ascendotum Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 (edited) Want to date a hottie, have the confidence to know that you are hot yourself. Who cares if other women want you man? If he is the right man, no matter how attractive HE is, he will not give a single eff about any other woman. If its simply just dating for a STR then its a simple as have the confidence to go for it. If she wants something long term then that comment is good in theory, and its great for a woman not to have to worry about others, though plenty of women, do place significance on other women seeing their partner as desirable (they feel better about a good catch). Its too easy to dismiss others concerns by simply saying if he is the right man it wont matter. That's true, but no one really knows until they are tested or the tough times happen or when the lust fades after 2-3 (or whatever) years if you make it that far as very good looking guys have lots of options and its easy these days to just go from STR/fling to STR/fling. Reality is very good looking guys get tempted often by other women flirting (some quite brazenly) or have a cavalier attitude (not all). What % of people cheat these days...near 50%) I don't see why this is a problem, unless she can't attract the guys she finds hot or that she can but they don't want to stick around for a relationship with her. Its difficult to tell someone to do what goes against their base instincts (unless they can see other benefits), but at the same time I firmly believe that its wrong to settle when it comes to desire & passion. She has to work this out for herself. Edited February 5, 2013 by ascendotum
somedude81 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 The main point is that hot guys are going to have a lot of options. Most men, when given the chance would hook up with whoever they can. So hot men have more chances to hook up with more women, and they usually take advantage of those chances. 2
pbjbear Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 The main point is that hot guys are going to have a lot of options. Most men, when given the chance would hook up with whoever they can. So hot men have more chances to hook up with more women, and they usually take advantage of those chances. Youve summed up perfectly why I think "most men" are shallow Most people on here will argue with you on that point though. Im told Im being negative when I say most men would be players if they had the options
Woggle Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Youve summed up perfectly why I think "most men" are shallow True but as evidenced by this thread it is not only men. Stop pointing the finger in only one direction. 2
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 True but as evidenced by this thread it is not only men. Stop pointing the finger in only one direction. I never heard a single woman in here say they would hook up with "any man" The idea that men will hook up with anything isn't really shallow, it's just disgusting.
somedude81 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Youve summed up perfectly why I think "most men" are shallow Most people on here will argue with you on that point though. Im told Im being negative when I say most men would be players if they had the options So if a guy sleeps with a lot of women, and all those women are models with masters (degree), is he shallow?
pbjbear Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 So if a guy sleeps with a lot of women, and all those women are models with masters (degree), is he shallow? Yes Shallow meaning you dont deserve anything beyond the superficial Their masters degrees make no difference
pbjbear Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 True but as evidenced by this thread it is not only men. Stop pointing the finger in only one direction. I dont think most women would be players if they had the options Some would, but not nearly the same % as men Most men are sex obsessed and crave variety more, plus they tend to not want deeper stuff as often as women
somedude81 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Yes Shallow meaning you dont deserve anything beyond the superficial Their masters degrees make no difference Do you mean desire instead of deserve? Why would it make no difference if he only desired women who have a masters degree or higher? Being highly educated is clearly beyond the superficial.
pbjbear Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Do you mean desire instead of deserve? Why would it make no difference if he only desired women who have a masters degree or higher? Being highly educated is clearly beyond the superficial. Yeah sorry Im on the phone Using someone for sex and sex only IS shallow thats what I mean. Their masters degrees dont make any difference because hes not going after them for their brains...
somedude81 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Yeah sorry Im on the phoneHorray for auto-correct. Using someone for sex and sex only IS shallow thats what I mean. Their masters degrees dont make any difference because hes not going after them for their brains... I never said anything about using somebody for sex. Getting used for sex is an entirely different issue and I believe that it is only possible to get used for sex if that individual was mislead. The reason I said he only sleeps with women with masters degrees or higher is because he's only interested in educated women. So yes, he is going after them for their brains, but of course it's more than just their brains that he wants. Brains.... IMO, being shallow is when somebody only cares about the superficial qualities. For example, a girl that only wants hot guys, is superficial. If the girl has sex with a lot of men, that doesn't mean she is shallow.
pbjbear Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Horray for auto-correct. I never said anything about using somebody for sex. Getting used for sex is an entirely different issue and I believe that it is only possible to get used for sex if that individual was mislead. The reason I said he only sleeps with women with masters degrees or higher is because he's only interested in educated women. So yes, he is going after them for their brains, but of course it's more than just their brains that he wants. Brains.... IMO, being shallow is when somebody only cares about the superficial qualities. For example, a girl that only wants hot guys, is superficial. If the girl has sex with a lot of men, that doesn't mean she is shallow. Hooking up is using someone for sex. Unless its done in a dating context. Hooking up is used in so many situations and has a broad definition. Hooking up to me is done when youre in a casual dating situation or a one time thing sorta thing. That is using someone for sex- these guys arent having long convos about their dreams and futures with their Masters degrees. All the guys I dated who had a long past of constantly hooking up lacked emotional depth and were too shallow for me, though many were fun people to be around.
