bodybuilderinnewyork Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Hey all thanks for reading, My ex broke up with me in Mid December, we were in a LDR on her part and she said she wasnt giving this relationship the time or effort that she should have. It was her bday a week before the breakup and I sent something to her island of study and the post office said it would take 18 days to get there. This was the first week of Dec. She contacted me on all the holidays to wish me a good one and even commented on friends and my brothers facebook.(wishing him a happy bday). What is crazy is she hasnt commented on their facebooks in a year or so. Long story short I am kind of seeing this new girl now. Spent my first night there on Saturday and then on Sunday morning I find a text " Hey I got your package it was really nice and thoughtful, thank you:) " I sent her a gift and a really nice card with a note about how much I loved her and missed her. I have been doing so well with NC, been hanging out with friends and going to therapy ( she is very manipulative so I thought i was the one who was crazy) but yea I have been doing great. For some reason she knows to contact me when I am feeling better. I havent gone on facebook since December and never update or tag anything so its not like she can keep tabs on me. Now I feel like I am at square one with when I started NC. Even though I did not respond to her I feel compelled to. I do not know. My friends and family say she is baiting me, what do you think? Thanks again,
meeji Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Actually, she probably just wanted to thank you. I had a lot of packages that I got really late around the xmas season and international shipping was even worse. It didn't sound like she said anything besides thanks for the gift. Maybe you are reading into it more that you should be. Enjoy the new girl and forget about her.
cdt76 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Don't contact her. It was just a thank you. Leave it at that.
MichiganMan222 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 And if she WAS baiting you, not replying to that is NC with a bonus because she's now EXPECTING you to cave. Enjoy it and nice job moving on and finding someone new.
Author bodybuilderinnewyork Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 Actually, she probably just wanted to thank you. I had a lot of packages that I got really late around the xmas season and international shipping was even worse. It didn't sound like she said anything besides thanks for the gift. Maybe you are reading into it more that you should be. Enjoy the new girl and forget about her. Thing is when I did nice stuff for her like this in the past she never contacted me to say thank you or anything like that. She was totally selfish in this regard. But I see what you mean, maybe just looking into it to much.
Author bodybuilderinnewyork Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 Also her facebook commenting the two closest people in my life doesn't help. She broke up because she said she was confused. I did not put up a fight. I just let it be. Didn't beg or plead.
meeji Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 If she wants to get back together I guess she will tell you that. Everything else is mere chitchat. 1
Author bodybuilderinnewyork Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 She is really a stubborn person. In some twisted way I think she likes when I beg but not this time. Iam just finding this really hard. Without going into detail she wasn't a good gf to me at all. Ignored me for no reason, didn't respond to my bday texts emails or calls to her. So its jsut odd she is contacting me. She always forgets or never contacts me at all. I hate being addicted to this drama and bullcrap. She chose her friends over me and totally disrespected me.
gonefishin Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Seems like most exs have this radar that your nearly over them And BANG they come back to mess up.. Sounds like you weren't overly happy with her .. But maybe this new start my be it for u !
Author bodybuilderinnewyork Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Yea its textbook stuff. I know she's toxic for me but Iam still nostalgic for it. I want my heart and emotions to be on the same page.
H3Drvr Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Yea its textbook stuff. I know she's toxic for me but Iam still nostalgic for it. I want my heart and emotions to be on the same page. Sounds like she's on page 100 and counting while your stuck on page 10. Wanna get to and surpass her level? Better get crackin on the reading and move on to the next chapter of YOUR (not hers) life. Just think, if what your reading isn't as interesting as her book, why would she (or any other person) be interested in your novel? 1
lollipop29 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 she probably is writing on their facebooks to hang onto her relationship with you, but the text is probably just a thank you. it's great for you that you aren't going on FB... i know i am guilty of that, and still try to check his mutual friends everyday, even though i already unfriended him. just focus on your new girl and enjoy the honeymoon phase with her. it's the best thing you can do! ignore any text messages from your EX.
Author bodybuilderinnewyork Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 she probably is writing on their facebooks to hang onto her relationship with you, but the text is probably just a thank you. it's great for you that you aren't going on FB... i know i am guilty of that, and still try to check his mutual friends everyday, even though i already unfriended him. just focus on your new girl and enjoy the honeymoon phase with her. it's the best thing you can do! ignore any text messages from your EX. Thanks for replying. Thing is she never thanks me for anything on her own, usually I have to ask her if she got my package or card and she will either say "not yet" or "I got it two weeks ago thanks" She never initiates anything. I guess iam looking to much into it but all my emotions are flooding back when I was doing just fine before
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