Skyeliz Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years. We live in Puerto Rico, but he recently got a job at a accounting firm in California. He will be moving there this summer, and I will stay here in PR since I haven't finished college yet. We already talked about it, but we don't have any intentions of breaking up. Our plans are visiting each others every vacation or holiday, communicating through facetime or skype. I don't know if is gonna work out or not. I hope it does. But I just wanna know if someone had some kind of similar experience or an advice?
LittleTiger Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Hi Skyeliz. Welcome to LS. Lots of people cope well with going LDR during a long relationship. There is no reason why it shouldn't work if you're both committed to one another and you have plans to reunite permanently at some point in the not too distant future. Good luck with it and, if you hit any rough patches, which you probably will at some point (all relationships have rough patches, LDR or not), you can always vent about it or get some support here on LS.
Juicy Fruit Posted February 9, 2013 Posted February 9, 2013 Is he an honest guy? Or has he cheated on you in the past? Is he mature?
Author Skyeliz Posted February 11, 2013 Author Posted February 11, 2013 Thanks LittleTiger! That actually makes me feel a lot better. @Juicy Fruit He has never cheated on me. He is honest, but he has some immature moments.
KnightDk Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 How do you know that he never cheated on you? In situations like this he might start to date other woman, a have had few friends in similar situation and about 70% of them ended up with different woman.
PepperPotts Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 (edited) Skye, I'm in an LDR that started local. We had to go distance because he was a year ahead of me in school and graduated. It's doable, but it takes a lot of trust. My advice: * LDR only magnifies things. The distance is never the actual problem. If you get bored apart, you would have gotten bored with each other in person eventually. * Make a visitation plan now, and keep things even. You don't want to feel like one of you has to do all the traveling or spend all the money. * Make a communication plan now. Determine when you will talk on the phone and if you will Skype, email, text, etc. Having a plan and sticking to it ensures that neither of you is feeling neglected or forgotten. You don't want to leave uncertainty as an option-- if you can keep yourselves from wondering why the other person hasn't called, you won't get as worried or tense. Basically, you'll never have to sit by the phone wondering if or when he will call because you'll know he will call at 7:30, like usual. * Trust him not to break your heart. * As best you can, set an end date for this distance business and determine who will move where to be with the other person. Make this date as soon as is realistically possible, and *don't delay it for personal reasons.* if you get the opportunity to be with each other, take it! It can definitely work, but it takes dedication, honesty, and a lot of trust. And you have to be truly in love-- it should never be an option for when you just kind of like someone. That's a lt of heart ache for no good reason ! Edited February 11, 2013 by PepperPotts
Recommended Posts