jags2bowl27 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Hey guys i need some suggestions here... I was afraid of this happening and its starting to happen. I was talking to a girl for 2 weeks, she was texting me ALL DAY and i know from the past thats not always a good thing. I figured she was doing it due to her being bored. She drove 2 hrs to see me and we had a great time, we hit it off, had fun, ended with us watching a movie and kissing on the first date. She drove home that night. The one thing I knew i would have to look out for is her just dumping her guy. Its too soon, I know that with being only 5 months removed from my LTR. I didnt want to get attached and i feel like thats what was happeing, I fall quick. Anyways, she was supposed to drive up this weekend to go to a bball game with me. Instead, she decided to come up the day before with a friend to go out?? She didnt say anything about it until I texted her asking her how her night was going. I called the next day to see if she was still coming and she said she was hung over and her keys were in her friends purse that was at work. I just replied, "That sucks, there is always next time." I think i might have been coming on too strong. Shes moving to where i live in a few months and i really think there could be something there. She might just be bored and trying to fill the void. I have not heard from her and I think she knows I like her so now she has backed off. Any advice?
chrisftw Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 you like me need to learn how to stay away from women who are fresh out of a LTR.. doesn't matter who broke up with who. feelings are ever present. regardless and can always resurface very easily at any given time. of course there are always exceptions to the rule as well. but those are far and few between.
Author jags2bowl27 Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 you like me need to learn how to stay away from women who are fresh out of a LTR.. doesn't matter who broke up with who. feelings are ever present. regardless and can always resurface very easily at any given time. of course there are always exceptions to the rule as well. but those are far and few between. so knowing that she is 6 months away from moving here, i think that might give her time to cope... what do you think i should play it out here
chrisftw Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 if she's going to be moving to where you're at in 6 months. then yeah i would keep conversation REALLY sparse. be present but not overly so. express a FAINT intrest and look elsewhere for the time being. unless she makes major moves in your direction don't make any yourself honestly. and always take everything at face value.
Author jags2bowl27 Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 if she's going to be moving to where you're at in 6 months. then yeah i would keep conversation REALLY sparse. be present but not overly so. express a FAINT intrest and look elsewhere for the time being. unless she makes major moves in your direction don't make any yourself honestly. and always take everything at face value. It's crazy cause she would text me everyday and now nothing, she hasn't texted me since she kinda stood me up yesterday, should I just wait until she texts me
ja123 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 She's giving you mixed messages because she wants to to entertain her when she's got nothing else on; but, clearly you're an option, and it sounds like she's not relationship material at this point. If all you want is a roll in the hay (and can keep your emtions out of it!), then sure ... go for it! Otherwise, if you want a GF, then move on and fast!
chrisftw Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 It's crazy cause she would text me everyday and now nothing, she hasn't texted me since she kinda stood me up yesterday, should I just wait until she texts me She's giving you mixed messages because she wants to to entertain her when she's got nothing else on; but, clearly you're an option, and it sounds like she's not relationship material at this point. If all you want is a roll in the hay (and can keep your emtions out of it!), then sure ... go for it! Otherwise, if you want a GF, then move on and fast! pretty much this.. pat yourself on the back because you're attractive enough to be an OPTION. but not enough to actually be the one she wants RIGHT NOW. that can change though.. to where she see's you as her man. but right now totally unlikely. but women and even men out of LTR's that is just ground you do not tread on. not until the name of their ex is a faint memory and they refer to them as 'EX' not the super cool guy who's totally awesome along with his mom and dad. yeah i'm a bit jaded because of a most recent experience. but the fact remains. thread carefully.
Author jags2bowl27 Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 Yeah I knew going into it that this was how it could play out but I think I scared her away because I was getting too close too quickly. All I know is when she was here it felt right
Author jags2bowl27 Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 so today she texted me and told me that she was going to be in town and invited me to go out with her and her friend or if i dont want to come, she will swing by to grab something she left at my house.... I took that as she just wants her shirt back? Am I being too dramatic? I kept my distance and just told her i would def leave it at the house so she could get it and wished her a good day and she replied, Thanks, you too! The whole tone has switched... I dont want to be the one to budge but i do think i might have moved to quick, attached too quickly. is it appropriate to apologize or did I do nothing wrong? I mean i did kiss her on the first date and asked to hang all the time within 2 weeks. whatcha think?
Author jags2bowl27 Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 bump, any suggestions guys? things have gone silent
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