M30USA Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 My wife thinks that any time my kids get hurt or bruised that I caused it. She called CPS once during our divorce. They told her she didn't have anything to stand on. So here she goes again. I got a call on the phone from an agent and I will be speaking with him in the presence of my lawyer. What a mess. I have a buddy whose ex wife called CPS on him almost every time he had custody of them. Eventually CPS caught on and realized what she was doing. But unfortunately it didn't stop him from getting dragged thru the coals. She's just doing this to try to get full custody. It's obvious. And she probably even is praying for it "in the name of Jesus", because that's all her faith means to her: GAIN.
anne1707 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Just keep calm, be honest with the CPS and above all be straight with your kids - they are the ones whose opinion matters most in this. Don't let her wear you down 1
Balzac Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 You cannot fix crazy. You certainly cannot willingly abandon your children to an unstable mother. This is her punishing your children despite her belief that she's punishing you. I'm sorry you have to endure. 1
Author M30USA Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Thank you all for your posts. You have no idea how much your support means to me. I love my kids more than life itself. I am trying very hard to not get bitter--in fact I am praying more to keep from getting bitter than I am about the false accusations. We can't control others. We can only control who we are. She chooses to harbor delusional thoughts and I have to remember she owns them. It has nothing to do with who I am. If I didn't have strong faith in God and his ultimate justice (now or hereafter), I don't know how I'd be handling.
Author M30USA Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 You cannot fix crazy. You certainly cannot willingly abandon your children to an unstable mother. This is her punishing your children despite her belief that she's punishing you. I'm sorry you have to endure. Well she already won primary custody through the same manipulative tactics.
xxoo Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 High road....high road.....keep taking the high road....the court needs to see you as consistently appropriate. There is no way CPS isn't going to catch on if she is this "off". She's going to be her own undoing in the court's eyes. You just have to stay calm, be a rock, and let it unfold. 4
Balzac Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Well she already won primary custody through the same manipulative tactics. As you by now are aware, custody is always n forever up for grabs. She can "chew her own foot off" as the saying goes. What she has now is NOT written in stone. 2
Author M30USA Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 As you by now are aware, custody is always n forever up for grabs. She can "chew her own foot off" as the saying goes. What she has now is NOT written in stone. I guess so. But when you're going thru it, the current status SEEMS like what will be permanant.
Author M30USA Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 My wife thinks that any time my kids get hurt or bruised that I caused it. She called CPS once during our divorce. They told her she didn't have anything to stand on. So here she goes again. I got a call on the phone from an agent and I will be speaking with him in the presence of my lawyer. What a mess. I have a buddy whose ex wife called CPS on him almost every time he had custody of them. Eventually CPS caught on and realized what she was doing. But unfortunately it didn't stop him from getting dragged thru the coals. She's just doing this to try to get full custody. It's obvious. And she probably even is praying for it "in the name of Jesus", because that's all her faith means to her: GAIN. Sorry, I wrote "wife" in the first line. I meant "ex wife".
Balzac Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Fear is not your friend in this. Do what you know to be the right thing. Trust that your attorney is aware of Parent Allienation. Know that your children grow each day and despite your aggravating burden w their mother, you will always be stability for them. It's all about the long journey. Children are forever, not a sprint. 5
Author M30USA Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Fear is not your friend in this. Do what you know to be the right thing. Trust that your attorney is aware of Parent Allienation. Know that your children grow each day and despite your aggravating burden w their mother, you will always be stability for them. It's all about the long journey. Children are forever, not a sprint. Great point, my friend. I've realized that, no matter what she does, my children WILL know their father. Even if she gets me separated from them permanantly. My children will know me. I will teach them always to fear God, not man.
ver13 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Been reading your post this is life as we know it I guess. Look let her call them everyday you have nothing to hide. Every time that she does it and they ring you smile and invite them over you need to continue to build a case history of harassment. I know that it sucks but every time she calls them and they find nothing it makes your case stronger for the judge. So welcome them in with open arms and continue to document. Let her do this scam once or twice more then drag her in for the body slam on the county floor.
Author M30USA Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Been reading your post this is life as we know it I guess. Look let her call them everyday you have nothing to hide. Every time that she does it and they ring you smile and invite them over you need to continue to build a case history of harassment. I know that it sucks but every time she calls them and they find nothing it makes your case stronger for the judge. So welcome them in with open arms and continue to document. Let her do this scam once or twice more then drag her in for the body slam on the county floor. The abuse charges against me have already gone past 3 judges and 1 CPS agent PRIOR to this one. I don't know why she doesn't let up. Does she think if she just keeps doing it and makes a good enough argument that she will finally get her way?
ver13 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 You will never know what she is thinking which is a good thing in the long run. The court will do the right thing eventually it takes time but they get tried of wasting time will Bull Shyte too... So hang in there you got a lot of life to live don't waste you time on this crap. Just her do her and you do you and it will work it's way out.
Balzac Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 It's about her punishment of you. It's her false premise belief system. It's her inability to have empathy for your children. Clearly she has mental instability that you cannot change. One cannot make sense of "crazy" so abandon your efforts to try to understand her motivations. 1
Author M30USA Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 It's about her punishment of you. It's her false premise belief system. It's her inability to have empathy for your children. Clearly she has mental instability that you cannot change. One cannot make sense of "crazy" so abandon your efforts to try to understand her motivations. That I agree with. I can't control what she does. But I can control who I am and it's my OWN fault if I continually let her affect me. 2
amaysngrace Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 You can never go wrong if you love your children more than you hate this person. Which she hasn't seemed to grasp. Stay strong. 3
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