lourdes_bern Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 My background: Ex and I were together for over a year; I moved in with him after 8 months; he dumped me shortly before Thanksgiving due to GIGS/commitmentphobia. I'm so annoyed and frustrated right now; I wish he would just leave me alone! This past weekend I accidentally invited him to gchat (I was trying to remove him from my list, so he'd have to have an invitation to chat with me due to my privacy settings). He blocked me right away and I removed him from my list, so he couldn't actually contact me. He also removed me from Google+ (another social network which I'd forgotten about for NC till later); this hurt, because has his other ex-girlfriend on there and she's really poisonous (borderline personality disorder, etc). I know he keeps in touch with her too. I removed him from Google+ shortly afterward. This morning when I woke up, I got a gchat invitation from him. I accepted at first because I was half asleep, and then I realized the mistake, and I blocked him within a couple of hours. I'd blocked him/removed him during Christmas, too, and he had sent me an invitation to chat then. When I asked him about it later (we were in LC), he said he hadn't said an invitation. So I don't know if he's really doing this on purpose or if it's a technical error. I'm so angry that he popped up in my life again. I thought I'd done everything I could to remove him. I know I shouldn't have accepted the chat invitation, and fortunately he didn't IM me at all within the 2 hours I was his contact because we were both working. I just don't understand why he'd do such a thing! Ugh! Help! I'm so angry! I'm not even running today so I need another way to let it all out and relax!
WhatYouWantToHear Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I wish he would just leave me alone! This past weekend I accidentally invited him to gchat...I accepted at first because I was half asleep...I'm so angry that he popped up in my life again...I thought I'd done everything I could to remove him...I just don't understand why he'd do such a thing! You do realize your own story makes you sound like the one with borderline personality disorder, right? He's doing all this stuff to you (in your opinion), however, your "accidents" always encourage it. You are not an innocent victim here and he's not doing anything wrong. Ignore him from here on out and quit having "accidents" when it comes to communicating with him.
LeliiMarie612 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Just block him from everything you have. That's one of the first things you do if you really don't want to contact your ex so badly. If you don't block him, then those 'accidents' will keep happening.
Author lourdes_bern Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 Wow, thanks for the support. /sarcasm I understand that I'm also at fault here. I am also mad at myself because I obviously sent him the wrong signals. And yes, they were accidents. I still think he shouldn't have tried to contact me. I'm very bothered now, which is why I vented on here. However, I'm just going to let it go.
Dmoney28 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 im confused about your post. If you dont ever want to hear from him again, why dont you block / remove him from everything. Whether these are actual "accidents" only you know.
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