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I planned on going home and changing but she prefers to meet early evening.

 

Does it sound like I am being used? I haven't suggested anything yet but I guess it would only be a sign she is using me if she asked me that on Thursday instead of Monday?

 

We were supposed to meet at 9:30pm originally but she said she took off work so wants to meet a lot earlier. What does sound like?

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Sounds like she took off work early and therefore wants to meet earlier.

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Did she say anything about having to finish up the date by a certain time?

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I think 9:30 is late for a dinner date. She's essentially talking about dinner. Nevermind for the moment about "using" you. Does she reside Center City?

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It sounds like you are reading WAY TOO MUCH INTO SOMEONE'S INTENTIONS.

 

A lot of us like early evenings. Maybe we are already dressed nice from work and don't want to cool our heals for a few hours, waiting for date.

 

Or - you probably can't conceive of this - maybe she is projecting that she will really be into and starting a date so late implies a later evening that might involve intimacy. An early date means there is more time to spend together and get to know each other.

 

Being Used???? Why do you think it is about being used? Used for what? Your paranoia is showing through on this one...

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Did she say anything about having to finish up the date by a certain time?

 

 

Not yet but it better not happen when I get there after dinner because she will get disrespected

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I think 9:30 is late for a dinner date. She's essentially talking about dinner. Nevermind for the moment about "using" you. Does she reside Center City?

 

 

No she lives in Germantown

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Ok so dinner is not on the agenda.

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It sounds like you are reading WAY TOO MUCH INTO SOMEONE'S INTENTIONS.

 

A lot of us like early evenings. Maybe we are already dressed nice from work and don't want to cool our heals for a few hours, waiting for date.

 

Or - you probably can't conceive of this - maybe she is projecting that she will really be into and starting a date so late implies a later evening that might involve intimacy. An early date means there is more time to spend together and get to know each other.

 

Being Used???? Why do you think it is about being used? Used for what? Your paranoia is showing through on this one...

 

 

Well this is the girl who said she can see me on the 8th 2 weeks ago and there wasn't much initial contact on her part until today.

 

She sent a good morning text and then we chatted back and forth and she eventually asked......"Are we still we on for Friday?

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Ok so dinner is not on the agenda.

 

 

Yes it is but just don;t know where yet.

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Being Used???? Why do you think it is about being used? Used for what? Your paranoia is showing through on this one...

 

 

Sometimes a woman wants to get together with a FWB later in the evening, so she changes the time of her date to finish early with her free meal guy. :laugh: This is why a woman who pays her own way like she should is showing a man that she's serious about him, values a relationship, and not just using him for freebies. This presumes that PhillyDude is paying for her like a chum...I mean a man usually does.

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Does it sound like I am being used?

 

Used for what? :confused:

 

What does sound like?

 

It sounds like she wants to see you right after work.

 

What the haynay...

 

If you are THIS mistrusting, THIS early on, oh forget it.

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Yes it is but just don;t know where yet.

 

Philly has a great restaurant scene. Lots of options.

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Sometimes a woman wants to get together with a FWB later in the evening, so she changes the time of her date to finish early with her free meal guy. :laugh: This is why a woman who pays her own way like she should is showing a man that she's serious about him, values a relationship, and not just using him for freebies. This presumes that PhillyDude is paying for her like a chum...I mean a man usually does.

 

 

Asking can we meet up earlier than 9:30pm just sounds fishy to me.

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Go to the date with an open mind, over-analyse afterwards if you must.

 

If you go on with all this inside your head it will show and you may ruin the entire date.

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Used for what? :confused:

 

 

 

It sounds like she wants to see you right after work.

 

What the haynay...

 

If you are THIS mistrusting, THIS early on, oh forget it.

 

 

being used for dinner

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I am sorry, but 9:30 is late for a date.

If I had made plans that late due to work and then work all of a sudden wasn't a problem... I would do the same damn thing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Using you for dinner? Please. :rolleyes:

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I am sorry, but 9:30 is late for a date.

If I had made plans that late due to work and then work all of a sudden wasn't a problem... I would do the same damn thing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Using you for dinner? Please. :rolleyes:

 

 

 

Now the poster crude has me wondering should I bail out when he said some girls go to dinner early so they can meet up with a friends with benefits later lol

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being used for dinner

 

How does the time of day determine being used, if you go out to dinner at 6:30pm versus out to dinner later in the evening. :confused:

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How does the time of day determine being used, if you go out to dinner at 6:30pm versus out to dinner later in the evening. :confused:

 

 

The fact that she has not contacted me 1st since new years day leads me to believe she is looking for to a free dinner.

 

I am just trying to avoid going to dinner and then she saying...."I have to get going" around 8:30pm

 

 

She claims if she goes home she may not come back out

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She can state her claim and it's not on you to succumb to her implied threats.

How old is this woman? I'm rather taken aback by her posturing but that's my POV.

 

This isn't really even about dinner.

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The fact that she has not contacted me 1st since new years day leads me to believe she is looking for to a free dinner.

 

I am just trying to avoid going to dinner and then she saying...."I have to get going" around 8:30pm

 

 

She claims if she goes home she may not come back out

 

Gotcha. Well, how about doing something else besides dinner? Go grab coffee at an intimate cafe setting or meet for drinks at a lounge or something. Get crazy, mix it up!

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I planned on going home and changing but she prefers to meet early evening.

 

Does it sound like I am being used? I haven't suggested anything yet but I guess it would only be a sign she is using me if she asked me that on Thursday instead of Monday?

 

We were supposed to meet at 9:30pm originally but she sathe one."id she took off work so wants to meet a lot earlier. What does sound like?

 

I date on a Friday night from a woman who has been busy for the last few weeks, in a good thing. Who knows, she might be "the one." ;)

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She can state her claim and it's not on you to succumb to her implied threats.

How old is this woman? I'm rather taken aback by her posturing but that's my POV.

 

This isn't really even about dinner.

 

31 years old

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31 years old

 

At 31 I would hope she could afford her own dinner.

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