dpc1192 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 (edited) So my ex and I have seen each other and talked twice in the past 6 days. We talked for hours and got along so well, the chemistry was there and it felt like how things were before they went south. We hadn't talked for about 2-3 months since the breakup, and it was a mutual one. ( although she was the one to text me, I knew it was coming and we needed a break , she didn't want to ) I know she loved me, but I had a hard time accepting it and became possessive. Right after our breakup we started having sex again like a week after and then she decided we needed to completely break things off. (they just didn't feel right) Well now we're gonna try "taking it slow" and I don't really know how to treat it because I know this girl so well. We we're texting a bit but decided there's no need to talk everyday. She said she missed me, was lonely, forgave me for the past, and wanted to wait a while before hooking up because it didn't work last time. I was thinking I'll just let her contact me and just lay low. I want to do something for her birthday or valentines day but I'm not sure if it's too soon. Edited February 5, 2013 by dpc1192
wanderluster Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 its entirely up to you, and what you want to do. if you want to make it work, let her in. If you don't care about her anymore. just stay friends.... or don't at all.
Author dpc1192 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 but it seems hard to take things slow with someone i know so well... i kinda figured it out. i just have to be nice and not smother her. show her i trust her and focus on myself and not her 24/7. advice? i saw her today and just said whats up and she waved and said hi. (didn't want to talk too much because of her texting me earlier "i don't think we should talk everyday :)") and that text was probably just because we wanna take it slow... i hope.
Author dpc1192 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 how do i get her back?!?!? it's weird thinking of things going wrong and trying it again.. was her saying we should talk everyday just her telling me because she wants to take it slow? she has been really nice and was so happy to see me/ giddy..
wanderluster Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 It sounds like she wants the same with you. Who told you to take it slow? And define "slow"? It sounds like you can get her back, and with all the history you have a high chance of doing so. Remember to be in a relationship you both have to give, you both have to want it. Is it that you dont want to admit the way you feel about her for fear of rejection?
Author dpc1192 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 I mean't to say she said "I don't think we should talk everyday :)" probably because we used to text way way too much and this time we want to be healthy. In our talk I said " I think if this is going to work we're gonna have to take it slow, because the opposite didn't work" and she said " I agree 100 percent" She also said she doesn't hold anything against me and missed me. I've realized today that us not talking everyday is much better because it means less to worry about. We'll see how it goes. During our talk I said some things like I think we really needed to take a break and think things over, and that in order to fix things we need time to reflect, and she agreed.... Does it sound like we're on the same page?
wanderluster Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I mean't to say she said "I don't think we should talk everyday :)" probably because we used to text way way too much and this time we want to be healthy. In our talk I said " I think if this is going to work we're gonna have to take it slow, because the opposite didn't work" and she said " I agree 100 percent" She also said she doesn't hold anything against me and missed me. I've realized today that us not talking everyday is much better because it means less to worry about. We'll see how it goes. During our talk I said some things like I think we really needed to take a break and think things over, and that in order to fix things we need time to reflect, and she agreed.... Does it sound like we're on the same page? Texting way too much is not unhealthy at all. I say you both just do what comes naturally. How did your relationship end for you to feel that you need to take it slow now?
golk Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Realllllllllly be careful here. Don't let her in too much without her doing the same for you. It needs to be a 50/50 give and take and this point and you both being on the same page. If you feel like you're doing all the work then you probably are (that happened to me).
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