ryansox Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 First I would really appreciate any advice after ready this long post. Me and my ex dated for 15 months during the end of Junior Year and all of Senior year during high school. We went on a few dates and never kissed and I never told her I loved her. We went to prom at the end of senior year. Then during the summer after graduation we both decided to break up. I have known this girl since elementary school and I still love her and I know she still likes me. The problem I am having is she doesn't do anything with her life. She has no job (she worked for like 1 day and then got fired for not being fast enough). She's only taking one class in college and shes almost 21 years old. All of her other friends have gotten jobs and are in school full time just like me and they are even drifting apart from her. Recently she wanted to get coffee and I know that she is going to bring up our relationship and deep down I really just want to sweep her up, kiss her for the first time, and tell her that I love her but I know that she really hasn't done anything with her life how are we supposed to be together when she just sits around at her parents house all day. There are a lot of details that I am leaving out but I think I should send her a text telling her that I love her and want the whole world to know. Any advice would be great. Thanks,
clia Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Why are you so in love with her? She kind of sounds like a loser if she is happy to sit around her parents' house all day and doesn't want to work. How do you feel about supporting her for the rest of your life?
wanderluster Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I think her self-esteem and self worth is low, maybe she is experiencing some depression, and she just needs some inspiration to get out of the hole she has dug for herself, you clearly see potential in her and you don't want to see it all wasted, so you can help her, right up a CV, take her out to find work. It probably makes her feel even worse that her friends have gotten somewhere and she hasn't taken the next step in life. You can have coffee with her, tell her its not healthy for her own state of mind to not have something to stimulate her. She has to want to get herself out of this state too. Be aware that sometimes people just need to learn on their own, some people who have been handed everything on a silver platter their whole lives, are left uneqipped to fend for themselves, and are too comfortable with having everything done for them.
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