because I always say that, I asked her what she wants to talk about, she gets defensive over it. I'm like, "The hell?" Like what else can I do while unemployed? Get laid? Get drunk? Find a girlfriend? That does take money to acquire these things. Apparently she thinks I can get all of that for free.
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Well, the "vibe" isn't the correct term,but since it's all in written form, I was asking a 2nd time for clarification. See, this is why women had made it so hard on men for dating these days. Uh... this isn't just dating. When you're talking to someone, penis or vagina notwithstanding, and they try to rebuff a personal question TWICE, you just don't ask it again, period. Isn't that common sense?
amaysngrace Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Well you have to keep in mind that most girls can afford to stop developing their personality and social skills anywhere from 8-13 years old, depending on when they start sprouting breasts. Yeah probably right around the same age that boys realize that they don't really need a woman because they've learned how to rub one out themselves. 1
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I certainly didn't aim for that when I spoke to this one female. She asked me what I did today, I told her that I did some job hunting, she tells me that's boring because I always say that, I asked her what she wants to talk about, she gets defensive over it. I'm like, "The hell?" Like what else can I do while unemployed? Get laid? Get drunk? Find a girlfriend? That does take money to acquire these things. Apparently she thinks I can get all of that for free. This is totally unrelated to the OP's situation. Your 'female' is just being a drama queen.
Emilia Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Like what else can I do while unemployed? Read a book, get updated on current affairs, go for a gorgeous walk and enjoy the sunshine, talk to people and make someone laugh, go and see your friends and watch sport together, read funny stories, re-tell the funny stories you read, listen to new music, go on free exhibition/museum visits just stuff top of my head when I was unemployed
Author irc333 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Uh... this isn't just dating. When you're talking to someone, penis or vagina notwithstanding, and they try to rebuff a personal question TWICE, you just don't ask it again, period. Isn't that common sense? No she joked about it once, but I wasn't sure if she was joking or not, so I asked it again, only this time prefacing it with, "Joking aside...."
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I recalled her telling me at a previous event when she moved to the area, she is European...and I asked, "So, I think you mentioned that you moved here in 2000, right?" Apparently her "on" button is still in the "on" position and she goes, "Well, I can't tell you that, because I'm here on a secret mission...and it's classified...blah blah blah" And I laugh and say back, "LOL....and I feel it's my duty to find out as much as by can by using my espionage skills to find out more about you then." And then she replies, "Please don't creep me out while doing so." And, now I'm getting his vibe that she was serious. Since this was all in chat, I said, "okay, okay, all kidding in side, how long have you lived in this neck of the woods?" That's twice. I don't understand why you felt the need to persist with the questions. She was clearly trying to head you off with a bit of humor.
amaysngrace Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Last I checked boys didn't get a free pass in social situations with women because of their spectacular ability to jerk off. If you're a 13 year old girl interacting with 13 year old boys you could be the dumbest and least entertaining person on planet Earth, doesn't matter if you've got a decent pair. Note that I blame men for letting women get away with this, it's our fault, not yours. Yeah I understand what you're saying. Putting out helps at that age too though.
ltjg45 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 This is totally unrelated to the OP's situation. Your 'female' is just being a drama queen. Fair enough. OP shouldn't have asked the same question twice. No argument here from me. Even that sounds stupid to me. Read a book, get updated on current affairs, go for a gorgeous walk and enjoy the sunshine, talk to people and make someone laugh, go and see your friends and watch sport together, read funny stories, re-tell the funny stories you read, listen to new music, go on free exhibition/museum visits just stuff top of my head when I was unemployed Outside of reading books and walking, I can't do the rest. Don't have friends but that is because almost everyone I meet has that one trait that I just can't stand. I can talk to people but I'm too serious to make them laugh in public.
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