HopelessRomantic76 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I always thought i was drawn more to personality and while i needed a attraction physically to a man he didnt need to be a male model by any means But lately ive found myself trying to date average looking guys and i just cant get excited physically to be with the, theyve treated me well and we got a long perfectly fine but when ti came time to get initmate it became a chore The last few guys ive hooked up with and have been seeing were deecnt guys also but so damn hot that im so animalitsically attracted to them and want to rip threir clothes off the minute we get together My worry is these type of have tons of options and women throwing themselves at them all the time and i dont know if i could deal with that and the constant temptaiton theyd get BUT they are the guys im drawn and lustfully atttracted to while guys who may be a little safer have way less options and less full of themselves i have no lust for at all 3
Talak7 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I always thought i was drawn more to personality and while i needed a attraction physically to a man he didnt need to be a male model by any means But lately ive found myself trying to date average looking guys and i just cant get excited physically to be with the, theyve treated me well and we got a long perfectly fine but when ti came time to get initmate it became a chore The last few guys ive hooked up with and have been seeing were deecnt guys also but so damn hot that im so animalitsically attracted to them and want to rip threir clothes off the minute we get together My worry is these type of have tons of options and women throwing themselves at them all the time and i dont know if i could deal with that and the constant temptaiton theyd get BUT they are the guys im drawn and lustfully atttracted to while guys who may be a little safer have way less options and less full of themselves i have no lust for at all Well, Before the morality police come and shame you for your ways - I'd say do exactly what you feel you need. I only go after Hot girls...or at least girls I perceive as hot...?? I'd never date someone I'm not physically excited about. 3
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Want to date a hottie, have the confidence to know that you are hot yourself. Who cares if other women want you man? If he is the right man, no matter how attractive HE is, he will not give a single eff about any other woman.
Bristolius Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 No ridiculous amount of "confidence" makes your midface go from 3 to 9. Most people are not "hot". Midface? What the **** is a midface? 2
somedude81 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 These type of have tons of options and women throwing themselves at them all the time and i dont know if i could deal with that and the constant temptaiton theyd get BUT they are the guys im drawn and lustfully atttracted to while guys who may be a little safer have way less options and less full of themselves i have no lust for at all As long as you enjoy sharing your hot guy with five other girls, I don't see what the problem is. 2
ThaWholigan Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 As long as you enjoy sharing your hot guy with five other girls, I don't see what the problem is. You guys act like every "hot guy" has harems all over their vicinity . 1
stillafool Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I always thought i was drawn more to personality and while i needed a attraction physically to a man he didnt need to be a male model by any means But lately ive found myself trying to date average looking guys and i just cant get excited physically to be with the, theyve treated me well and we got a long perfectly fine but when ti came time to get initmate it became a chore The last few guys ive hooked up with and have been seeing were deecnt guys also but so damn hot that im so animalitsically attracted to them and want to rip threir clothes off the minute we get together My worry is these type of have tons of options and women throwing themselves at them all the time and i dont know if i could deal with that and the constant temptaiton theyd get BUT they are the guys im drawn and lustfully atttracted to while guys who may be a little safer have way less options and less full of themselves i have no lust for at all Are you extremely attractive as well?
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 No ridiculous amount of "confidence" makes your midface go from 3 to 9. Most people are not "hot". Not the point of my statement. If she is not comfortable being with a man due to him being by general society "hot" then she needs to know that her confidence level needs a boost. My man is hot to me, and yeah, he gets hit on, and there have been times where I have over thought the idea of some woman pursuing him. All it took was for me to take a step back, realize I AM worth it, and the fact that if he was to majorly eff up, then it would be his loss and I wouldn't want him anyways. He probably worries the same for me, but ultimately, our trust in eachother and confidence in ourselves overcomes any insecurity.
xxoo Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 You say the guys you are attracted to you are decent guys. Do you have reason to believe, other than your insecurity, that they are guys who want lots of women? Some family-minded guys are really hot! Just like some beautiful women are lovely partners. Beautiful people need love, too. But-- Have you never experienced a strong desire for a normal looking man in your social group? A coworker, a classmate, a professor, etc?
