quietGuy13 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Ok I got some thing to say. Many people here say that a big age difference is weird or bad. That we have nothing in common or whatever. well that's a bunch of nonsense. Everybody has been of a younger age, so we have things in common. If we can play with our nephews or whatever, we can sure have something in common with an 18 year old. and i'm in my 30s just in case you dont know. 18 year old women are a bit dumb. and i'm a bit dumb. So dumb plus dumb make us compatible. I think the only reason people say old and young have nothing in common is cause you have some weird ideas in your mind. You think all guys are all sexual and stuff. Some of us aren't!! Anyways, whatever. You better prove me wrong if you can. and i knwo you can't
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 You can try. The positive is that a shyer wallflowerish type average or below looking 18 year old might not have gotten out into the world enough to have her ego pumped up. You might be able to charm her because she has little experience. The negative is that such a woman still might have high expectations of her dating life and wouldn't date a guy at your age who has had no success or experience. Don't even think about hitting on 18 year old women who obviously have had success, attitude, and experience. No chance. I'd say it is worth a try.
MrCastle Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 My question is why do you feel the need to go after someone 18. I'm 25 and I stopped going after 18 when I turned 20. I can't see myself getting older than I already am and wanting to date even younger than I do now. If it's not purely sexual, what is the draw to 18 year old girls? Obviously they're seen as having better bodies and tighter vaginas right? But if you're not in it for sexual reasons, why would you want someone fresh out of (or in their last year of) high school who isn't even of legal drinking age. If you are in your 30's, where is the common ground between you guys? 4
normal person Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 (edited) 18 year old women are a bit dumb. and i'm a bit dumb. So dumb plus dumb make us compatible. I think it's naive to think every 18 year old girl is "dumb." People at different stages in their lives have different priorities, different ways of processing things, and a lot of times haven't had the life experience that's necessary to gain the amount of perspective an older person might have. When I was 18 I was killing it in school but I would in no way process things or think the same way as I do now at 26. I also don't think it's safe to assume that if two people are in fact "dumb" that they're compatible. You make it sound like finding someone who's on the same intellectual level with you is all you need. In reality I think you know that's not the case. You sound like a smart guy so don't sell yourself short, I'm sure there's someone nice and clever out there for you. If you are in your 30's, where is the common ground between you guys? Agree, I'd have no idea what to talk to an 18 year old about. Justin Beiber? Edited February 5, 2013 by normal person
TheZebra Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 The reason big age gaps don't work are the following: 1. Hobbies. Did you grow up with Snow White while she grew up with Lion King? You were into vastly different things (movies, music, tv shows, toys, etc) that it may be difficult to relate. You won't ever have that 'remember when ____ toy was a hit?!' which helps bring people together 2. Wisdom. I'm only a few years older than a high school grad but I'm ages ahead of them in wisdom. I understand how the world works much better than I used to and I have more experience. I'm not innocent anymore. A 30 year old will have even more wisdom than I do, and so will a 40 year old, etc. How can you relate to someone who's never had to pay taxes? 3. Family/Friends. Are you going to have fun at the kegger she'll want to go to? Is she going to have fun going to your family parties where everyone is married with kids and goes home at 8pm? Probably not. 3
Author quietGuy13 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 The reason big age gaps don't work are the following: 1. Hobbies. Did you grow up with Snow White while she grew up with Lion King? You were into vastly different things (movies, music, tv shows, toys, etc) that it may be difficult to relate. You won't ever have that 'remember when ____ toy was a hit?!' which helps bring people together ================== =====> Music. And people can like any music no matter what age. Some younger people like old music. And any musical person will appreciate any music. Singing, same thing. movies etc, dont' matter if we watched different ones. All couples.. men and women do and watch different stuff and they still become couples 2. Wisdom. I'm only a few years older than a high school grad but I'm ages ahead of them in wisdom. I understand how the world works much better than I used to and I have more experience. I'm not innocent anymore. A 30 year old will have even more wisdom than I do, and so will a 40 year old, etc. How can you relate to someone who's never had to pay taxes? ================== =====> I'm not much of a wisdom guy. I'm not that different from an 18 year old. Just cause some 30 year olds are , doen't mean all of us are. For example i've never had a career. 3. Family/Friends. Are you going to have fun at the kegger she'll want to go to? Is she going to have fun going to your family parties where everyone is married with kids and goes home at 8pm? Probably not. ================== =====> First of all who said everyones has friends. I dont. Secondly, who says all families are close knit and share everything. i dont get along with my parents, we never talk.. and i don't share things about my friends or gfs. I dont do parties, i dont do family parties. Where are you coming up with this. NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE CLOSE with their families or have parties and friends.
kaylan Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Creepy OP is creepy. /thread PS - Just No OP. 1
TheZebra Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 ================== =====> First of all who said everyones has friends. I dont. Secondly, who says all families are close knit and share everything. i dont get along with my parents, we never talk.. and i don't share things about my friends or gfs. I dont do parties, i dont do family parties. Where are you coming up with this. NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE CLOSE with their families or have parties and friends. They're EXAMPLES of why age difference relationships don't work. If you don't understand that simple concept then your description of yourself in your first post is accurate.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I don't see any real problem with it if that's what works. They're adults. Whatever. Just know that it's probably harder to date an 18 year old girl than it would be to date an older one.
