Author quietGuy13 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 A lot of places in the world, it isn't rare to see a 60yr old male with an 18yr old female. Usually the older male sponsers the female. It works out for all in the end. Normally most women don't want to have sex with guys their age, so whatever floats your boat. I can't wait to be in my early 30s and go after 18 yr olds if I am still single. good for you. It's great
candie13 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 A lot of places in the world, it isn't rare to see a 60yr old male with an 18yr old female. Usually the older male sponsers the female. It works out for all in the end. Normally most women don't want to have sex with guys their age, so whatever floats your boat. I can't wait to be in my early 30s and go after 18 yr olds if I am still single. c'mon, the 18 years old aren't dating the 60's years old, but their bank account, that is obvious. why wait until you're 30, go for the 18 years old right now, to have good comparison material for when you get old - like 30! 1
Anela Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 18 is legal. It's past the age of coddling and overportectiveness. 18 year olds become strippers and pornstars all the time. We're not talking about rape here. Two consenting adults. TBH, at 18 doesn't matter if OP was 55. Over here, eighteen-year-olds aren't allowed to drink alcohol (legally), so I don't see why sex should be any different when it comes to the subject of this thread. They're still teenagers!
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 18 year olds should be allowed to drink too. Teenagers are allowed to have sex with other teenagers...
Anela Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 18 year olds should be allowed to drink too. Teenagers are allowed to have sex with other teenagers... It's creepy when an older guy is looking to take advantage of them. 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 It's creepy when an older guy is looking to take advantage of them. Perhaps. But the OP doesn't strike me as having the capacity to manipulate in a calculated manner. Maybe I'm wrong though... 1
somedude81 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 It's creepy when an older guy is looking to take advantage of them. How is it any easier to take advantage of an 18 year old over a 21 year old?
mortensorchid Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Dumb? That's not a very good way to describe yourself or the woman in question. Perhaps you meant immature or inexperienced? Because that's what an 18 year old is to you and those who are older around them. Perhaps you have to ask yourself why it is that you are interested in an 18 year old (other than the physical attraction factor). Are you not interested in women closer to your own age for some reason? Many years ago, I was with the second love of my life (who I am still good friends with) who was 40 and I was 22 when we met. We were together off and on for 2 years, then we ended it. He took up with another gal who was younger than me (you did not read that incorrectly), who was 19 at the time. They were together for 10 years - dating for a year, lived together for 2, then married for 7 until she left. What happened? Quite honestly it was because I grew up and he didn't. Then he wanted someone else who wasn't going to grow up, and it took her longer to do so, and then when she did she saw the light of the situation. In her case, she also decided that she was gay and left him for another woman, but that's another ballgame. Ha ha ha ... So are you in this same mindset? If so or not, then this is how others will see you. Just something to think about.
BehindBlueEyes Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Based on if I were the 18 year olds dad, or brother....I'd have an issue with you.
sillyanswer Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 So long as it's legal where you are (and it sounds like it is) the only thing I'd be really careful about is to make sure that she knows how old you are. Two adults choosing to date each other is just fine, but some people get really hung up on age differences and so long as both people know that there's an age difference then, since they are adults, they can choose whether to date or not. Anyway, good luck, and do come back and tell us how you get on with your 18 year old girlfriend.
sillyanswer Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Hey, if you want to risk the butt whooping, go for it. Because if it was anyone I loved and cared about, I'd have you beaten within an inch of your life. Seriously wouldn't stop until you were in a wheelchair. Really? If two people wanted to date and you knew one and disapproved of the other due to an age gap you'd have the older person beaten up?
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 There are 18 year old women who are predatory, and take advantage of men all the time. And there are 36 year old women who are naive and get used by men easily. 18 is just an imaginary line to draw adulthood. You have to set it somewhere.
serial muse Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Based on your posts, I think it will be safe to tell you that you're welcome to decide to date whomever you like. This, exactly. OP, you're free to try. A tip, though. This attitude: 18 year old women are a bit dumb. and i'm a bit dumb. So dumb plus dumb make us compatible. I think the only reason people say old and young have nothing in common is cause you have some weird ideas in your mind. You think all guys are all sexual and stuff. Some of us aren't!! Anyways, whatever. You better prove me wrong if you can. and i knwo you can't isn't going to go over well with just anybody. Find a girl who likes to be called dumb and doesn't like sex, I guess. Good luck. 1
crude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Based on if I were the 18 year olds dad, or brother....I'd have an issue with you. Unless the 18 year old was a male, in which case you wouldn't have an issue.
