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It's been a month since my ex of 3 years left me. We had been fighting a lot lately before the split, and it's been stressful on both of us. I had been pushing for us to talk things out, but he was just having none of it, and decided he needed a break. When we split, there was barely any contact from either ends, maybe a message or two here and there, but for the most part, it was no contact. Here and there, he would mention about us talking on Skype (we live about 45 minutes away from each other), or even possibly hanging out whenever we both had time.

 

We ended up actually seeing each other the other night; went to the mall, went to eat, and then drove around. At the beginning of the night, things were completely casual, we were spending time 'just as friends', but then we started kissing/hugging. He apologized for how things ended between us. There was more affection as the night went on, and we ended up having sex. More affection, kissing, hugging, holding, he mentioned hanging out again, and then our night ended. I felt fantastic, we had a great night out together. It's only been about 5 days since then, and we've talked a little more (again, nothing serious), but now I'm starting to feel uneasy. Can this go anywhere if we just take things slowly, and not push any of the issues? I want to give him time to clear his head, I just hate the damned waiting.

 

I asked him if us having sex the other night meant anything to him; he said it did, that it always did, it reminded him of the first times we were intimate.

 

I guess why I'm posting is to try and figure out what to do to bring him back to me. I know there are still major feelings between us, and I want to be able to use those to build up another relationship again.

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Sleeping with him isn't a very good idea. Stop doing that.

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Sounds like you really love this guy but unfortunately:

 

He doesn't seem that interested.

 

If he was, he'd make a bigger effort

 

I think you should cut your losses, go NC and move on.

 

I'm sorry for your pain. Go NC and you will heal a lot quicker and ultimately find someone who really cares for you and really contributes to your relationship - not like this guy.

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