Talak7 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Sex with an 18 year old?? Hiiiigghh fiiiiveee Relationship with an 18 year old? Headache medication necessary. Do you even remember what it felt like to be told you are too young to consume alcohol? 1
Casablanca Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Once I hit 23 I didn't want to date anyone under 21. I like going out to the bars once in a while to grab a drink with friends and unwind....if my gal isn't 21 she can't come.
Els Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Based on your posts, I think it will be safe to tell you that you're welcome to decide to date whomever you like. 1
Imported Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Well, if it were one of my nieces, I'd have to beat the **** out of you. Hopefully before either of my brother-in-laws and nephews get to you. It just would not be acceptable, however I doubt any of my nieces would even consider you.
anne1707 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 If we can play with our nephews or whatever, we can sure have something in common with an 18 year old. Do you really not see what is wrong with this comment? You play with them because they are kids and now you want to date someone close to their age
Author quietGuy13 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Do you really not see what is wrong with this comment? You play with them because they are kids and now you want to date someone close to their age NO i'm saying. If i can play games and toys and basically do what a young kid can do. Then of course i can relate to an 18 year old. I've done (cause i was 18) all the stuff 18 year olds do. It doesn't matter if i'm not into Justin Bieber. I was into something else before and i went to highschool i went to college...all those things are common
Janesays Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Hey, if you want to risk the butt whooping, go for it. Because if it was anyone I loved and cared about, I'd have you beaten within an inch of your life. Seriously wouldn't stop until you were in a wheelchair. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Why the threats of physical violence? If you think the OP is a creepy guy that's fine, but violence? Shouldn't that be reserved for a time when your life is in jeopardy, not a time when you just feel weirded out?
Janesays Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Why the threats of physical violence? If you think the OP is a creepy guy that's fine, but violence? Shouldn't that be reserved for a time when your life is in jeopardy, not a time when you just feel weirded out? No one here is threatening him. Heck, I don't even have an 18 year old daughter. We're simply saying that anyone who loves and cares for this hypothetical girl he's making eyes at could feel the same way about her. Meaning: if he sleazes on the wrong girl, he could end up with some broken bones. Therefore, dating a woman that young carries with it the risk of bodily harm. It is definitely something for him to consider because I honestly don't think it would be safe for HIM. 1
Bristolius Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Yeah, let's round up all the lonely, unloved, and confused people and beat them into the ground. They're not suffering nearly enough.. 1
MidwestUSA Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Dumb plus dumb equals compatible. I like it! Stealing it!
pbjbear Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 You want an 18 year old due to the fact that she is hotter than woman your own age. Dont lie. Because I dont believe you for a second 1
Kingtut380 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I really don't see what the big deal is with the older man/younger woman dynamic. I also don't see why people get so upset about it. It seems like we all get conditioned to be offended by things that shouldn't offend us. An adult woman's relationship has nothing to do with her uncles or cousins or brothers. They should stay out of it. Would I ever date an 18 year old at 36? Absolutely not but for far different reasons.
Author quietGuy13 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 You can go as young as you want to-legally. But an 18 yr old woman is at her prime physically. She is going to be sought after highly especially if she is attractive and most are. Thank you.
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 No one here is threatening him. Heck, I don't even have an 18 year old daughter. We're simply saying that anyone who loves and cares for this hypothetical girl he's making eyes at could feel the same way about her. Meaning: if he sleazes on the wrong girl, he could end up with some broken bones. Therefore, dating a woman that young carries with it the risk of bodily harm. It is definitely something for him to consider because I honestly don't think it would be safe for HIM. 18 is legal. It's past the age of coddling and overportectiveness. 18 year olds become strippers and pornstars all the time. We're not talking about rape here. Two consenting adults. TBH, at 18 doesn't matter if OP was 55. 1
candie13 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Based on your posts, I think it will be safe to tell you that you're welcome to decide to date whomever you like. btw, but in some countries in Eastern Europe, it is still legal to marry at 16! I doubt that the OP is into firm bodies or mutual friends or common hobbies... maybe psychological domination can have something to do with it - the younger the pup, the easier to convince to date. Maybe some help for social skills would be beneficial too...
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