Need some support :(

[mammasita]

Im doing great with not contacting the ex, but not so good about leaving him out of my conversations with his sister. In fact the only reason I was talking to her yesterday was to find out if he feels bad or even cares about me. Yeah, I know bad - even terrible, move....because bottom line is that he doesn't.

 

I hadn't cried about this since Wednesday, but yesterday - they all came flowing again. I had to sit in the restroom at work for about 15 minutes.

 

Why am I so hung up on this guy?? He did nothing for me outside of being a warm body to keep me company. He makes considerably less money than me, which I normally care nothing about, but apparently I need to take that into consideration from this point forward. That said, he didn't support me financially - he had nothing to contribute to any bills except for his past due stuff in collections. Matter of fact - I was the one footing the bill for EVERYTHING in the name of love. I never thought he would use me, but apparently he did because I made it easy and I gave everything I could without expecting anything in return.

 

I suppose I need to stop dating men who need fixing and up my standards a bit

[Toddbt12y1]

You can tame a shark. So, no, I'd avoid guys that need fixing.

 

You cannot fix no-one. That is something internal, they have to realize.

 

Just like you. You need to come to the realization of your self-worth and moveon. This Guy did you terrible -- it'll always be a grievance for you; but see the real value: yourself. When you let anyone, lover or not, out you down, and make you feel bad; that becomes who you are.

 

Instead, see yourself as above these wasted tears. Tell yourself, you are better than this, when you feel a cry coming on. How you start to view yourself, here-on-out, will determine how you feel in the future.

 

Aim for an established man. One who doesn't need fixing. One who pays his bills timely.

[mammasita]

Thank you.

 

I am trying to work on myself......