xxoo Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I agree on the last part but as far as finding a man whos not good looking attractive it just not gonna happen for me Well, are you as physically attractive as the guys you desire or not? I'm trying to get an idea of how hot is "hot", esp if you describe yourself as "cute". It isn't very common for men to commit to women less attractive than themselves. If you are exclusively attracted to men more attractive than you, you may have a problem.... 1
Necris Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Girl only attracted to guys that she thinks are "hot"? In other news, the sky is blue. This is completely normal, and regular most people are in general attracted to attractive people. 1
Author HopelessRomantic76 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Well, are you as physically attractive as the guys you desire or not? I'm trying to get an idea of how hot is "hot", esp if you describe yourself as "cute". It isn't very common for men to commit to women less attractive than themselves. If you are exclusively attracted to men more attractive than you, you may have a problem.... I dont know im sure some guys think im hot some might think im ehh I dont agree with your post at all i have girlfriends who are ok looking married to very hot men much moreso then themselves
Revolver Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 You know what, I respect you for keeping it real lol. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 (edited) You guys act like every "hot guy" has harems all over their vicinity . It's kind of amazing if you think about it. I wouldn't have believed it myself if I hadn't seen it in real life. Any top 15-20% looking guy with an even semblance of a decent personality or game will have women saying they will date him one or two times after meeting him, REGARDLESS of whether he has a girlfriend or not. "I'd date Jimmy if he was single." Another scenario I love is when there is a get together with a bunch of men and women there, and there is a top looking guy there. Automatically, the one woman goes up to all her friends and says, "That's Jimmy. Oh by the way, he's married." You don't know how many times I've seen that happen. Or when a female friend meets a group of guys through another friend and says "Oooh. Jimmy and Bob are cute!" It's ALWAYS Jimmy and Bob. Never the other 8 guys. Really, to be a top good looking guy is to be on top of the world. Average gals want you, hot gals want you, nice gals want you, sluts want you, smart gals want you, stupid gals want you. And you don't have to deal with a lot of the negatives that hot women do. OP is brazen enough to express her interest bluntly, but really 90% of women here feel the same as her. Edited February 5, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember 1
harnold Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Ahhh. Superficial and insecure. My kinda woman
somedude81 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Harem Ou ni, ore wa naru! (Heh, wonder if anybody has even a close guess to what that means)
ltjg45 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I dont agree with your post at all i have girlfriends who are ok looking married to very hot men much moreso then themselves If your girlfriends is "OK-looking" and you are considered "cute"..... I'm thinking that "cute" is a higher attractive level than "OK-looking". You also said that these men is "very hot" a.k.a. the men you would want to date yourself. Did these men even had to decide to leave their "OK-looking" girlfriends to go after you who is more beautiful than your friends or was they fiercely loyal to whoever they was currently with?
Necris Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Harem Ou ni, ore wa naru! (Heh, wonder if anybody has even a close guess to what that means) Sounds like a hentai.
Jane2011 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I always thought i was drawn more to personality and while i needed a attraction physically to a man he didnt need to be a male model by any means But lately ive found myself trying to date average looking guys and i just cant get excited physically to be with the, theyve treated me well and we got a long perfectly fine but when ti came time to get initmate it became a chore The last few guys ive hooked up with and have been seeing were deecnt guys also but so damn hot that im so animalitsically attracted to them and want to rip threir clothes off the minute we get together My worry is these type of have tons of options and women throwing themselves at them all the time and i dont know if i could deal with that and the constant temptaiton theyd get BUT they are the guys im drawn and lustfully atttracted to while guys who may be a little safer have way less options and less full of themselves i have no lust for at all I, too, only want to date hot guys. It's like this. I only want to sleep with a guy who I think is hot. And I only want to date guys I want to sleep with, so...I only want to date hot guys. 3
Archgirl Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I'm the same way, why bother with anyone who doesn't make you "zing", and frankly as far as I'm concerned, while they may have other options: A.) so do I, probably more being a chick And B.) if they prefer someone else to me, they're clearly an idiot and no great loss 2
ltjg45 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I'm the same way, why bother with anyone who doesn't make you "zing", and frankly as far as I'm concerned, while they may have other options: A.) so do I, probably more being a chick And B.) if they prefer someone else to me, they're clearly an idiot and no great loss I'm not sure on "A" unless there is more hot males in Australia than there is females. Of course, I'm not sure so I won't go any further. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I, too, only want to date hot guys. It's like this. I only want to sleep with a guy who I think is hot. And I only want to date guys I want to sleep with, so...I only want to date hot guys. I'm the same way, why bother with anyone who doesn't make you "zing", and frankly as far as I'm concerned, while they may have other options: A.) so do I, probably more being a chick And B.) if they prefer someone else to me, they're clearly an idiot and no great loss You guys should put a sign on your forehead that says "Hot guys only!" That would make things a lot easier for all of us! 2
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