Happypuppy Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Had a dream last night, for the third time in a row. It's about my ex, and we are kissing, holding hands and acting like we did in the beginning, all blushing and excited. But we have decided to not be together, he has told me about his baby and things are just sad and romantic, just a big mess. The thing is: It's not just the face of my recent ex. My ex before that is also starring, they just sort of blend in together. And I wake up with a big knot in my stomach and in panic. I actually think this is a sign of healing. I remember dreaming weird dreams about exes mixed together in previous breakups. I think it's my brain trying to take him of his pedestal; trying to show me that he is "just another". Anyone else experiencing this? And when does it end? Sort of sucks, cause I've been doing good, but these dreams make the whole day go gray, the feeling just stick with me. It's been 6 months since I saw him and we broke up btw.
fallenheart Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 ALL the time. I have dreams of all three of the major break-ups of my adult life. Like you, sometimes they meld together. I have a dream journal filled with nightmares about them. While I was dating the last one I was still dreaming about the other one. It sucks. I wake up and feel awful. A particularly vivid or realistic dream can put me a in bad mood all day. For me personally, they never stop. And it's been YEARS.
newguyhere Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Something similar happened to me last night. I had a dream of a previous ex where we just interlaced out fingers and cuddled. Nothing more. I actually woke up missing her. Its been almost 4 years since we broke up lol.
Author Happypuppy Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 Oh my, years even.. I hate those dreams, it makes me think of my recent ex and miss him Wish our heads at least could give us some peace during the night!
Sugarkane Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 After the breakup that sent me here, I used to have dreams that I was at my exes funeral. Because our relationship was dead. Now I can't remember the last timei had one of these dreams.
lourdes_bern Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 About a month after the breakup, I had a dream that my ex proposed to me and I accepted. I remember how fulfilled I felt in the dream and how sad/disturbed I was when I woke up. I also dreamed my ex was trying to kill me after the breakup...just my subconscious trying to sort everything out.
Jingle14 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Constantly, sometimes 5 nights in a row but never less than twice in a week. Almost always we're back together and happy, sometimes I'm really angry but nothing touches him - not my words or my angry fists. It's over a year and a half now and it hardly feels like I've 'moved on' (I hate that phrase, surely it has to happen naturally, whereas it sounds so forced and I can't force myself not to miss him - if only I could), I miss that stupid man every bit as much as I did the day he left me, though my feelings are dead and numb now to enable me to deal with it. I think dreaming must be perfectly normal. Would be nice to think I registered in his subconcious enough for him to occasionally dream about all the lovely times we (generally) had too.
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