nenepii Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 (edited) i like to think that i am a very patient person, but there are some days that . . . i do not know if i am impatient or simply misguided. when you are dating someone, do you introduce your significant other to your family and friends? if so, do you wait for a specific milestone? if you prefer not to, why? i have been dating someone for a little over a year now. i know his immediately family and close friends because he tells me about them, but i do not know anyone in his life--aside from mutual ex-coworkers and his dog--directly. the ex-coworkers speculated of our relationship, but i always denied it since he wanted to keep it under-wraps. i do not know if they asked him about it, but i assume that, if they did, he denied it as well. his dog, well...i am sure that if his dog could speak, i would not have me him, either. we have had a few conversations regarding this, mainly because i get frustrated. several months ago, he entertained the idea of introducing me to his mother, and i was very excited. after some time passed, he retracted and informed me he was not ready to take the relationship to that level yet. since, at that time, we had only been seeing each other for about 5 months, i (thought i) accepted the situation. i have asked him on a couple of occasions why this is, and he tells me it is a personal and cultural matter. personal in that i am his first long relationship, so everything is new to him; cultural in that, in his culture, when you introduce a partner, it is very serious. when he says "very serious" he alludes that is akin to presenting your spouse-to-be. he is honest, so i believe him, but it is hard for me. i am trying to be patient and understanding, but i suppose that sometimes it gets the best of me, which is why it is almost 2AM, and i am here feeling disillusioned again. Edited February 4, 2013 by nenepii
jlindemann Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I'm non-traditional greek, and once dated a traditional greek guy for over a year. He never brought me home to his parents. He also said he had never brought anyone home to his parents before me either, so I shouldn't take it personal. Needless to say we didn't work out, (that's not the reason why). But some very traditional people do wait until they know if this is their "forever" person.
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