youngnlove89 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 "Are we going to that Super Bowl party today?" "No I don't feel like it anymore, I'm tired and just want to be by myself" "But you promised!" "It's just a party, who cares, you can still go if you want" "Whatever, I don't care anymore!" slams the door and leaves. It wasn't always like that. Wherever he went, I went. He used to be my everything, my rock. Crazy special. Madly in love. The guy I thought could never exist. But as time went on, from one stage to the next, that path that started off as innocent and fun, has taken us to this. Stage one: Meeting each other for the first time. You get the butterflies, you stand in the mirror for an hour primping and practicing your perfect smile. Checking your teeth, checking every inch of you to make sure you look perfect for them. First impression is everything. Your giggly, constantly smiling and wondering if they feel the same way. Stage two: The chase. You want to know everything about them. Every time they call, you jump and answer it right away. You always are texting each other and chatting for hours. They become the only person you have attention for. You always want to be with them and they become your number one priority. Stage three: Honeymoon. This stage is the best, where infatuation becomes love. Butterflies, kissing, cuddling, holding each other. Constantly gazing into each others eyes. Laughing. Going places together, doing everything together. Sheer intimacy and pure bliss. The most unforgettable stage. The stage you'll find yourself looking back on one day. Stage four: Comfort. You can either grow closer or allow it to create distance. This stage is the stage we started to take each other for granted. I wasn't always anxious to pick up his call. Didn't get butterflies anymore when I went to his house. Didn't always keep that promise I made. A stage that can make a person change over time. Bottom line: someone stops trying. Whether it is a few months or a few years. Stage five: Tolerance. I used to be crazy about him and now he wasn't that special anymore. Bickering, not caring. Arguing about stupid things and feeling dissatisfied with the relationship. Trying to fix things or make changes, but it wasn't enough. Our relationship wasn't bad, but it wasn't great. And that is never a good way to describe a relationship. Stage six: Downhill. There isn't much time left once you are here. The effort isn't worth it anymore. Arguments continue. They get worse. You grow apart, do things on your own without each other. You feel them slipping away and you find yourself not caring about it. And you think back now and ask yourself, "What did we really argue about?" Was it really that important? Stage seven: The breakup. How? When? Why? How did you get here? When did it happen? Why did it happen to us? You both hope to leave on good terms, mutual terms, but that is hardly ever the case. "I think it's for the best" - they say. But is it really? This is where you both start new paths. Starting from where you first began: Strangers. The change will be so blunt and drastic that at first you will probably want to get back together again just to restore what is normal. "I miss you." But that doesn't always work out. You don't always get back together. And the distance will grow. The silence will stretch and it will never be the same again. Your lives will continue on in different directions towards the inevitable end, strangers again. And everything you shared will just become fragmented memories from so long ago you'll question if it even really happened. All that will be left is a box of random things from a faded period of time when this stranger was the most important person in your life. All those memories stuffed into an old shoe box underneath your bed. Until one day, you find yourself cleaning your room and you remember that old shoe box underneath your bed. And you find this note he once wrote you inside: Hey babe, You are the most amazing girl I've ever met. I love how we can always make each other laugh and have the best time ever together. You are so special to me. You are such a beautiful unique person and I'm so lucky to have you in my life. I love you. Always and forever. Do you realize their are only two options in a relationship? Break up or be together forever. What do you think will happen? If you don't end up together, will you hate each other? Will you keep in touch? Will you just become strangers? He once told me, "I think that if life separates us for whatever reason and we end up in different places, I'll always remember when our lives aligned in this time and I'll be thankful for that and I'll hope that wherever you are, you'll be thankful too. I think that is the best we can hope for." I basically wrote out the video from Youtube and changed it a little bit. I find it sooo true and I think everyone should go watch it! Make sure you have some tissues on hand! Go watch the video, WongFuProductions, "Strangers, again"
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