Green Light Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 All I can say is that around my town most women that I see in public are not attractive. Most people here, both men and women, young and old are overweight. 2
Author HopelessRomantic76 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 I guess im not bad looking im no stunner or anything but cute
Author HopelessRomantic76 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 You say the guys you are attracted to you are decent guys. Do you have reason to believe, other than your insecurity, that they are guys who want lots of women? Some family-minded guys are really hot! Just like some beautiful women are lovely partners. Beautiful people need love, too. But-- Have you never experienced a strong desire for a normal looking man in your social group? A coworker, a classmate, a professor, etc? Strong desire? not really ive tried to force the attraction and it didnt work the idea of making out with them made me sick
StanMusial Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 The last few guys ive hooked up with and have been seeing were deecnt guys also but so damn hot that im so animalitsically attracted to them and want to rip threir clothes off the minute we get together Do you have a history of being pumped and dumped? Do you want one?
PJKino Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 women like her are why my good looking friend juggles tons of women and im alone lol 1
chex Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Part of your face obviously, rest is history. All I'm getting from this description. 2
Bristolius Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 A part of your face obviously, rest is history. You're right. Confidence won't help if you have a face in the middle of your face. Even a 9 midface won't help. 3
Bristolius Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Sorry OP. back on topic. Strong desire? not really ive tried to force the attraction and it didnt work the idea of making out with them made me sick It's OK to prefer men that don't make you sick. Forcing things should not be part of dating.
mesmerized Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Not the point of my statement. If she is not comfortable being with a man due to him being by general society "hot" then she needs to know that her confidence level needs a boost. My man is hot to me, and yeah, he gets hit on, and there have been times where I have over thought the idea of some woman pursuing him. All it took was for me to take a step back, realize I AM worth it, and the fact that if he was to majorly eff up, then it would be his loss and I wouldn't want him anyways. He probably worries the same for me, but ultimately, our trust in eachother and confidence in ourselves overcomes any insecurity. there were times I went to clubs with my ex and he was getting hit on right in front of me, even though the girls saw me with him. Once there were two young very attractive girls who started hitting on him shamelessly. He told me he thinks they are on drugs and want a threesome. I just laughed it off, I had a guy hitting on me as well totally disregarding that I was with him.
xxoo Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 A stable, charming, married man can be a major woman magnet whether he is physically hot or not. Relying on a man having few options is a losing proposition. If you want him, chances are someone else will, too. Just find a man who wants to be with you and only you. 4
Talak7 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Lol, in a other thread today you claimed that SNL sexual harassment was not true and that men get rejected because they are bitter not from looks. Now you say you only go for women you find really hot and the op to. You just proofed my point. btw check: Lookism on youtube says it all. Proofed ? xD In another thread I said the SNL sexual harrasment wasn't true because girls generally are attraced to a man's behavior, yes. It doesn't "prove" anything - It actually just highlights the difference between the way men and women think. (I'm not a woman. Why would I think like one?) If one woman happens to share the same thoughts, she shouldn't be condemned for not acting like the majority. She deserves to be satisfied in the way that she wants to be. Please use your brain before attacking people. It makes you look less stupid. 1
Author HopelessRomantic76 Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 A stable, charming, married man can be a major woman magnet whether he is physically hot or not. Relying on a man having few options is a losing proposition. If you want him, chances are someone else will, too. Just find a man who wants to be with you and only you. I agree on the last part but as far as finding a man whos not good looking attractive it just not gonna happen for me 1
pbjbear Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I think this is an issue that happens with men and women. I hear male versions of your story all the time
Talak7 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Not the point of my statement. If she is not comfortable being with a man due to him being by general society "hot" then she needs to know that her confidence level needs a boost. Assumption # 1 you went off on a tangent there... I don't choose to not have sex with fat gross girls because I'm not confident....in fact...I choose to only go for women that physically excite me because I AM confident....I'm a man...but she has clearly stated that it's nothing really to do with her confidence, and just her sexual satisfaction..... I don't see your logic here that "I only am attracted to hot guys. I must be insecure". ??
soccerrprp Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I'm good looking (everyone says so), I date only good looking ladies (as I see them), so what?! We all have preferences, not a crime.
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