Krieger Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 (edited) Well I am 29 year-old male who, due to many factors,has been pretty far behind the curve when it comes to relationships and sex.Did casual dating a few times when I was in high school/college (as in we goout 1-2 times just for fun, never get physical at all) but didn't date in anyform for most of my 20s due to personal issues (mostly due to massiveshyness/social-anxiety problems). I've managedto turn things around a bit and can talk to anyone. I am a different person nowI just had to look at this way no one cares. I do put myself in socialsituations and meet people with no problem. I know I can ask for girl out Ihave done it before. I have gone out on dates but only 6 or 8 but nothingclicked. The longest I have dated the same girl was probably for about 6 monthsor so and it wasn't even anything serious. She was this girl I know from work and just got outof a relationship with her bf and wanted to hang out so we did. The only thingwe did was have sex and I lost my virginity to her. Yea she was not very good in bed at all shejust kind of laid there and I had to do all the work. I tried to get her to trynew things but she was not interested. I did not ever climax once no matterwhat she did. To be fair there was no passion at all but still Iwant a redo. Now I am at the point a year ago or so decided to goback to college a 2nd time .My job is OK but it a dead end job and it isnothing I am passion at about doing forever. Retail sucks and I do not like itat all so it was time to do something new. Working night crew for the rest ofmy there no wear to go in retail. My job just does not pay well like $18 anhour will not feed a family even working full time. That being said I am still going to work full timeand have been taking class at a community college right now. I want to going to Nursing or be a physicaltherapist assistant. If I go intonursing it will go for my Bachelor of Science in Nursing. The physicaltherapist assistant will take a shorter amount of time. So I have a lot on going on and am busy studying,working and college I do not have time to date at all. I never sleep and if I do it 4 hours a day sevendays a week thank god for my Adderall even though I hate it. What can I sat the desire to feel like I am not aloser drives me. I don't know if that's the healthiest thing—to be motivated bya fear of hating yourself, but it helps. When I'm feeling in a darker place, my perception isthat everything sucks and even though I've done this, it seems I should havedone more. I want to be successful so I can have a girlfriend and feel like Ihave a good job I like going to and can support a family on. I want a wife and kids and a family and all that butas I get older I just do not see it happening for me. This makes me sad in away seeing that I want to be a dad in all. I'm a little concern about this. I'm not a greatlooking guy but I don't consider myself ugly either. I'm not a geek or anythinglike that. I go out and try to meet people. I just can't figure out why this isnot happening for me. I don't think it's my personality because more than onceI had girls telling me I'm a really nice person. Edited February 4, 2013 by Krieger
ku1980rose Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Do you have a sex drive? Are you even turned on by things? Even if she wasn't good in bed, I would think you would climax from the excitement of sex the first time. As for dating. Low self-confidence is a turn off. Maybe it would be easier for you to be confident meeting someone through online dating? Although that has its problems, too. Just don't base your happiness on having a girlfriend. You need to learn to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else.
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