southrnrbl Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Hello everyone, To get to the point. My wife divulged some past information I did not ask for and did not want to know. As stupid as it sounds she confessed how she did some things with a guy she liked (who had a girlfriend) and a girlfriend of hers, he was cheating. She said no sex was involved but I stopped her there. I did not want to know what happened. I believe the past is the past but she continued to tell me, until i said stop! My imagination doesn't have to go far to assume that they probably blew the guy who was apiece of crap anyways. What bad judgement on her part. The thought of not knowing what happens kills me, although I dont truelly know what did. I know myself that I wouldnt be able to handel it. She says it was no big deal, but I dont want to take that chance. I might feel worse and I really dont want to imagine her doing anything before we met cause its not helping anyone. But if all they did was kiss I'd want to know. Because it'll put a stop to my horrible self sabotaging mind. I suffer from add and depression, so my memory is 150% working against me as it wont let me forget and all it feels like is, someone tying me to a chair and forcing me to watch her do these horrible things. Over and over again. I know I have issues im trying to work out just looking for tips to help me beat my negative side (my only enemy). I love her and she loves me I know this, we have both been cheated on and have bad past. Im not judging hers. I just dont know why I hurt and if I should ask. I figure its a 50/50 if she told me what happen that its like she said not a big deal and all they did was kissed, but I know if i hear something worse my mind will not let go. What should I do? Live with my imagination or live with fact?
bbronx77 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 dude, let it go, it happened to me once and I know it sucks picturing crap on your head. only difference is, she fooled around while we still married and living together, needless to say, that ended. on the other hand, not sure what she's got on her head to be telling you sht like that. I know that my current wife had a past, but really at this point in my romantic shtty life I could careless anymore and yet I wouldn't want to hear about it and she knows it.
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