Anela Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Unless the 18 year old was a male, in which case you wouldn't have an issue. If you had a son that age, and a woman in her thirties wanted to date him, what would you think about that?
crude Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Damn right. If a thirty year old man touches my daughter, broken legs are going to be the LEAST of his worries. If a 30 year old woman touched a 17 year old son, could she look forward to a beating too? 3
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Funny how 18 year old women must be protected because they are too innocent and naive to stay away from skeevy, predatory 30 year olds. Yet, somehow they are smart enough to completely reject good, unattractive guys who would treat them like queens and not even think about ever violating her physically without her consent. Hmmm. 1
Anela Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Funny how 18 year old women must be protected because they are too innocent and naive to stay away from skeevy, predatory 30 year olds. Yet, somehow they are smart enough to completely reject good, unattractive guys who would treat them like queens and not even think about ever violating her physically without her consent. Hmmm. Many teenage girls aren't like that. They wouldn't reject the good guys. Funny how many guys on here will try to find any way they can to insult girls/women. Hmm.
serial muse Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 (edited) I think it's funny how people are getting all het up about a supposed larger issue - a man in his 30s wanting to date an 18-year-old. That's not what this thread is about. Individual cases are individual. And wanting a thing isn't enough to make it so. quietGuy can want anything he wants. But he's got bigger problems than the disapproval of random strangers on the internet. He's his own worst enemy. Wanting to date a theoretical 18-year-old because he thinks she's dumb and they'll have that in common is not a promising game plan. And when it's compounded by his persecution complex...well, all the soapboxing in the world about "prove me wrong" (prove you wrong about what, again?) isn't going to make it happen. Edited February 10, 2013 by serial muse 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Many teenage girls aren't like that. They wouldn't reject the good guys. Funny how many guys on here will try to find any way they can to insult girls/women. Hmm. Many teenage girls what? Wouldn't reject a good guy who would treat them like gold over an attractive skeeve or d@uchebag? I disagree. And to be honest, most 37 year old women are the same. So, then where do you the draw the line? An 18 year old woman is too naive to prevent herself from getting pumped and dumped but a 24 year old is not? At what age do you draw the line? 1
serial muse Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Many teenage girls what? Wouldn't reject a good guy who would treat them like gold over an attractive skeeve or d@uchebag? I disagree. And to be honest, most 37 year old women are the same. So, then where do you the draw the line? An 18 year old woman is too naive to prevent herself from getting pumped and dumped but a 24 year old is not? At what age do you draw the line? Where do you get the idea that quietGuy would treat his 18-year-old like gold? That's certainly not my impression, from his past threads. In fact, it's not even my impression from this thread. Supposing he is the d@uchebag? Just because he has no success with women doesn't make him a nice person. 4
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Where do you get the idea that quietGuy would treat his 18-year-old like gold? That's certainly not my impression, from his past threads. In fact, it's not even my impression from this thread. Supposing he is the d@uchebag? Just because he has no success with women doesn't make him a nice person. In this, scenario, Quietguy is the skeeve who manages to seduce an 18 year old who, let's say works at the mall. Last week, she just rejected Paul, a real nice guy she graduated with who is a little short and geeky and passive, but a great guy. Not interested.
serial muse Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 In this, scenario, Quietguy is the skeeve who manages to seduce an 18 year old who, let's say works at the mall. Last week, she just rejected Paul, a real nice guy she graduated with who is a little short and geeky and passive, but a great guy. Not interested. Oh, I see. Sorry, I misunderstood what you were saying. Still, it's a bit of a right turn to turn the thread into a discussion about what might be going through a young girl's mind who accepts a 30-year-old's advances and rejects that of a so-called "nice guy" teenager - because that's a pretty unrelated hypothetical, as this thread is about quietGuy, who isn't getting anywhere with his approach despite all the wanting in the world.
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Oh, I see. Sorry, I misunderstood what you were saying. Still, it's a bit of a right turn to turn the thread into a discussion about what might be going through a young girl's mind who accepts a 30-year-old's advances and rejects that of a so-called "nice guy" teenager - because that's a pretty unrelated hypothetical, as this thread is about quietGuy, who isn't getting anywhere with his approach despite all the wanting in the world. That's just the point though. You have to draw the line somewhere. Every day in this world, some teenager blows another human beings brains out with a gun. How much responsibility should he be exempt from because he is 12, 15, or 17? Well, some time age most countries decided it was 18, and I have no problem with that. Just for the record, Kate Upton is only 20. If she asked me if I wanted to have sex, would I? Yes! Does that mean you'll break my kneecaps with a tire iron for that?
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 (edited) Oh for God's sakes. The whole POINT is that 18 year old girls aren't exactly rocket scientists and DON'T make educated, experienced choices. They're too damned young to know much of ANYTHING when it comes to realtionships or men. They've been dating high school BOYS or frat BOYS. And that's the point people are making here. What kind of socially stilted 36 year old adult man thinks it's ok to persue 18 year old girls who've barely graduated from high school who have ZERO life experience and don't know any better? Predators pull that kind of crap. And a predator doesn't always have to be a pedophile, it's simply someone who preys on weaker, more vulnerable people. Adults have to live with the choices they make. That's why we call them adults. An 18 year old who grew up in a gang and knows nothing but poverty growing up without any kind of parental support and blows a shopkeepers head off, should we protect him too? Maybe, but we don't. We call him a monster. Remember, we're not talking about rape here. We're talking 100% consensual. If you fear so much for your daughter, then work on being a good parent and raise her to make the right choices instead of going out to buy a shotgun to exact vengeance. Edited February 10, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember
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