michimichi Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 First of all, sorry if my English is confusing you. I'm new here but I often read the threads before I decided to sign up here. I need some enlightenments for sure. Me and my ex dated for 6 months until we finally broke up. We never argued or got angry with each other. If there was a miscommunication, we solved it right away. He was the best partner I've ever had and we click in many ways. Until that day. I was so stressed out about everything, especially college stuff. And I blamed it to him. I even said I wanted a break-up. I didn't mean it, I was only looking for attention. He didn't want it either but he got mad and accepted my request. I gave myself a day to think about the mistake I've done. The next day, I met him at his place. He said that he couldn't see me as the person I used to be and he disappointed with me. He was so angry because I mentioned about a breakup so easily. He has a past relationship trauma and so sensitive with a breakup. I told him that I didn't mean what I said, I was just under pressure. But he couldn't take it, he was too scared that I'll hurt him again. So then I said "if you're still scared, then why you wanna have a relationship with me in the first place? I thought you're healed already with the past relationship trauma." He said his sorry. We hugged for more than 2 hours, he told me he loves me but he can't be with me for now. From that day, I decided to go NC so I can heal myself from the heartbreak but I won't lie that I'm still looking forward for chances. It's been a month that we broke up though. And I proudly say that I have been living my life to the fullest! sometimes I miss him so much and it breaks me down but then I'll tell myself that everyday, I'm getting closer to the end of journey and I'll feel whole again. This motivates me a lot. He's contacted me several times though. But like, he cheered me before exams then we chatted a whole day. He sent me some college files, then we chatted for a little. Something like that. He's really a good guy, and I love his family also I hope there'll be a chance for us in the future but I won't put myself on hold. I have done the best I can, and the rest is up to God. What confused me is, why did he let me go so easily? Is my mistake unforgivable?
Hopeful714 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 To be blunt, yes, it was. You broke up with him and caused him trauma because YOU were putting blame on him for nothing that he specifically did and looking for attention? WTF? He was hurt before, and senses that you are/have moved him to the doormat role. He was smart enough to say "no way" and won't come back like a puppy when you call. Good for him. Learn from this mistake to respect others feelings and deal with stress instead of taking it out on people so that you can reap the benefit of attention.
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