magicallydelicious Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 i've been chatting with this guy from okcupid for about three weeks now. he looked at my profile a lot and rated me highly, but I was the first one to send a message, and he said that he was going to message me. anyway, in our last online interaction, he gave me his number, and said we should meet up for a drink or coffee. I ended up texting him, but I didn't actually respond to his meet up request. that was about two weeks ago, and we have been chatting daily since. the conversation never really stopped, we've just been continuously replying to each others' messages, so it never gets to the point where someone has to initiate conversation again. anyway, he hasn't brought up meeting again, and I'm wondering if he's just not interested, or if he's waiting for me to bring it up. I'm not really used to this whole online thing. anyone have any input? thanks.
MrCastle Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 He asked and you didn't give him an answer. Ball is in your court. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 (edited) Agreed. He asked. You ignored. You have to ask to meet at this point. My advice: Plan to meet sooner rather than dragging things out for weeks. In most cases , there will be zero chemistry when you actually meet...in which case, you just wasted three weeks that you could have spent trying to find someone more suitable. OLD is a different paradigm. When you meet a complete stranger in real life, there's mutual chemistry and the date is about compatibility on other levels. Online things are reversed. You start off with superficial compatibility. The initial date is about chemistry and to a lesser extent additional compatibility. You need both to have any hope at a sustainable romantic relationship. So unless there is a great need to add to your collection of brothers and platonic friends, get to a date quickly once he seems to have the basics you seek, to determine whether you are even attracted to each other. You will learn more from a single date, or even a phone call, than you ever can from a month or whatever of messaging on the dating site and endless texting. He tried. You declined to progress things. He's waiting for you to change your mind. If not, he'll move on shortly. Edited February 5, 2013 by Cutiepie1976
Casablanca Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 In my opinion, its best to meet up very soon...like send a few messages and then agree to meet somewhere. No reason to get one idea of what someone is like over a few weeks, finally meet and both parties have different expectations than what the other is really like.
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