heartbrokengirl1 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 hi. me and my boyfriend went out for a year, our anniversary is actually when it all started going wrong. we were trying to go to college together and he got into our dream school and i didn't. i became very bitter and angry and mean and separated myself from all my friends and him and then we got into a fight and i got so fed up and broke it off. clearly i didnt really want it to end and then after vacation we hung out and hooked up again and he thought we were going out again but i never actually asked him out so when he said something about it i said we werent going out. he said he wanted nothing to do with me and i didnt know what i did and he completely ignored every attempt i made to contact him for the next two weeks. finally he answered and said maybe we could take a break until spring break and then maybe get back together but i didnt want to take a break so i said we should just end it. i was so miserable and had no one to hang out with so i asked a guy that i had hooked up with two years ago to hang out and i went to his house and there were other people there but my boyfriend is extremely jealous and when he heard this and that i was even thinking about if hooking up with this guy would help me move on he was really done forever. he says there is no chance that we will ever go out again. he was my best friend in the world and i know everyone says this but i really dont and wont ever want to be with anyone else. i havent spoken to him in two weeks and i really cant imagine never speaking again. he said he is happy now without me so im trying to let him be happy but this is the longest weve ever gone without speaking. do you think that somewhere down the road he will realize that despite being hurt he still wants to be with me? i know how much i messed up but i really love him and would do anything to be with him. we have broken up before but this is really like the worst thing in his mind i could do next to cheating and i dont think he would let himself give me another chance. i cant move on because he is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with.
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 hi. me and my boyfriend went out for a year, our anniversary is actually when it all started going wrong. we were trying to go to college together and he got into our dream school and i didn't. i became very bitter and angry and mean and separated myself from all my friends and him and then we got into a fight and i got so fed up and broke it off. clearly i didnt really want it to end and then after vacation we hung out and hooked up again and he thought we were going out again but i never actually asked him out so when he said something about it i said we werent going out. he said he wanted nothing to do with me and i didnt know what i did and he completely ignored every attempt i made to contact him for the next two weeks. finally he answered and said maybe we could take a break until spring break and then maybe get back together but i didnt want to take a break so i said we should just end it. i was so miserable and had no one to hang out with so i asked a guy that i had hooked up with two years ago to hang out and i went to his house and there were other people there but my boyfriend is extremely jealous and when he heard this and that i was even thinking about if hooking up with this guy would help me move on he was really done forever. he says there is no chance that we will ever go out again. he was my best friend in the world and i know everyone says this but i really dont and wont ever want to be with anyone else. i havent spoken to him in two weeks and i really cant imagine never speaking again. he said he is happy now without me so im trying to let him be happy but this is the longest weve ever gone without speaking. do you think that somewhere down the road he will realize that despite being hurt he still wants to be with me? i know how much i messed up but i really love him and would do anything to be with him. we have broken up before but this is really like the worst thing in his mind i could do next to cheating and i dont think he would let himself give me another chance. i cant move on because he is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with. fixed the block of text for you.
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 First of all, it's "My Boyfriend and I"...... Secondly, how old are you?
Author heartbrokengirl1 Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 17... can someone please help
Keenly Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 You did this to yourself.... you were being selfish and petty and you pushed him away.... he tried to get you yo come back and then you pushed him even further away... and then once mote... he's gone.
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I thought as much. Honey, read your post again. You acted like a petulant, spoilt brat. Even your thread title screams "pay attention to me!" You kept dumping him, acting the prissy miss and then kept stamping your foot like a silly airhead when he wouldn't pay attention to you. he has gone no contact because you were being childish and behaving like a prima donna. And honestly - anyone reading your post couldn't blame him. You need to modify your attitude and do a bit of growing up before you venture into the world of dating. You just don't treat people that way. it's disrespectful and the world doesn't revolve around you. before you begin dating again - and i really wouldn't even think of any remote possibility of him coming back, if he's wise..you should consider what makes you desirable material - and what is a total turn-off. And rude, inconsiderate and selfish behaviour is a no-no in anyone's book.
Author heartbrokengirl1 Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 alright. i tried to make the title a bunch of other things but this website wouldn't let me.. i understand that what i did was wrong but i was having a really rough month especially since it meant that we weren't going to be together next year and i made a lot of mistakes but i know that he still loves me i was just asking if anyone thinks he might miss me and come back since we've never not spoken for more than two weeks and he really does love me.
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Nobody treats the love of their lives the way you did and gets away with it. 'Bad month' is no excuse. You're going to have a heck of a lot more bad months in your life and learning to handle yourself and not lash out and be a bully to those who care for you is a priority now. You'll just have to wait and see if he cracks - but don't expect to be able to pick up where you left off. And I don't think renewing your relationship will even be on the cards. you need to focus on you, and moving on. Consider it a sharp learning curve. 1
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