wmrjw82 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 (edited) Okay so i'm looking for some help with this. I've been dating this girl for 3 weeks i'm 31, she's 28... things have been going GREAT. I found myself getting jealous last night though at a family function of hers. This guy who is married to her mom's best friend was playing around w/ her... he's about 36 or so...took her shoe and threw it in the snow, real touchy feely (nothing obscene, but like a school kid w/ a crush on a girl kinda poking, crap)... he was also kind a dick to me and never introduced himself. Just a lil too touchy feely for my liking. Then he kept remincing last summer how he threw her into a pool and was going to throw her in the snow last night. I kinda stepped in at that point and said to him that i'd probably have to block that and throw you in the snow myself if he tried. He just shook his head and said "nah" as if I wouldn't do that. This guy is a real ass and just came across like he was challenging me. Then a few minutes later my girl actually chest bumps this guy right in front of me. Maybe i'm looking way too much into this stuff, but I was jealous and I couldn't help feeling this way. I hate it. I dont want to be jealous and I dont think she's into him at all, but I feel like he's into her in a sneaky, sleazy kinda way... that's why I said what I did and to let him know to back off in a "nice way". Anyway... i'm conflicted as to talking to her about it. She doesn't know i'm jealous over it, but i'm pissed that she would openly chest bump this guy right in front of me. Should I say something to her or just let it pass? Things have actually gotten pretty serious between us and she told me she loved me for the first time last night. We've met each others family's and she's met my 3 year old son. I only tell all this stuff to let you all know I really care about this girl. It's not a casual fling. I feel its the same way for her. Edited February 5, 2013 by wmrjw82
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Okay so i'm looking for some help with this. I've been dating this girl for 3 weeks i'm 31, she's 28... things have been going GREAT. I found myself getting jealous last night though at a family function of hers. This guy who is married to her mom's best friend was playing around w/ her... he's about 36 or so...took her shoe and threw it in the snow, real touchy feely (nothing obscene, but like a school kid w/ a crush on a girl kinda poking, crap)... he was also kind a dick to me and never introduced himself. Just a lil too touchy feely for my liking. Then he kept remincing last summer how he threw her into a pool and was going to throw her in the snow last night. I kinda stepped in at that point and said to him that i'd probably have to block that and throw you in the snow myself if he tried. He just shook his head and said "nah" as if I wouldn't do that. This guy is a real ass and just came across like he was challenging me. Then a few minutes later my girl actually chest bumps this guy right in front of me. Maybe i'm looking way too much into this stuff, but I was jealous and I couldn't help feeling this way. I hate it. I dont want to be jealous and I dont think she's into him at all, but I feel like he's into her in a sneaky, sleazy kinda way... that's why I said what I did and to let him know to back off in a "nice way". Anyway... i'm conflicted as to talking to her about it. She doesn't know i'm jealous over it, but i'm pissed that she would openly chest bump this guy right in front of me. Should I say something to her or just let it pass? You can bring it up but you better be level headed in your approach. For me, unless the relationship has been progressing a certain way, 3 weeks would be too soon for a man to show such feelings, especially about a relative.
Author wmrjw82 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 (edited) You can bring it up but you better be level headed in your approach. For me, unless the relationship has been progressing a certain way, 3 weeks would be too soon for a man to show such feelings, especially about a relative. He's not a relative...it was a superbowl party (which was the family function), he's the husband of her mom's "best friend"....how should I approach her about it? I fee like I need to tell her I felt it wasn't okay what she did but I dont want to come across as jealous. Edited February 5, 2013 by wmrjw82
wanderluster Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Well I dont think you have anything to worry about, she's probably always been this way with this man, and it's just a playful friendship they have together. Of course you can tell her you were a little uncomfortable with the way they are so playful, maybe its that you want this type of relationship with her. And that is what made you jealous, not that you felt there was something going on between them. Tell her if it really bothers you but word things wisely. I do agree that 3 weeks is a lil too soon to bring up these kinds of concerns. 1
Author wmrjw82 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Well I dont think you have anything to worry about, she's probably always been this way with this man, and it's just a playful friendship they have together. Of course you can tell her you were a little uncomfortable with the way they are so playful, maybe its that you want this type of relationship with her. And that is what made you jealous, not that you felt there was something going on between them. Tell her if it really bothers you but word things wisely. I do agree that 3 weeks is a lil too soon to bring up these kinds of concerns. Yea... I know deep down its all innocent, but I just dont like him touching her like that. The thing is, we are like that in our own way between her and I...I just dont like seeing another man be like that with her. It's almost as if she egged it on by doing the chest bump too... a part of me wants to let it slide and another part of me wants to let her know because I feel if it were to happen again there could be trouble. To add fuel to this there is a picture on her fb of her from last summer in a bikini w/ her arms wrapped around his fat belly. Ugh...
wanderluster Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Some girls just enjoy seeing a man get jealous. It confirms your feelings for her. And she likes to see her man is protective of her. If it does bother you this much by all means, let her know, by all means, next time she is being too playful or flirty, pull her to the side and just admit your emotions, I know jealousy is a hard one to confess to, but you can also bring play into it, say in a playful manner.. hey! too much flirting! laugh it off give her a kiss.. You dont have to bring a serious tone to it.. use your own sense of humour.. to communicate with her playfulness. 3
Divasu Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 To add fuel to this there is a picture on her fb of her from last summer in a bikini w/ her arms wrapped around his fat belly. Ugh... I'm sure if he has a fat belly like Santa then you have nothing to worry about.
ja123 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Where was his wife when he was doing all this? And how was she reacting? Hmmm Maybe you should strike up a flirty conversation with her the next time there is a family do.
Author wmrjw82 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Where was his wife when he was doing all this? And how was she reacting? Hmmm Maybe you should strike up a flirty conversation with her the next time there is a family do. That's the thing... she didn't seem to care that I could gather. And she was the one that posted the bikini picture on fb... who knows..
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