lcs Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 My Ex girlfriend and I have been separated for a month now.. she is the one to initiate the break up ( the dumper )... We started to talk again 2 weeks ago, as we went together and have lunch and talk.. so here s the case, since we started to talk again, i don t use no contact but i limited the way i contact her, i can send her a message every 2 weeks or more, she answers quickly to my messages and always respond to them.. but the thing is , she never initiate the convo.. what i want to know is '' can i try to win her back? as she is answering to my messages, or Keep it the way it is ... * She told me she still have feelings for me when we had lunch *we are at the same school and same class, so we see each other everyday *she is not the type of girl who likes to talk a lot especially in Text messages, she was my GF , i know her.. *She always pass next to my locker every time she is goin to class ** i gave those details because maybe they will influence you guys judgement.. Thank You
fungusamungus Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 (edited) She may just not want to text you or want to initiate conversation with you. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but clearly, if you guys are having lunches, and you're texting her, etc. then there is a line of communication there that is very accessible to her and she has no real reason not to use it if she so desired. Edited February 4, 2013 by fungusamungus
progfan71 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Instead of texting, why don't you speak to her on the phone. You said she doesn't enjoy texting, but yet you expect her to initiate a text to you? Besides, texts can be open to interpretation and confuse you both. When you talk on the phone, you get the emotion of what you say reflected in your voice (or hers) and will be able to express yourself better.
Author lcs Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Instead of texting, why don't you speak to her on the phone. You said she doesn't enjoy texting, but yet you expect her to initiate a text to you? Besides, texts can be open to interpretation and confuse you both. When you talk on the phone, you get the emotion of what you say reflected in your voice (or hers) and will be able to express yourself better. She doesn t like to talk to the phone either.. when we were together , it s very rare that we talk on phones because she is not into it... the way i text her can t confuse her because through my texts i show her that i still care about her but she never text me first, even once , even just to say hi ... never .. which makes me confuse because she answers my text quickly like she was waiting for it, but i guess i won t do it until she text me first ..
progfan71 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 It can take time for her to initiate contact with you. Since she is responding to your communication quickly, don't mess things up by changing anything. The next step is to go out on a second lunch/dinner date. Take it slowly. Don't rush things.
Author lcs Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 It can take time for her to initiate contact with you. Since she is responding to your communication quickly, don't mess things up by changing anything. The next step is to go out on a second lunch/dinner date. Take it slowly. Don't rush things. But don t you think that it will be better for me to wait for her to do so because she knows that i still care, she knows it.. ive shown it to her .. it s just i wanna stop texting her because if really she is interested in me she will try to text me when she will realize that i dn t anymore... Valentines day is coming very soon, i guess she is waiting a text from me , but i won t .. maybe that will put a question mark in her head, and what if she didn t care ? it doesn t matter.. BUT I guess it s better though to not text her anymore because now , i can feel that i dn t have the huge desire of texting her as i had it in the first weeks that we broke up.. Maybe i will move on, and if she come back i think she will still have a place and if she doesn t , i will still be fine ..
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